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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/8/2009 4:38:47 AM

CatdeMedici

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As much as I'd like to respond with "aloofness"--I am going to be real--

You need to define "intentions"--well before that you need to understand that Dominants will not fall to your feet just because you have proclaimed you are a sub--there are gizillions out there---

Now given that, back to intentions--you intend to do xxx for Her, you intend for Her to do xxx to you, you intend not to have xxx in your life--intentions is a pretty vague word--so net it out---Dominas are all different and one of the things many of Us hate the most is:

"whatever you want Mistress" in the getting to know stage, because we know that very quickly this will rear its ugly head

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" i want xxx and xxx and xxx and xxxx and xxx and I want you to do xxx to me----its a two way street, give gets--what do you bring to the table? What can you do to make Her life easier ( hint: tongues are a dime a dozen and cocks go for about 2 bits)--how will you become a partner, how can you make Her experiences better, how will you be of service, what VANILLA things do you like to do, what new things can She experience, what can She teach you.

Clear communication--and that does not mean crude, one of the things I hate the most is upfront, "look these are my hard limits"---and its the usual ( cmon guys have some common sense, as women do ya think We go there?) then its "after that you can do as you please-"-oy oy oy.

The fear of exclusion leads to the sin of inclusion--don't go there, be an individual but also be a desireable partner.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/8/2009 5:39:41 PM

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Does any Mistress's have any suggestions on how I can make my intentions and what I'm looking for very clear and upfront when meeting my potential Mistress?

What kind of methods helped make communication between you and your Subs clearest?

I understand some Mistress can be rather sadistic and ect.. but in the end even the cruelest are still ladies inside, and I know women like to be heard. So, is that one of those times to try and show I see her viewpoint, or is that kind of conversation a "stamp my foot down, and talk about ME" moment?

I actually don't give a shit about your post....I just love your screen name.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/8/2009 6:12:53 PM

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( hint: tongues are a dime a dozen and cocks go for about 2 bits)

I don't know, Cat. Are you really sure it's worth a quarter?

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/8/2009 9:55:32 PM

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" i want xxx and xxx and xxx and xxxx and xxx and I want you to do xxx to me----its a two way street, give gets--what do you bring to the table? What can you do to make Her life easier ( hint: tongues are a dime a dozen and cocks go for about 2 bits)--how will you become a partner, how can you make Her experiences better, how will you be of service, what VANILLA things do you like to do, what new things can She experience, what can She teach you.

Applause. Sorry guys, but I don't know any woman who really wants to hear a total stranger tell her in detail how he wants to dive into her pink bits. Yes we do like oral sex. No, we don't want any from YOU, not if you're some random creepy Internet stalker with no social skills. Ewww.

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Clear communication--and that does not mean crude, one of the things I hate the most is upfront, "look these are my hard limits"---and its the usual ( cmon guys have some common sense, as women do ya think We go there?) then its "after that you can do as you please-"-oy oy oy.

Right. I also don't know any dommes who are actually into kids, scat or dead people. If I did I think I'd run a mile.

But I doubt you'll run into any, so making a big deal about those things in your limits seems kind of silly.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/9/2009 1:47:43 PM

LaughingFemDom

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Uh, hell no. You are looking in the wrong place.

A mistress or a prostitute is not a Mistress.

If you know what you want, you will have much better luck finding it.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/11/2009 12:32:58 PM

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Don't you just love it when they are so up front and make it easy for us?

YES ..
pisspot...nope..
rimjb..nope
usemyass..nope
suffocateMewithyourGsizetitsThenQueenME nope

now if I see
pastryChefforyou
catertoYourwhims
chocolateErrandsrunforyou
fanUonaHotday

I'm in...
GQ

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