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RedMagic1 -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/6/2009 5:30:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly yes the first time..but I'm talking about the second chance, maybe I misread..but well..anyhow..my opinion stands. Oh, jeez, sorry. I wasn't trying to "correct" you. I was saying the situation is even worse than what you said. I agree with you about the stalkeristic behavior 100%.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/6/2009 5:40:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thatstheway As the story goes and so does life, life goes on, move on, and get over it. I beg to differ in my case. So it would appear. Almost 2 years ago I met a mistress at Club XIT. I felt something as she flogged me for the first time, as it was my first. So have many others. And as she grabbed me with her hands after and (I) felt chills go down my spine. I need to regain the trust of this beautiful mistress as I need her more than I think. I crave the feeling of her whip against my back like a rat does cheese. I disrespected he and accused her of doing something that shall not be discussed in here. But the point is, I am the reason that communication was cutoff and I am the one that was unable to fix it. Indeed....been there...done that. (Sometimes it's just a fucking "guy" thing). She gave me another chance (yeah...they do that) and I was unable to fulfill it on my behalf (shit happens). Get over it....there's lot's of chics out there....you can be sub....and still be capable of moving on...it's all good. Ain't nothing in the "sub handbook" that says you have to be a munchkin. What is there that I can do to get her back? See above...move on. "NEXT???!!!!"

LadyHibiscus -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 12:02:31 AM)
Holy MOLY you messed up with BSB??? Well, I don't blame you for feeling badly... but NO MEANS NO. Get a grip, get a life.

Kana -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 12:28:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch Do you realize how rare that is for a submissive male to have an experience like you were lucky enough to have right out of the gate like that? ESPECIALLY because it wasn't like you went to a Pro Domme. There are men on here that have been fantasizing about an experience like that their entire lives and never experience it. I gave you a huge opportunity at a second chance, but you blew it again. I even had HouseBitch walk you through your assignment, almost step by step, but you failed to follow almost any of my instructions. You might want to try looking at this from a different angle: You walked into a BDSM club at 19 years old for the first time and met 2 beautiful Dommes. You were cute and because ASD wanted to see me do it, I flogged you, beat you, and spent a little time with you. Then I saw you once or twice after that night. Why not consider yourself richer for the experience and move on? Here's a few clues as to why there will NEVER be anything between you and I. Clue #1: You have a pessimistic, victim's mentality. I view you as unpredictable, volatile, and a slacker. Why not go to college, support yourself completely, change your attitude from, "Poor me. All of my friends have let me down," to "Everyone has their own shit and their own lives to live and it's all good." You know all those pain in the ass things your parents bug you about? They are right. You are wrong. Do what they say. Clue #2: In case you failed to notice, I am more than 20 years older than you and frankly, I am just not a Cougar. Clue #3: If you want to be with a woman like me, become the kind of man that attracts woman like me. And just to answer the last 50 or so random texts you have sent me asking me how I am: *I'm doing great.* (edited to add: obviously in reply to the OP, not DarkSteven) Applause

LadyPact -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 1:57:45 AM)
Just returning from play time in Atlanta, so My head might be buzzing too much to have read this correctly. You, OP, were fortunate enough to have your first scene with BSB and you blew this opportunity? And, you further went on to be nasty to her afterwards? Not once, but twice? If I may........ You aren't getting her back. She was never yours to begin with. Take the experience you were lucky enough to have her give you, and be thankful. Learn from what happened. She introduced you to this BDSM world. She now has the same place in your life as many would see the first time they had sex. You will never forget her. She now has a place in your history. Honor that and don't be an asshole to her anymore. Certain people might take offense if you continue. Thank her for her time, let her be a wonderful memory, and move along now.

Politesub53 -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 2:50:35 AM)
I cant understand how anyone could mess up a relationship with someone they really liked twice. Once would be bad enough, and to mess up a second go with someone is unforgivable. Why would anyone subject themselves to the likelihood of more problems for a third time ?

chiaThePet -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 10:45:38 AM)
Make her turn over? What? chia* (the pet)

MsFlutter -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 11:05:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus There are no second chances in my world. What she said !

sweetsub1957 -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 11:30:50 AM)
thatstheway, She already gave you a second chance. i felt chills and thrills with my first experience, too, and i will never forget it as long as i live. i'm sure it's not all that uncommon. What you need to do now is thank Her profusely for introducing you to BDSM and then move on. It's obvious She does not want any more to do with you, She said as much in this thread, and you should refrain from being a stalker. i know this may sound harsh, but that's the way it is sometimes. Good luck in finding another Lady to serve & just make sure it's with Her interests at heart.

NihilusZero -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 12:46:14 PM)
You don't get her back because your sincere appraisal of things and your respect of her would tell you: she deserves better than what you've given. It's not meant to be a put-down. It's something that you need to reflect on moving forward, understanding why you did what you did, why you didn't do what you were supposed to and the reasons behind both. Unless you are fond of Dommes who would make themselves fools multiple times over just to sate the sub's fantasies. You take this thread and the way you cast her in it (positive, experienced, alluring, unforgettable, composed, firm yet forgiving) and you treat it as a final parting gift to her which shows, publicly, how marvelous you think she is and how foolish you realize you've been to have squandered that beauty. That way, it can at least provide some inner solace that, as your final act, you did something respectful and honoring to her which, at least in the aftermath, will counteract the selfish disobedience you'd shown her before.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 1:14:50 PM)
I couldn't have put it better myself. (applause)

Vendaval -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/7/2009 4:35:28 PM)
Having dealt with a situation like this myself there are a few choice words I want to add. thatstheway, What the Hell were you thinking taking this situation public? Are you without any form of common sense what so ever? All you have done is manage to paint a big red X on your forehead for as a warning for any and all women on these boards. Your looser behavior toward BSB was inexcusable to begin with and now everyone here knows just how badly you have behaved. And this kind of stalking, reality-TV, pathetic worm behavior is not attractive to anyone. Get some common sense, decency, manners and basic understanding of human social behaviors and maybe you will have some remote chance of having a life someday.

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/8/2009 12:26:28 AM)
Did he mention who the lady in question was at some point, and I missed it? M

Politesub53 -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/8/2009 2:34:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1 Did he mention who the lady in question was at some point, and I missed it? M See post 16 Ma`am. [;)]

hlen5 -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/8/2009 2:57:53 AM)
You might want to look at why you sabotaged something that meant so much to you. Why did you do that? And you dissed BSB? TWICE???

PeonForHer -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/8/2009 5:21:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1 Did he mention who the lady in question was at some point, and I missed it? M No, but the lady herself did.

frankieboy52 -> RE: How do I get her back? (6/8/2009 5:57:49 AM)
i would give my left nut(not literally..a figure of speech)to have experienced what the OP experienced and with BSB to boot.I don't know BSB personally nor have i ever contacted her but it appears that there are standard procedures and rules we all must follow.Obviously,he didn't.Regarding second chances....i wouldn't want one...there would be too much pressure and it just wouldn't feel right although i would be eternally grateful for it...but one just has to let go and forget it all.

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