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intoxicatinggirl -> Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 12:17:29 PM)

I'm getting tons of emails of men who say they are married to a vanilla female and wantthis on the side. Well mythoughts is talk to your female about not being vanilla. If that don't work. You need to make a choice to stay of leave. Fooling around you wife'sback is a very selffish and very hurtful thing to do.

What is with all the cut and paste emails. Do you guys know that is such a turn off! If you can't email a personal note to someone then don't bother to email that person.



LaTigresse -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 12:25:54 PM)

Your point certainly holds water IF indeed they are doing it behind their wives back.

Your whines are nothing new, many have whined it before you and many will after, I am sure.



Arpig -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 12:28:23 PM)

You will learn to overlook the cut & paste emails, well either that or they will drive you insane. They will never stop. The amount of mail you are getting, however will drop off in time, when your name drops off the "New Members" list.

As for the men sneaking around behind their wives' back, well they are simply worthless scum. I was in a vanilla marriage for roughly 12 years. I never once considered going outside my marriage to get some spice or kink, I made do with the degree of kink with which my wife was comfortable. That is what I promised her I would do when I married her. It wasn't even my idea to end the marriage, it was hers; I was content to continue the marriage without anything more than an occaisional bit of light bedroom bondage. Those who cheat are not subject to any more demanding urges than those of us who don't cheat, they are simply weak, selfish and deceitful. They lie to their wives and to themselves, and I earnestly hope that they get taken for every penny they have in the divorce. Oh, by the way, the same goes for women who cheat on their husbands, they too deserve to be taken to the cleaners and left penniless after the divorce.


welcome to the boards, and as an aside...I really like your pic.






sweetsub1957 -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 1:17:59 PM)

When I was still looking, I liked to ask these guys, "How about you give me your home phone# and I'll ask your wife it it's okay."  hahaha  100% of the time, I'd never hear from them again.  lmao



CatdeMedici -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 1:27:46 PM)

Never been hit on in a bar have you?  Nothing changes because its BDSM.



sophia37 -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 3:20:37 PM)

If married but dating people offend the senses, that's fine. Ignore them. But not every philanderer is scum and not every philanderer deserves to be trampled to death financially. That's like saying every person who hears voices should be shut up in a mental ward. 



Arpig -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 3:58:16 PM)

Nice jab Sophia, however not really the same thing at all. the phlanderer chooses to cheat, the person who hears voices does not choose to do so. Really very different things. If I could manage without cheating, there is no reason other people cannot. I am not famous for resisting temptation, however cheating was one temptation that I never had any trouble resisiting, for the very simple reason that I took a solemn and public vow not to do that. I gave my word. If your word in a situation like that is no good, then your word is worthless in any situation.



Irishknight -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 4:48:36 PM)

I was a faithful little puppy in my first marriage, the vanilla disaster.  I got crushed into dust during the breakup.  Now, I'm married to a wonderful, bi woman who wants a third in our life.  If we get to the stage of considering someone and they ask for the home number to verify that she is okay with it thats no problem. 
I often get accused of chasing women behind my wife's back.  My answer is for the accuser to try asking her about it.  She knows what I'm doing and who.  I make sure she knows.  Monogamy is not a building block of our relationship but honesty is.



brandi1379 -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 4:52:38 PM)

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Monogamy is not a building block of
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ORIGINAL: Irishknight

Monogamy is not a building block of our relationship but honesty is.



brandi1379 -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 4:54:45 PM)

oopps sorry yall im still trying to figure this posting thing out, but anyway i totally agree with Irishknight honesty is one of the many  building blocks of a relationship. If the wife knows all about it and is ok with it..is it then such a problem?



Arpig -> RE: Just My thoughts. (6/27/2009 4:55:01 PM)

You are not cheating if she is aware and approves. You have not broken your word to her.



justme1980 -> RE: Just My thoughts. (7/2/2009 7:07:32 PM)


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ORIGINAL: intoxicatinggirl

I'm getting tons of emails of men who say they are married to a vanilla female and wantthis on the side. Well mythoughts is talk to your female about not being vanilla. If that don't work. You need to make a choice to stay of leave. Fooling around you wife'sback is a very selffish and very hurtful thing to do.

What is with all the cut and paste emails. Do you guys know that is such a turn off! If you can't email a personal note to someone then don't bother to email that person.


I believe it's called having your cake and eating it too



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