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LoveDutchess8 -> Question (6/12/2009 4:48:49 PM)
I'm fairly young, and fairly un-experienced in the lifestyle. However I'm looking for a Master and a boyfriend all in one, because I know that random play isn't for me. I was wondering that since I have and age limit am I limiting myself too much on this site, should I try somewhere else? Any advice would be useful. Thank You.. Mia Lynn

tkenslve -> RE: Question (6/12/2009 4:58:14 PM)
You are looking for something and someone rather specific, so that may be limiting you. You have also only been on this site for 7 months, give it time. And if the site isnt working for you, you may find that you have more luck attending munches. Have you looked into a local 21-35 group? Other then that, i would suggest not being so specific in your profile. A dom who may not think that he fits your criteria may fit just fine according to you. Good luck in your search

LoveDutchess8 -> RE: Question (6/12/2009 5:00:53 PM)
Thanks I appreciate the advice..

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Question (6/12/2009 8:57:41 PM)
Eventually you will find the right One. i thought i never would, and......wow! There was Sir. Just give it time. i did. [;)]

LafayetteLady -> RE: Question (6/12/2009 11:00:36 PM)
Honestly, I don't think it is the age limit that is causing you problems. You don't say anything about yourself in your profile. When you want a romantic D/s relationship, you have to search the same way you would for a vanilla relationship. Find someone you like. Listing all your kinks, limits and dom requirements are not likely to make someone jump up and go "hey, this is my dream girl." After all, there is plenty of time to discuss your kinks once you find someone you like. On the likes/dislikes list you can (and I think should) list your hard limits. Any prospective dom can take a look at them there. Try telling about WHO you are in your profile, not what you like and what you seek so much. This is of course, just my opinion, but if you've been here 7 months with your current profile, trying something new certainly couldn't hurt.

GreedyTop -> RE: Question (6/13/2009 12:02:30 AM)
What LL said

ExKat -> RE: Question (6/13/2009 7:37:18 AM)
I found a dom at your age with many of the same requirements that you have. It'll happen. However, the fact that you're in Pennsylvania may be part of the problem. You may have to look for someone a ways away in a major city. You might have to open yourself to eventual relocation. My only suggestion is that you change your profile from "I needs..." to "I wants..." If I read a long list of needs, and didn't think I could provide one, then I wouldn't respond. Granted, I'm not a male dom.

DavanKael -> RE: Question (6/13/2009 9:25:58 AM)
While you did a good job of articulating a number of things in your profile, it could seem to some as being a do-me sub or do-me bottom rahter than someone actually willing to submit. I agree with the other feedback that's already been given, particularly about being patient and getting out to meet some people at munches in your area. This thread could probably have been better placed and would have gotten more traffic in the 'general bdsm' section and you may want to place an 'intro' in the appropriate section as well. Don't be afraid to contact people who appeal to you as you're reading profiles, use common sense regarding meeting and personal information. Best wishes, Davan

Zechriel -> RE: Question (6/13/2009 6:34:33 PM)
Good evening! While I do not see age in limiting potential Doms, I do see where combining both-as you want-could be. That is what I wanted, someone who I could respect and love, and be devoted to, not just for play or for a little while or poly. I wanted "me and you one on one. " Took a few dates, quite a number of stalkers and jerks, and a lot of fine tuning of what I needed for myself and wanted for someone else to be then it happened. On the other meat market, Daddy found me. Started out months of talking and finally a meet but after 14 months, he is all I want, and everything I didn't know I wanted. How can you go back when you have or have had the best? You will get there in time, patience! Good luck! Love, Zechriel [sm=couple.gif]

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