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nevergrowdup -> RE: Mistakes (7/20/2009 6:17:15 PM)
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There are so many stated above that are true ... really, just about all of them ... but for me, here's the list: - Having a profile that says something, not only about your kinky side, but your normal self
- Responding to a profile where you talk specifically about something that was posted.
- Your first response should be mostly vanilla talk. The other stuff can come later.
- Don't brag about yourself overtly. Those things can come out later, naturally. I **hates** getting emails that are glorified resumes, where I hear about how successful they are, how skilled a master they are, etc.
- Don't make any demands or throw your weight around until you are in a relationship.
- Be nice, but don't bend to her. I often set out traps when talking to a noob ... I challenge them a bit about something they say. If they cave into me, I lose respect. If they politely offer a different opinion and stick by their guns, I gain respect. Nothing is quite as sexy as a quiet confidence.
- Speak kindly of your ex. I always like to ask what happened to a past relationship. If they are quick to point out faults in the other person, I take two giant steps back. You'll go a lot further by being philosophical ... speaking of her in good terms but pointing out that people change. A new chat buddy explained that he had two failed marriages, and hoped that version 3.0 would be a winner ... that he's learned a lot in each case. I liked that ... twas thoughtful. Contrary to what many think, a Dom doesn't have to be 100% perfect; he can learn and grow, too.
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