CallaFirestormBW
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I've worked with dual-switch couples who just switched at will, and it worked for them... but there was a lot of negotiation, and occasional tension while dynamics changes got worked out. The thing is, what works in one household may not work for another. If those who switched in our household could switch "at will", it would be chaos, so for those who 'switch' in our family, we handle this by establishing a particular dynamic between individuals for a long-term, "negotiable-over-time-and-process" basis... one is in 'X' dynamic with this person, and "Y" dynamic with this person -- both roles are expressed, but the dynamic between individuals isn't subject to revision without negotiation. As an example, our Chatelaine would be submissive to the free members of the House, but would be dominant to the remaining servants. For us, this assures that our servants with good leadership skills and the interest and capacity to 'switch' have the opportunity to express those skills and interests, while still enabling the household to maintain its internal integrity. Additionally, sometimes we have someone who is interested in earning hir crop to become a dominant free member of the household, and xhe would eventually work hir way up through the ranks from servant to trainer to Head Butler/Chatelaine, and would cross over to Keeper, but it is a process, and not a flip-flop... xhe couldn't wake up one morning and say "I don't want to do this any more, just make me a dominant member" and be able to stay in our household. Dame Calla
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*** Said to me recently: "Look, I know you're the "voice of reason"... but dammit, I LIKE being unreasonable!!!!" "Your mind is more interested in the challenge of becoming than the challenge of doing." Jon Benson, Bodybuilder/Trainer
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