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faithfulfemme -> To Reply or Not..... (7/6/2009 10:31:16 PM)
It's late and i probably should have posted this question earlier, but oh, well, here i am now and i'll just see what answers i get, if any. 2 days ago i sent off a message to a Dominant i'm interested in and the response i got was I'll get with you as soon as I can. my question is: should i send off a reply acknowledging that i received this message, or just sit and wait. What would You Dominants out there prefer to happen? Good manners tells me i should acknowledge the messsage, it's the courteous thing to do, but sometimes it may be a better thing to just wait and not appear to be applying too much pressure.. . . . .

NihilusZero -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/6/2009 10:35:43 PM)
This shouldn't be so hard, should it? I can't imagine anyone getting pissed off at: "Thank you. I await your reply. :)"

faithfulfemme -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/6/2009 10:41:25 PM)
NihilusZero, Yes, it IS hard when i'm so close to the situation.....i have no distance to give me a clear perspective....thank You for Your answer, and it makes good sense to reply.....i'm off to do so right at this moment, that's how clear Your response was....

LadySweetOrSour -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/6/2009 11:11:16 PM)
It can be very hard waiting on a reply when you are interested in something, or somebody, in any arena, but good manners never go astray. I completely agree with Nihilus, a short acknowledgement is acceptable and polite. Don't ask anything else, just acknowledge the reply and fingers crossed he gets back to you soon!! Good luck. x

faithfulfemme -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/6/2009 11:18:43 PM)
LadySweetOrSour Thank You for Your imput. i know it's courteous to send an acknowledgment, gawd knows i am nothing if not courteous, but i am just toooo close to the situation to see clearly. That You agree with Nihilus Zero just fortifies that i've done the correct thing. i've sent off a message that thanked this Dominant for Their reply and also put in i hope we are able to chat when there is more time...... OK, now i know to just wait.....this part i've got down.....[;)]..... . . . .

littlewonder -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/7/2009 3:37:24 AM)
It's a canned response. You can set up your email to give instant responses to all emails. I would find it completely worthless to respond and I would just wait.

chamberqueen -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/7/2009 2:10:56 PM)
ff, I think that you did the right thing - especially if you kept it as a brief thank you. I appreciated it when subs did that with me. It was another thing if they decided to add in their life history along with the thank you. You will find that you will be most comfortable if you can relax and be yourself. If part of that is following certain etiquette, like saying thank you or calling someone Sir, then feel free to do so. That should endear you to someone, or if they don't like it they will tell you. To start off a relationship trying to change yourself for someone you don't even know is only likely to disappoint you both in the end.

Huntertn -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/7/2009 8:44:54 PM)
giving a reply is just old fashioned manners...Nothing wrong with that..But..it does sound like a canned message that allows him to sort thu what he wants and what he doesn't want while you wait...I suggest you still look thu the site for other Doms...after all, if he really is that busy..maybe you need to look elsewhere...

Focus50 -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/8/2009 2:29:05 AM)
His "reply" seems more like it's automatically generated fluff rather than something personal and sincere. Too late now but I'd have recommended you wait and let him me good to his word - or not.... If he can't or won't get back to you within a few days then I'd think he's not worth your efforts. Focus.

IronBear -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/8/2009 6:01:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: faithfulfemme It's late and i probably should have posted this question earlier, but oh, well, here i am now and i'll just see what answers i get, if any. 2 days ago i sent off a message to a Dominant i'm interested in and the response i got was I'll get with you as soon as I can. my question is: should i send off a reply acknowledging that i received this message, or just sit and wait. What would You Dominants out there prefer to happen? Good manners tells me i should acknowledge the messsage, it's the courteous thing to do, but sometimes it may be a better thing to just wait and not appear to be applying too much pressure.. . . . . When in doubt lass follow the path of good manners. It costs nothing and if he objects it at least tells you that he has no concept of good manners.

Musicmystery -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/8/2009 6:22:06 AM)
Amen.

NorthernGent -> RE: To Reply or Not..... (7/9/2009 9:33:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: faithfulfemme Good manners tells me i should acknowledge the messsage, it's the courteous thing to do, but sometimes it may be a better thing to just wait and not appear to be applying too much pressure.. . Reply or no reply would make no difference to me - and were I you I wouldn't be too anxious about it. Good manners? Means different things to different people - I wouldn't assume that an individual saying/typing "thank you" employs 'good manners'.

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