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from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins,or ... - 2/15/2006 2:03:51 PM

TyrAnasazi

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This is a hypnotically situation I would enjoy hearing what people say. I have a local Dom friend that I talk with and we discussed this on my way home from work.

A Dom received a letter from a slave on line. It was a complement on something he had said in a profile he had. Well the Dom saw that this slave was articulate and was impressed seeing she was his equal in her ability to communicate. Now this particular Dom is not one that does a lot of e-mails, and when he does it is usually short or jokes. In less than a week there were over 100 e-mails and responses later (in a very short period.) Now many of these letters were mini novels. One day he knows she is away from her computer and he places part (not all) of that energy focused on her to somewhere else (mainly work). When he woke up she seemed disappointed she had only 2 or 3 e-mails and only one was a mini Novel. Explain this to me how can someone get that much interest, and at the same time by being a little upset by only 2 letters on a day gain more. Would you say he is interested or intrigued, and will she win him, or Him her, or will they win each other?

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/15/2006 2:29:15 PM

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If i understand your questions correctly,
my answers are nope, nope, and nope.

If you share too much info and too much time too soon, where do you go from there?
It would seem, nowhere but down
Next time a little more self-control is in order and this is not meant disrespectfully.
Pace yourself.

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/15/2006 4:15:44 PM

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Since I am not 100% sure what you are asking...I am going to take a guess at it and agree with CrazyTwice here. If too much is shared too soon, where do you go from there? On the other hand though, if there truly is a connection between the two, conversation should still flow, even if alot of information has already been exchanged.

Maybe if you clarify a bit what you are asking, the answers may be a bit better and more indepth?

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/15/2006 4:21:43 PM

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If i were in the pattern of several emails received each day, and some of them lengthy, it would be remarkable, to have that pattern altered to just a couple of short ones.

But several emails each day, and that is inclusive of lengthy ones, seems a little clingy and intense for me. I simply do not have that amount of time. Kinda bunny burner stuff isnt it?

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/15/2006 4:54:24 PM

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But several emails each day, and that is inclusive of lengthy ones, seems a little clingy and intense for me. I simply do not have that amount of time.

But some of us have that time; and enjoy that type of communication. It's not always clingy, it can be a snapshot of the day; or a "good morning" start of the day, or a "hey, you've got to check this out".

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/15/2006 5:03:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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But several emails each day, and that is inclusive of lengthy ones, seems a little clingy and intense for me. I simply do not have that amount of time.

But some of us have that time; and enjoy that type of communication. It's not always clingy, it can be a snapshot of the day; or a "good morning" start of the day, or a "hey, you've got to check this out".

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i agree with you 100% ..

what's good for some isn't what may be good for another. If it's mutual, it's not bunny boiling.. it's how those people are with eachother and how they communicate!

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/15/2006 7:07:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: MyCaptainsPet

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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But several emails each day, and that is inclusive of lengthy ones, seems a little clingy and intense for me. I simply do not have that amount of time.

But some of us have that time; and enjoy that type of communication. It's not always clingy, it can be a snapshot of the day; or a "good morning" start of the day, or a "hey, you've got to check this out".

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i agree with you 100% ..

what's good for some isn't what may be good for another. If it's mutual, it's not bunny boiling.. it's how those people are with eachother and how they communicate!

Agree and Agree. We speak with our Kitten as much as possible. Yesterday when my Grandma died... I sorely missed being able to talk with her about it. How people communicate are individual as fingerprints.

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/15/2006 8:06:46 PM

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But some of us have that time; and enjoy that type of communication. It's not always clingy, it can be a snapshot of the day; or a "good morning" start of the day, or a "hey, you've got to check this out".

and some of us make the time for some one or something we feel is worth the effort and enjoy both doing so and that type of communication. i would also agree that going from several communications per day to just a couple would give me pause as well - not a freak-out, but certainly question.

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/15/2006 8:44:51 PM

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My guess is that it was laundry day or errand running day?

We all have days that are slow and allow for lots of writing followed by days that are way hectic and don't allow much for writing.

Or it could be just a quick burst that ends up poofing out. Relationships can be like that.

This is why you need time and not build up expectations too quickly.

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/15/2006 8:52:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: Crazytwice

If you share too much info and too much time too soon, where do you go from there?

I disagree. There is an endless amount you can share, the only limits are that of your imagination. I think its pretty normal in the first throughs of infatuation that you want to eat/sleep/breathe your dom/sub. The only problem is real world interference!

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RE: from a submissive's opinion who wins? will she wins... - 2/16/2006 2:17:39 AM

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A very good point TyrAnasazi, but they are a C/couple and their experience will be different from others.

I suppose it depends on what you have experienced as to what you consider reasonable or otherwise, and no two relationships, will ever be the same, as one of the parties is a new party, to "relationship".

You could always start a new code TyrAnasazi ...
Day 1 = 1 email
Day 2 = 2 emails
Week 4 = mini novels ...
how boring would that be, living life, through a precription lense, in accordance to what is deemed to be acceptable, and whose sitting as Judge and Jury?

Good luck to your dom friend, and his new lady ... may their relationship grow to new heights, not biased on what's considered the norm, with others, who have different experiences and different outcomes.

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