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Viridana -> RE: Good Manners (7/25/2009 1:13:58 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Afrodizzy
Decency and Respect .... a question to members of this community. Partly for me to be more informed and maybe get a pulse on the general consensus.
In the community we do not judge the methods or the preferences of others, to each their own joys, pleasures. desires, fetishes. We keep an open mind and we each have our own ways. I as an example don't start my first approach to a sub / slave with "Hey slut" or "whore" or bitch. I don't ask to be called Sir or ask for naked pictures or a web cam session right out of the gate. This makes me no less of a true Dominant, no less controlling, no less demanding when I do get into a stage where we have started playing or if someone is under consideration.It is more important for me to get to know the prospect, understand clearly their wants, needs, goals, desires and then when a level of comfort and understanding has been reached we can progress to other matters. That is my personal preference and by no means is it the right one, to each their own, no wrongs, no rights, just different.
This brings me to my point of decency and respect not only for oneself but for others. I am a straight Male Dominant, I sometimes get approached by men and based on those principles of decency and respect, I would respond and say thanks for the mail but
I'm only into women and by doing such, the matter is closed. In the same light, when one starts a conversation and for whatever reason you decide that it is not what you seek, let that person know, you may not even have to give a reason beyond, "it is not what I'm looking for" or " Im taking another approach" I know that many of the members here are overwhelmed with e-mail and other approaches, by all means ignore the ones that don't interest you or that don' t meet your criteria but when you do engage even at the highest level, close out that engagement if you are moving on.
My question; No matter how Dominant or sub or switch or whatever we are, no matter how hard we play, if its sadism, humiliation, masochism or any of the different forms of lifestyles or schools of thought. In the end of the day, can we ask that in the same manner that we do not pass judgement, that we at least respect the general codes of decency and etiquette as we embrace this lifestyle?
On Point, Or am I smoking something?
In great majority of times when I reply "thanks but no thanks" I get a mail back stating how ugly/fat/stupid/insertderogatoryword I am. The rest of them that don't write back with insults can't and won't take no for an answer and make an honest effort to further bother me... which before I learned to utilize the block button usually ended in insults anyways. Those who can take the rejection mail like adults are very few and far between so why should I even bother with those "thanks but no thanks" mails? It is pretty far fetched to require that of me or other women on here to have insults poured over them from complete strangers on a regular basis just so your ideals of what constitutes as good manners can be fulfilled.
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