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RE: is it wrong to feel this way? - 2/27/2006 7:29:55 AM

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not much to add... but congrats and also I ask a question or two... Is this your first birth? Pain levels during birth what was your experience from it. Was the pain there but secondary to the focus on the birth of your baby. Or was the pain a very intense focus for you? Your body went thru alot of chemical changes etc. But you also experienced some incredible pain that had a very distinct um pleasure to them... Just some random thoughts.

Well done KoM...wow, very intriguing questions. I bow in admiration to your thought process!

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RE: is it wrong to feel this way? - 2/27/2006 7:36:29 AM

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oh my i know of no woman who has even thought of the pain of child birth as even a little pleasure, oh when the baby comes the joy is something i think no man can even think of carrying it for nine months and the joy of having it , but the pain is let me see huh ok open you mouth wide as you can and then like a best firend run tow truck through it and leave it there for let me see mmmm oh like mine child birth hours 24 hours with just shot for pain then do it over and over again until you have that tow truck that is what it is like not even a pain person could stand it lol no pleasure there only whne that child is born

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I just have to say this for all the women who have not yet had children. The pain of childbirth was NOT the worst pain I had ever experienced in my life. I was in excellent shape both physical and mental before the birth of both of my children. I had natural childbirth both times. My fist one was born 15 mintues after I was fully dialated, the second 50 mintues after.

For the record, I did not give birth to peanuts. My 1st was 7lbs 10 oz, and the 2nd was 10 lbs 7 ozs.

Was it easier for me because I was in outstanding physical shape, probably...was it easier for me because I was mentally in a good place - probably...would I like to experience this INSTEAD of Sunday tea? NO. It was not however the horrible experience I had been led to expect. So, I make it a point as one to stand up and be counted as having a postive birthing experience..twice.

My apologies, to all - this is not the place for this - but I needed to speak my mind.

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RE: is it wrong to feel this way? - 2/27/2006 1:05:58 PM

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Well done KoM...wow, very intriguing questions. I bow in admiration to your thought process!

thank you... my alandra gave birth to four children.... my personal experience in being apart of all four has led me to reflect on what the experience does to a female body. the labour for all four doesn't total 16 hours, all the births where very positive and pain was very much secondary to the event! I can't help wonder if alandra's relax mental state had a huge impact on the process.

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RE: is it wrong to feel this way? - 2/27/2006 2:09:37 PM

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It is truely wonderful to see how much you love and worship your Master. This is always a good thing. It is clear that you are striving for more of his attention. It is much like a child who feels they need more of the parents attention - a beautiful thing.

I adore honest communication. If you have His permission, ask Him to talk with Him about your feelings. No need to mention the specific punishment.

Also, for you, keep in mind you are His property. You are His servant. You must try harder in trying to please Him in positive ways to get Him to spend more time with you. Masters reppond to obedience and service plain and simple.

I require My slaves to take on My thoughts. I true slave is own in mind as well as in body. Her thoughts MUST be the same as her Master's.

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RE: is it wrong to feel this way? - 3/1/2006 5:43:32 PM

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i just wanted to respond to what some of Y/you all said and say that Master and i are well.

Celeste43-- i wish We could live together right now so He could come home and ask how we are, but alas He currently lives on the college campus and i'm about to get into an apartment. He usually only asks how i am since i tend to tell him how his son is before he can ask.

valeca-- i think you're right, the thing i needed most was His domanance. its strange how life can feel like it falls apart after a child is born and being able to turn a part of your life (or even just a few hours of it) over to someone you can eternally trust can feel so wonderful. i'm very happy to have a Master that can make me feel safe, comfortable, and loved even when We cannot be in eachother's presence.

KnightofMists-- this is my second child and i had back labor both times. the pain was worse this time, to the point that Master could feel the depth of my pain throughout my whole aura. i believe that the young nurse who was trying to get the iv started could feel it too because she got anxious when she couldn't get it started fast enough. though it hurt Him deeply when he could no longer do anything to take away the pain, just being able to hold my Master's hand and feel His touch on my back helped so much.

krikket-- my Master also hates it when i try to "protect" Him from my thoughts, especially when i say i'm thinking something and refuse to say it for fear of it not coming our right. We had a long talk a few days after this event and i wasn't allowed to talk to Him again until i had decided if i truely wanted to continue with this relationship and trust in Him without question. i literally bawled to one of my vanilla (but currupted by me) friends as i realized that my heart doesn't beat without Him in my life (and our children's).

MasterDaddy123-- it was my idea, with Master's enthusiastic approval, that i start a journal to write my thoughts and feelings after every scene and when i drop so this doesn't happen again. He has even given me assignments to write about in my journal so i can express myself without fearing insulting Him or saying what i don't mean.

i have to give thanks to my sub friend here: if she wouldn't have given Us that little extra push farther into the world of BDSM We would have never experienced the depth of relationship We have now. the chainmaille collar He made me is my physical reminder that he really does love and care for me beyond what We could have felt in the vanilla world. like i told Master after i spoken with my vanilla friend, "my collar makes me free." He is the reason i soar with eagles.

interesting side note about my littlest one: i could tell by the way he looked me in the eyes when i first held him that my son has a dominant personality. his eyes spoke volumes about his confidance and inherited knowledge. when Master told some of His friends in chat here, they concidered starting a fund for his first whip. it's a good thing i am a horse trainer and can explain away things of that nature in my home.

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RE: is it wrong to feel this way? - 3/1/2006 6:39:24 PM

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Her thoughts MUST be the same as her Master's.

sounds like a robot... not a slave!

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RE: is it wrong to feel this way? - 3/1/2006 11:17:22 PM

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i took it to mean in line with her Master's.

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RE: is it wrong to feel this way? - 3/2/2006 6:27:46 AM

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KnightofMists-- this is my second child and i had back labor both times. the pain was worse this time, to the point that Master could feel the depth of my pain throughout my whole aura. i believe that the young nurse who was trying to get the iv started could feel it too because she got anxious when she couldn't get it started fast enough. though it hurt Him deeply when he could no longer do anything to take away the pain, just being able to hold my Master's hand and feel His touch on my back helped so much.

well odd are if you had back labor the first two... any more you likely can count on back labor for the next if there is a next. All four of alandra's were back labour. The first one was the hardest... all because of the unknown. Watching her experience such pain and not being able to do anything was a very helpless feeling. The next three in all honest... no big deal to me.. the pain was there.. but it will be ok was in the back of my mind.... my focus was much more in birth. By the last one I had it figured out *G* After alandra in the birth room... I put her in the shower... and put the steaming hot shower on her back and waited. I remember the cry when I shut the water off and told her to get out and that it was time to have a baby. Even the nurse was shocked and said she should stay in the shower until she feels she was ready. No sooner did the nurse stop talking that alandra yelled out I have to push and grabbed on to me and was about to chomp down In my shoulder with her very very sharp teeth. We barely got her to the bed, the doctor arrived moment later and only had enough time to take of his jacket and put on gloves. within 15 minutes of shutting of the water, I was cutting the cord of my last child and first born son!

The experience of watching and participating in child birth has caused me to reflect alot. One of things that I learned was that thru pain alot of life can occur. One just needs to look around us... see the struggles and pains we endure... and the rewards we gain from them. I can't help feel that without some pain in our lives... we would be a living dead. We are raises to fear pain... but in truth... I don't believe we should fear it... we should embrace it and use it!

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