porcelaine -> RE: Accused of Switching during conversations (7/3/2009 8:05:39 PM)
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ORIGINAL: wysiwygitsme Has anyone been wrongly accused of switching (sub to dom) during vanilla conversations, merely answering questions, making comments? The reasons given are because the answers are aggressive, assertive, very too the point, very firm opinions, etc. I’m not talking about with someone you just met, but with someone you’ve know for a long time.I know how to deal with this, just wondering how may others have been wrongly accused. no but i do find sometimes that can be difficult for some people to handle when a submissive is assertive, opinionated, unafraid of confrontation, and basically self assured. they label the behavior topping from the bottom or will often blame it on the dominant characteristics if the offending person is a switch. self expression is very important and i don't feel it should be hampered. one of the most important aspects of listening and maintaining and open mind is the willingness to hear things that may contradict your opinions or desires. accusations are never fun, but people are free to say what comes to mind, it is when you allow their words to impact you negatively that a problem forms. you know yourself better than anyone else. remember that. porcelaine
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