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"Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 10:52:02 AM

CollaredLisa

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I was wondering what daily rituals, or little task you like to do or have someone do within your relationships and why. I'm especially interested in non-sexual things.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 10:53:29 AM

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Showers, I love the feeling of being washed, head to toe.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 11:04:01 AM

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Afternoon tea is near and dear to me. It doesn't necessarily have to include tea (yes, I know--sacrilege) but that process of coming home, sitting down, and having someone bring a nice beverage (I -do- prefer tea... Earl Grey, please, with real local cream and coconut sugar. I know it isn't supposed to be served with cream, but I can't resist -- it's just so yummy!), slipping off my shoes and socks (and bringing slippers in the winter), and taking a half hour to review the day and what is to come in the evening is just fan-tab-u-lous!

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 11:15:45 AM

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hmmm...I don't think we have any.

I make sure he has something for dinner and clean clothes (wow, that sounded very vanilla).

I wish we had something like this or protocols, but it never seems to work out.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 11:22:15 AM

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I do push ups, leg lifts, and practice my salsa spins every day. He wants me to look good both in general and wants us to be able to show off a little at the dance parties...

That being said, I do with for a little more structure sometimes. And even if they are totally mundane tasks (scrubbing the floor for example), if I were doing it as part of a ritual or protocol handed down to me by him, it would be much less of a chore.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 12:33:36 PM

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I send him a message every morning when I wake up, to let him know I'm up for the day.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 12:44:33 PM

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Giving massages and bathing.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 12:58:41 PM

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For us, we have no obvious "rituals" per se. Carol doesn't really need to feel "owned" and I don't need the reinforcement to feel that she's mine. Or maybe put differently, the way she feels safe and secure (read that as owned) is that I, in fact, control her entire life. For us, at least, whether she knelt or not is really kind of trivial in comparison.

I also second Ash's statement. Sometimes I command her into the shower with me and we love that.

CallaFirestormBW: Yup :) I like tea to although it's not a ritual. And yeah, I'm a heathen and put cream in it.

sleazybutterfly: Yeah, that's about the level of ritual in our house too. But we're avowed vanilla people so I suppose that makes sense *laughs*.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 1:21:49 PM

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We don't have any "rituals" per se but daily habits, yes. (See the Domestic thread ) Making the coffee and His lunch in the morning, a hot cooked dinner of His favourite foods, that sort of thing.

Me, I'm a greedy brat at times and know it, as does He. I need those feelings of being owned, cherished and HIS. Hence the collar and wedding rings, plus any jewelry or "bling" He's given me. I don't just make a statement about being owned and His but shout it out loud and proud.

Now, about this "heathen" practice of cream in tea? Uhhhh, I went to school in Australia where I got hooked on it. It was standard when you got a cuppa to be asked "black or white?" I always take 2 sugars and milk in my tea, have for more years than I'd care to admit.

Ah, the day just isn't a day without my tea!

(As I sip on my orange pekoe as I type this.....)

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 1:47:52 PM

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On the tea note, who's the mif and who's the tif....LOL!

No rituals for me except to have one can of diet Mountain Dew in order to wake up. Coffee makes me sick. In the evenings, meds after dinner. Rest of the time I am on the computer, listening to TV and making sure the elderly cocker spaniel goes out for potty time.

Daym I am so 'nilla...I need a Dom!

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 2:04:27 PM

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Make his tea and put it in the kitchen at his seat. Then wake him up and tell him it's out there waiting for him. But he's self employed so this is only for days when our schedules coincide.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 2:35:58 PM

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He kneels for me when I come home from work. If I'm wearing boots, he will remove them.
Every weeknight he comes upstairs at 10 pm to say goodnight to me before bed. (weekends the time varies)

There are also domestic things he does daily, but the above are protocol in my house.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 3:12:59 PM

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Well, I guess our primary ritual would be me greeting my Owner when she gets home from work on my knees, usually with a cup of coffee in her hands.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 5:21:34 PM

