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RE: crying - 4/15/2006 8:20:39 PM

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IMO..crying is as natural as breathing, that said,one must consider where the tears are coming from, emotional pain=emotional release of tears=good...physical pain=well thats two-fold.:0)..could be good, could be bad, depends on situation..happiness=great!..frustration=great for the one creating it..lol...mourning of a loved one or a great loss=sadness, but again good for the release of that pain in you growing...so hence I cannot find one reason why tears would necessarily ever be a bad thing...be well.Tempting

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RE: crying - 4/15/2006 8:27:28 PM

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crying shows weakness and should be done in privit....

As always, i respect what others think...

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RE: crying - 4/16/2006 12:37:45 AM

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crying shows weakness and should be done in privit....

i don't find it weak at all to reveal myself and open up to him so completely that i journey so deeply into self during an intense usage, that my very soul is touched. Such that the only physical release is through tears i do not even know are flowing, because i am so immersed into the space in which he has led me.

Nor do i find it weak to be so touched by the look of pride in his eyes that my own eyes well up from absolute happiness.

However, tears may show vulnerability, and if that is the case, then they would be a good thing, for i am always to be vulnerable to him.

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RE: crying - 4/16/2006 1:13:53 AM

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RiotGirl, that's exactly why I cry! It feels good to know that your submission is purely given to him! My crying does show how much I'm either starting to care for someone or I do care for someone. If I did not care and want to love him, I could not cry because I could not fully submit to him. Getting to that sub-space for me is the ultimate! for both parties! It's reaching a new place each time.

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Well i know Master loves to see me cry.. unless its in the midst of an emotional outburst and i'm throwing a hissy fit or tantrum.

He loves it when i cry from pain or when i just cry over emotional trauma with him because i am giving myself part of him i think. i'm letting go with him. i'm one of those that HATES to cry and literaly can not do it in public or groups of ppl. Crying is a struggle and i'm one of those that holds my breathe as i fight it.

He's told me that by crying it shows him how much i love him/care.

And the other things he said, i cant pin point his words. But i know it has to do with letting go, giving over, opening up. Its like sharing something very close to you i think? And in a way i think, its like giving him something. As i remember once he WANTED me to cry, he wanted my tears and he wanted me to give them to him. Erg, to break down, let go and trust in him?

Heck i dont know.. i'm over tired. But i know there is something about it.. LOL

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RE: crying - 4/16/2006 1:32:58 AM

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I had a girl once, what we shared was so intense, pure and raw that when I'd look in her face after she had given me her all I'd well up. she was the only one that has illicited that powerful of an emotion from me.

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RE: crying - 4/16/2006 1:55:16 AM

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i most often cry when really, really frustrated. i don't generally ascribe to the stuff emotions thing, but i do have times when i absolutely refuse to cry, or am shamed by doing it.

good cry = being touched deeply.. orgasm cry, thankful for forgiveness cry.. the signal something is about to hit a new level of understanding cry..

but the one that makes me maddest at myself is when i know i have done something displeasing, and i can't get my finger on the root of the behavior, and i'm still wading thru it. this is a time i refuse to cry because it distracts from the digging.. where eventually i'll get to that good cry of revelation and clarity.

The other Bad cry is when being disciplined or corrected. Even if i have true remorse, i know in the back of my mind that crying ellicits the protector / comforter response in my Master, and i have no right to be manipulating Him into comforting or protective feeling right then. i realised He might perceive that as being hard hearted during correction, so i explained why i was shutting that off on purpose, and it was agreed it was appropriate for that time alone, but those emotions would be dealt with .. you guessed it, once W/we get to that revelation/ clarity place.

But i am curious, do the Tops who have that dacryphilia fetish still get turned on by tears no matter if they're appropriate for the situation or not?

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RE: crying - 4/16/2006 2:39:37 AM

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That was beautiful MistressDiane. I too remember feeling that with a past woman lover. Thanks for helping me remember my past fond memory. It was undescribable. You put it so eloquently. (hug)

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