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RE: feeling down - 6/10/2009 7:30:25 AM

lovingpet

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ORIGINAL: Dannigirl

I get so paranoid if i know he is around and does not comunicate, which is daft as he says he loves me to bits.

I used to do this too and not that long ago either. I can't explain it even now. I just hated he was right within reach, but for some reason didn't get in touch. It always turned out to be a very good reason and I only recently progressed to not being so hung up on this, but I understand.

I am glad things are a bit better for you. Just remember, this too shall pass.

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RE: feeling down - 6/10/2009 8:49:40 AM

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Keeping yourself busy is the best thing. In the beginning I would get so sad and would hang on to him at the airpor ttill the very last minute, but over time...the more I saw Him , the less i felt the pain. My feelings of never wanting to leave are always there, but I just think I'll see him again. We talk almost daily so its not that bad...its when I really need him (a rarity) and hes not there, that I curse the distance. Such is life.

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RE: feeling down - 6/10/2009 9:02:15 AM

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I used to cling to Daddy too when he was getting ready to get in the car and drive 2 hours home, but I noticed the more I clung and if I cried cause I felt sad, it made our parting harder, and hurt him a lot He felt he was a failure for having to leave me to go back home and to his job. I learned not to cry and to cling but to try and be brave and hug him and kiss him and say bye bye daddy drive safe hear from you soon, with a cheerful demeanor not a teary eyed one.

Oh I still went inside and cried or was lonly but I didnt make that the last memory of me he had before going home:)

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ORIGINAL: greenearth21

Keeping yourself busy is the best thing. In the beginning I would get so sad and would hang on to him at the airpor ttill the very last minute, but over time...the more I saw Him , the less i felt the pain. My feelings of never wanting to leave are always there, but I just think I'll see him again. We talk almost daily so its not that bad...its when I really need him (a rarity) and hes not there, that I curse the distance. Such is life.

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RE: feeling down - 7/7/2009 3:16:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dannigirl

i am new to message boards but just wanted to ask this, how do you other slaves deal with the terrible feelings of loss and lonliness when your Master had to go home. Master and i do not live together but he came to stay last weekend, but when it was time to go i just wanted to curl up in a ball and sob. I know he will be back and is always saying he loves me and i need not worry but i just feel so alone.

I feel your pain, literally. Big hugs from me. That's all I got to give you. But feel free to CM me if you just need to talk. Sometimes listening to OTHER people helps ME feel better and I'm feeling pretty UGH now too over the same thing.

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RE: feeling down - 7/7/2009 4:04:02 PM

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Aww, many HUGS to you via virtual reality, haha.

Buck up! Keep yourself busy. Read, clean, exercise, keep your focus on something else. Find your zen! Mine is jogging while blasting music in my ears and just let my mind go blank.

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RE: feeling down - 7/8/2009 5:21:49 PM

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This is a new one on me too.

I knew what it was though instantly, i screamed, shouted, cried, sent him a text message(which he answered).

Ive spent most of the evening working or playing scrabble, trying to get so exhausted that i'll sleep. I'll be ok in the morning.

The joys of being sub and letting someone inside our heads, smiles.

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RE: feeling down - 7/8/2009 5:45:18 PM

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I am new here as well. I experience the same thing as you. Can't decide if I'm smart or terrible stupid.

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RE: feeling down - 7/9/2009 5:55:37 PM

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Instead of dwelling on the negative, look at the positive

You have a man that loves you who constantly you that you are loved
You have a Master who will be back

Many people dont have Masters
Many people don't have people that love them or tell them so
Many people have no one that will be comming some

Consider yourself blessed
Consider yourself alive

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RE: feeling down - 7/10/2009 5:02:20 AM

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.....FR..

..and it's better than heaving a sigh of relief and thinking * Thanks FUCK he's gone!*, isn't it?

Marginally, at least ......lol

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RE: feeling down - 7/10/2009 5:42:31 AM

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My Husband used to work at sea, six weeks gone/4 weeks home, i used to kinda like the drama and wallow in it a bit when He left and then i would get on with my life and friends and stuff, we'd keep in touch with e mail or marsat phone, when he'd come back we'd have to get used to each other again...sometimes i found the drama of the parting easier to deal with than the adjusting to be together again... sometimes the home coming went with too many high expectations and we ended up arguing soon after...
I am glad my Husband has a 'normal' job now but sometimes i miss the drama feeling of missing Him so much...
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