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ReverendAnders -> Hmmm~ Attracting Dominants. (6/12/2009 1:57:57 PM)
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Hello folks. Young newbie here.
I'm a 22 y/o guy who's still really budding into D/s stuff, but I've come into a little barrier that has me thinking about some questions:
I consider myself a 50/50 switch, and have entertained the possibility being the servant/slave of an older woman/man. Yet I have a wee problem: I only attract submissives. I have had 2 sub playmates and I have 1 who is interested in having some fun-time with me. Great and all, but what about my OTHER needs?
Here's what I've noticed:
If I tell a Dominant that I'm a switch: "Yeah okay that's nice."
If I tell a submissive that I'm a switch: "Let's get together one night, you seem hot!"
So, any time I get to play, I end up the Dominant by default.
My two slaves were absolutely astounding little cum-sluts who begged me to abuse them and sexually destroy them, and it's great. But I like to play fair-and-square and also have other needs that need to be attended to.
I think there's something that I'm doing wrong in my approach toward Doms that uh, "Friend Zones" me with them, but just makes submissive women/men squeal with delight and rush into my bedroom immediately. Any ideas on what I might need to turn up, tone down, and overall change in my approach?
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