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Taking the leap - 2/16/2006 7:20:13 PM

LadyCompassion

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I think I am close to taking the leap from switch to Domme. Has anyone here done this before? And if so, was it successful or did you regret the decision?

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RE: Taking the leap - 2/16/2006 7:29:06 PM

fergus

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Nothing in life is set in stone.

You will have MANY orrortunities in life to redefine yourself.

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RE: Taking the leap - 2/16/2006 7:39:32 PM

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Sounds like what I'm going through right now. Figuring out who I am, and how I fit into this world. Yeah, as it is, Im most likly a Dominant who bottoms occassionally. There is no problem changing how you define yourself. Hell, you don't even have to label it if you don't want to.

Best of luck, whatever you decide.

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RE: Taking the leap - 2/17/2006 4:00:56 AM

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I really am a Domme at heart so "moving" from one to the other seems odd to me. I think that looking inside yourself and tapping into your strengths is the most important part. In many ways my experiences as a sub have influenced how I conduct myself...an "internal domination". I think in many ways it makes me care more about the whole person than just the kinky frosting.

My last boy would look at me wide eyed when we would talk about him getting a better job that utilized his strengths and degree, how to conduct himself in circles of my friends and when I told him that community service was going to be part of our deal. When punishing him for bad behavior I would make sure that he understood the larger reaching implications of his behavior. I do however find it ironic that the same experiences that I think made me a good Domme are the same experiences that made him believe that he could flip me into being his sub...too bad all he flipped me towards was the door.

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RE: Taking the leap - 2/17/2006 10:38:39 AM

Nuke718

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Really, don't make a huge deal out of it. If yourealize you aren't into subbing then it's not a leap it is just being you. A lot of people change the way they identify to the community as they grow, age, and learn.

Besides, if you leap to being a Domme and still want an occasional paddling or the lik, just order your sub to do it ;-)

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RE: Taking the leap - 2/17/2006 1:28:36 PM

fastlane

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ORIGINAL: LadyCompassion

I think I am close to taking the leap from switch to Domme. Has anyone here done this before? And if so, was it successful or did you regret the decision?

ummmm, I"ll lay 100 to 1 that it has been done before?
Look, before you leap. If your going from switch to Domme, I hope you have a subbie already in place, which may be the reason you wish to take this leap? If not, then why?
As Fergus said, and I paraphase here, we spend our entire lives redefining who we want to be and in the end, hopefully we will be proud of ourselves.
I wish you good luck and keep us posted on your prognosis.......Fastlane runs to his bookie and says "$100 bucks sez she'll switch back before the next full moon."