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well when Master and I are together some of the rituals are I must wait for permission to sit down, even in a restaraunt or at the mall. Usually I just stand until he gives a slight nod and then I sit down. I wait until he's started eating to eat, I serve him first if I'm making dinner. Master; because of his diabetes; has to have his shoes tied a certain way, he taught me how and now it's my job to tie his shoes for him, that was a task I asked for and one that I enjoy. It's usually just little things like that

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 6:08:02 PM

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If we have to leave our home during the other is sleeping, we write little notes, usally with something painted in it and lay them beside the sleeping one. So if they wake up alone, they see the note first.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 7:50:25 PM

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As Master's sub, the rituals are:
* asking permission to go to the toilet as long as He is within discreet hearing distance and NOT on the telephone
* curtsey as i serve His meals as long as my knees are up to it (some days they're not!)
* keeping all His things on my right ... His plate as i am serving, His full fat milk in the fridge is always on the right of my lowfat milk etc ... as Master is always right
* serving His food first and giving it to Him first
* always asking Him first if He wants anything when i want a drink or a snack
* keeping Him informed of where i am and what i am going to do eg just going into my study to do some work, is that OK?
* allowing Him to dish out the chocolate ... He has this marvellous self-control that can dish out just a few squares and put the rest away! i'm not allowed to touch it LOL!
* the one i do worst on is serving meals at the time He wants them ... i have this real bad habit of getting immersed in my work and forgetting the time ... but He is very understanding of that (perhaps a bit too understanding actually!)

These work for us and aren't too onerous.
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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 9:04:11 PM

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At the end of all of our phone calls, after the usual "I love you's", Josephine always tells me to "sleep well." I think it's sweet.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/8/2009 9:49:43 PM

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Reciting my list of affirmations in the morning.
Completing an exercise routine during the day
Taking a picture of the day to send to Sir
Climaxing the correct number of times that day.
Completeing whatever the days task is, if I have one.
Saying my prayer to Sir before bed.

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/9/2009 2:21:30 AM

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As Master Charles lives in the US and i live in New Zealand, He calls me every single day and i tell Him everything i have done - every sexual thought or fantasy i have had about Him, and whether i have played with my toy and have cum, and if so, how many times. As i am saving for airfare to Pennsylvania, where He lives, and He knows i can be rather extravagant with purchases (Chanel makeup, etc, $200 bottles of perfume - that is my weakness, one of the things that we are working on), a requirement is that i tell Him every time i want to make an extravagant purchase (non-essentials of course, stuff that i don't REALLY need), i tell Him what the item is (designer stuff, more sex toys, etc) and the price, and i do what He says

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RE: "Daily Rituals" - 6/9/2009 2:57:56 AM

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A big surprise to the regular posters. We have a few around here.

The morning ritual is that clip tells Me immediately in the morning that he has taken his meds. Other than good morning, that is to be the first thing out of him.

Next is My morning caffeine. It is brought to Me at My desk so I can read the morning correspondence. It's offered to Me by the palm of his hand, with the other hand on the side to steady the glass.

For breakfast and all other meals, My plate is made first and I begin to eat before he does.

Permission is asked to sit at My feet.

Permission is asked should he need to leave the room, to include the bathroom.

I am greeted upon My arrival home with clip kneeling just inside the front door. Diet pepsi in the palm of his hand, the same as morning caffeine.

My sub is required to put on, and take off, all of My shoes.

My sub is required to kneel any time he needs to change from one collar to another. The collar that is removed is kissed when it is taken off. The collar going on is kissed before he is permitted to wear it around his neck.

When home, My sub is required to ask to go to bed, and is to present himself before sleep on his knees so that I may kiss his forehead.

My sub is required to open all doors for Me, including car doors if we are out together somewhere.

Prior to play, clip is required to present his leather restraints. Any new toy that I may have acquired, he kisses before I will use it on him.

I'm sure there's more. It's early and I'm forgetful.

Edited for a mistake regarding times he is required to have My drink for Me.

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