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RE: Reality of my reaction - 2/18/2006 7:51:16 AM

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now that i have read the posts ( i know i should have done that before i submitted my first reply, but i just couldn't believe it!!) responding to your reality experience, i am ever more comfortable that should i "freak" at any point, it will not be the conclusion of further exploring!

i will be with a Dom who has been so unbelievably patient with me in this discovery. i am slow to trust, but am also impulsive... he seems to understand this with some amusement, but has not encouraged me to jump in as i wanted... instead he has been deliberate in conversations to learn more about me, and to help me in my discovery of this side of me that has just blown me away.... so i now feel, after a couple months of talking and talking and talking, with a few face to face meetings thrown in, that i am wanting to experience this first time with him..... he's even expressed that it is his responsibility to make sure that my first experience is good for me, as it will reflect on him and his training of me.....

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RE: Reality of my reaction - 2/18/2006 8:35:09 AM

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he's even expressed that it is his responsibility to make sure that my first experience is good for me, as it will reflect on him and his training of me.....

After my first meeting/service with my Master, i asked him, "what if i had failed you?" His reply was, "I would not have let you fail." From that point forward, i knew that as long as i try, and as long as i work hard and push to please him, he will not let me fail. This comes from him taking the time to know me, to train me, to read me, and therefore to know how far to push me.

Best of luck to you with your first time! It sounds like you are in capable hands.

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RE: Reality of my reaction - 2/19/2006 10:21:22 AM

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I have the same fear with needle play. Just the thought is enough to send me into a state of fear. Things like this happen sometimes, for no reason at all. It sounds though that your partner was real good about it, and handled it extremely well...both for you and himself. I would try again, just to see if you had the same reaction. Next time maybe try blindfolds with no other kind of bondage at all, that way, you have the option of removing them if it becomes too much for you. Also, having that control might make it so the fear disappears.

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RE: Reality of my reaction - 2/19/2006 4:01:12 PM

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Sorry, I will never needle you again!

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RE: Reality of my reaction - 2/19/2006 6:05:18 PM

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Do I wait to try again?
Get right back on the horse?
Keep working at it until I get comfortable? And what if I'm never comfortable?
I've discussed this with him. He says we continue at my pace in all of this, but what if my pace and his never agree?
I'm just a bit scared and unsure at the moment that maybe I've taken on more than I can handle.

i think it would be good to go deeper into yourself to find out what, about being blindfolded, brings up for you. What are the fears? There are NO rules except the ones you place on yourself. For me BDSM is about learning who i am and what is truly enjoyable and not enjoyable to me.

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RE: Reality of my reaction - 2/20/2006 5:01:49 PM

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I felt like that the first time I had sex. Maybe this was your second virginity? never quite works out like mills and boon, does it!

I guess the first time for anything we've been preparing for can never match up to the almighty mind. I don't think it means you don't like it though. I think you were just so hyped up in the moment, you weren't able to get to that part of your mind that goes "waheey! Blindfolds!".

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RE: Reality of my reaction - 2/20/2006 5:07:45 PM

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I felt like that the first time I had sex. Maybe this was your second virginity? never quite works out like mills and boon, does it!

I guess the first time for anything we've been preparing for can never match up to the almighty mind. I don't think it means you don't like it though. I think you were just so hyped up in the moment, you weren't able to get to that part of your mind that goes "waheey! Blindfolds!".

lol great post. Often what occurs in reality is not at all what we originally thought in our minds, is it? Oh the idea of crawling around before Master all day was so tittilating. Now after an hour goes by (hell, make that a half hour), i'm hobbling around on my aching knees, wondering when i can just sit down again! LOL

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RE: Reality of my reaction - 2/21/2006 4:51:32 AM

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id say take it slow, and try it again.

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RE: Reality of my reaction - 2/21/2006 4:52:48 PM

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it is good that you love blindfolds but remember always tot ell yoru master what you like and love so he will know how to trweat you better there was a woman i loed who i wish had told me all of these things maybe we would still be with each other

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