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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/9/2009 12:33:20 PM

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oh kit, leave the poor shy people alone. They are always great with me as I can blather on endlessly and they are non judgemental and like that it lets them off the hook. I like shy people and they at least pretend to like me!!

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/9/2009 12:48:10 PM

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Shy or brash, or a little bit of both, it's all good :-) .

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/9/2009 5:50:57 PM

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He found it cute, it gave more of a teacher/student dynamic which always worked for us. It was also something he could focus on improving in me, working on my self esteem, helping me feel safe to talk to him.

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/9/2009 6:11:52 PM

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me too. Before i met Sir, i would get shy and turn red if i even had to ask for or mention certain sexual things...it was almost impossible to pull them out of me, and the D-types thought it was cute. i thought it was extremely discomforting. lol So i knew some D-types thought it was cute, but i have no idea why.

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/9/2009 6:27:47 PM

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Mine adores my shyness, which seems pretty well incurable LOL! Ask the gang at the club. ;)

No matter how many times I go through the same asking, talking, or whatever, I blush and get all backward. I don't know that I consider it poor self esteem, just a soft and eternally naive demeanour. Given our dynamics, it works out quite well and they certainly enjoy seeing that little blush slowly creep from my ears all the way down my body. Yes a whole body blush, how embarrassing! Or how sweet and cute! It's all in the perspective I suppose.

Remember, a lot of the naughty domly ones love to see the squirming and nerves. A bit sadistic and of course just a little unfair, but isn't that what makes it so yummy when you get to feeling that way in front of one that trips your trigger?

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/9/2009 6:55:38 PM

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I tend to be a little introverted myself, so it's nice if I find someone who doesn't need a ton of attention all the time from everyone.

Other than that, there can be some nice contrasts with a shy partner. When she has moments where she feels confident and comfortable it can be like a little "blossoming" moment.

I also had a partner once who was really shy but had one of the dirtiest minds that I've ever known personally. That was a delicious contrast.

Sometimes maybe shy people miss out on some experiences early on in life.
That can wind the spring even tighter! That's not necessarily always the case though. Sometimes under the calm exterior lurks an utterly placid interior.

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/9/2009 11:04:40 PM

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REALLY, under this brash exterior is a shy person begging to get out!

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/10/2009 4:26:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: Roguescharm

What's the appeal?
I'm just curious since I tend to be pretty shy myself and absolutely hate it. I am trying to do my best to up my self confidence and esteem, however a Dom I know was telling me about how some Masters like shy girls and lately I've been wondering why.

You're waaaaay over-simplifying....

I've always been attracted to soft and girly traits in women - that's *my* definition of what feminine is. Brash neon glamour just doesn't do it for me and don't get me started on modern fashion embracing tattoos and body piercings. Tatts esp are feral and masculine, IMO, though at least piercings can be discarded.

"Soft and girly" girls tend to be modest and shy, too - endearing qualities in one who defers and obeys. There's a lot more going on in my perceptions than merely "shy".

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/10/2009 5:33:39 AM

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Its a matter of definition of altruism.

Some oders a master gives are not actual useful ones.... for example, please me with youre mouth...hey, no discussion about that.
But when i order, take of youre bra or top in public...its not because i want to see the well known breasts but to see her struggling with herself to follow the order. And the struggling is much harder by a shy girl than by an open one. And my pleasure as a master is to see her in psychological agony, and, in seeing her overcome her fears and limits and to do so.

Sorry if the vocabulary is`nt adequat, i am no native speaker

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/10/2009 6:10:59 AM

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Thing is, many are situationally shy. Regardless of how outgoing I may be at times or how at ease at public speaking. I was raised a certain way. If one ordered me to takemy top off in public,I am going to turn 20 shades of red and be rendered speachless. Anything stepping out of what I have come to believe as right or wrong. So I wouldnt assume that only shy people behave in a shy way. We all have comfort zones and things that make us uncomfortable. Call it situationally shy or whatever. But I wouldnt say that only shy girls are sweet or quiet or soft or girly.

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/10/2009 8:28:16 AM

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Master loves it when I blush and whisper, "yes Master" when he tells me to do something sexual or new. He keeps a track of how red I get

That. For whatever reason, intense blushing is one of the things I find hot. Shy doesn't automatically translate to a lot of blushing... but usually it seems to.

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/10/2009 11:54:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: Roguescharm
What's the appeal?
I'm just curious since I tend to be pretty shy myself and absolutely hate it. I am trying to do my best to up my self confidence and esteem, however a Dom I know was telling me about how some Masters like shy girls and lately I've been wondering why.

Dunno.

I like submissive subs. Whether she calms herself down or steels herself up to obey doesn't much matter...

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/10/2009 7:10:48 PM

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From my perspective, the shy ones tend to get aroused as they begin to trust the Dom. I consider it a compliment when a shy novice has developed the ability to surrender upon command. Robert

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/10/2009 9:10:41 PM

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I don't know. I've never met a master who told me he specifically liked shy subs. I was very shy as a child and finally realized I missed out on too much and it was time to get over that. I find after a person has seen me naked I'm considerably less shy around them...be it a partner or someone who just happens to be in the playspace. lol

I have very little to no shame and I've never had a master complain. ;) But I'm not brash, obnoxious, or even all that loud either. With everything there is probably shades of gray a million miles long.

I do see shyness as a more submissive or even childish (not in a bad way just that whole hiding behind mom's leg thing.)

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/11/2009 10:15:50 PM

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Oh my, shyness can be quite the turn on.
The vulnerability, the thing that makes me want to close my arms and protect and shelter...and possess and control.
Or maybe its that most guys have the sexy librarian fantasy...Grins.

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/12/2009 9:03:29 PM

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hhmm..I enjoy drawing them out..learing about them..watching them grow in themselfs..giving just a jug now and again..appling a tlc...and then..they bloom..Wow..

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/15/2009 6:00:29 AM

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I have to say that this is true of me. I am extremely shy when I first meet someone with a Dominant type of personality that is also a sexual being. For some reason it makes it so much better when I feel comfortable enough to do what is asked of me with out hesitancy or at least without having to expend so much energy steeling myself up for it.

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/25/2009 10:46:02 PM

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For me it is situational. I recognize there are times when we feel shy and times when we do not. This statement might hold more water when relating to the sub - that might come back to bite me too.. By no stretch of the imagination would either extreme be a deal breaker. I do like to dress up and show off what I/we have 10/0 might be difficult. What fun would if you could not make others jealous? I do spend nights home as I am not the most exciting guy in the world a 0/10 might have difficulty with that. I thrive on a challenge; not a challenge of topping from the bottom. But, the spunky attitude of a SAM might add the challenge - situational though. Either extreme can be delt with and addressed pending my mood, behaviour can be modified. A tag-line from 6 yrs ago pops into mind "What fun is sex if it does not fight you while you strap it down".

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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/27/2009 12:55:56 PM

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I'm fairly shy..I find that sometimes i have to push past it to get around in life.
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RE: A question for Masters who like shy subs - 6/28/2009 1:28:29 PM

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I think much of it boils down to personal choice. I'm actually fairly shy, and private, and would be much happier if I could avoid contact w. people other than my friends and family. (I intensely dislike routine stuff like going to the grocery store/pharmacies, etc.) For business reasons, I've learned to be more outgoing, but that's mostly an act created for commerce.

I suppose I mostly fall for shy "bubbly" types, although real extroverts I find tiresome. Frankly, I don't know if too many women are really extroverts -- it seems to be quite rare.

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