RE: Are you married to your Dom(me)/sub/slave?

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Slrn733561 -> RE: Are you married to your Dom(me)/sub/slave? (7/11/2009 4:57:12 PM)
I offered myself as Her property and explained the advantages (mainly freeing up Her time and She always being the Boss). Before that, we had a relation where She decided a lot, but nothing was explicid. She accepted afther thinking about it but told me She accepted under Her conditions. This means we don't play (whipping, tying up...) a lot, but She oprders me around whenever She feels like. Scaringly She didn't need any time to adjust Her attitude: it came naturally and on the spot.

ZenDragoness -> RE: Are you married to your Dom(me)/sub/slave? (7/12/2009 1:20:54 AM)
We met in a bdsm chat and are married. M. is a straight dominant sadist and has never played on the other side. I am bisexual, dominant, masochistic/sadistic switch. Because we are both dominant, it was, is and will be a very interesting dynamic. There are days that i can bottom to him in the masochistic sense and days that i can not. If not we resolve it with a good long fight, that leaves us exhausted and hungry for food and a good cup of coffee. Talking helps us not very much, because the the fact stays that we both can not submit in any substantial way. We both were accustomed to have full control over other people. We have decided some time ago, that after 9 years of monogamy, we will and do look out to see if somebody fits in our dynamic in any which way.

justme1980 -> RE: Are you married to your Dom(me)/sub/slave? (7/12/2009 2:43:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Goddess2002 Those of you who are married to your Dom, Domme, sub, or slave, how do you work out the dynamic? Did you draw up a contract of sorts(perhaps a sort of pre-nup) before the nupitals? Did you have your BDSM dynamic before you married, or did it develop afterwards? Could anyone offer any potential complications with this type of arrangements? Thanks in advance! I am not sure of what the OP is asking. It seems to me, you would be lifestylers who happen to be married,. Not sure what complications you are referring to?

Rayne58 -> RE: Are you married to your Dom(me)/sub/slave? (7/12/2009 4:28:59 AM)
Sir and I have been together for 5 1/2 years, and married for 2 1/2. He's always been my Dom [:)] There's never been any contract. Not sure what kind of complications the OP is referring to, but it helps us when it comes to Sir's medical problems (I'm naturally His next of kin now instead of His mother [:D]).

Goddess2002 -> RE: Are you married to your Dom(me)/sub/slave? (7/12/2009 5:16:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: justme1980 quote: ORIGINAL: Goddess2002 Those of you who are married to your Dom, Domme, sub, or slave, how do you work out the dynamic? Did you draw up a contract of sorts(perhaps a sort of pre-nup) before the nupitals? Did you have your BDSM dynamic before you married, or did it develop afterwards? Could anyone offer any potential complications with this type of arrangements? Thanks in advance! I am not sure of what the OP is asking. It seems to me, you would be lifestylers who happen to be married,. Not sure what complications you are referring to? The complications I suppose would be whether the generally accepted view in society of marriage as egalitarian or a joining of equals would impede on the D/s quality of a relationship. Daddy and I are exploring various means of legalizing our bond somehow (without raising eyebrows)...but I shudder at the terms "husband and wife". I've been in a vanilla marriage before and don't want that again, but would be possibly open to marriage if we could find a way to make the conventional element of it SECONDARY to the D/s relationship, as Mercnbeth stated earlier.

scarlethiney -> RE: Are you married to your Dom(me)/sub/slave? (7/12/2009 11:59:28 PM)
Master was my first D/s experience. We are married and even though our relationship is not a 24/7 D/s relationship it is incorporated into our every day living in one form or another. It works well for us. We did not have a contract or any specific agreement, just an understanding that there is only one Master in the house. I don't see any complications other than the day to day of living sometimes interferes with our direction.

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