MHOO314 -> RE: LDR d/s ideas (2/20/2006 4:17:56 AM)
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ORIGINAL: amayos See her in the flesh as soon as possible, and don't get sucked into being obligated to "perform" for your submissive over the phone. You are in control; you talk when you wish. I suggest making that very clear early on. Enjoy explorative conversation and get to know each other. Voice interaction alone can be extremely powerful as it is only a voice you have, and forces one to focus on inference, accent, and suggestion; it's very much like a direct feed into one's mind. it can be quite interesting. How do you know they are kneeling or disrobing when they say they are, or that they are not really making a goofy face and extending you the middle finger at any given time? You don't. I guess in the end it's a matter of good judgment and trust. But again—don't spend too much time in long distance land. Get her pretty little face in front you as soon as you may. I agree with amayos, I am involved in an LDR and he is on the other side of the country---but I use My voice as a controller, I call when I please--usually in the middle of his night ( that's the sadist in Me--LOL)---I command as I please--yesterday when he signed on he had a command--as he said " Yes Maam that kept me focused"--it keeps them focused and off balance--I also insist that every Saturday night, he wears the leather collar I left with him--he loves that ( although he wears a "collar" daily)--and I at times send him to go put it on and wear it while we chat for more depth--W/we do not have a webcam so I trust that he does what I ask--but because he loves Me and needs Me--I know he does--the more I strengthen, the more he offers in return in the way of asking Me--letting Me know what he does, where he goes---etc. It isn't ideal by any means--- but until he gets here--it is what we have-- One other thing I have said we would do, is written letters, old fashioned letter writing---it takes the computer element away and makes him think about writing to Me as I do to him...good luck and as amayos says, "get her there with all due haste!"
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