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CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Under Protection???????? (8/1/2009 8:40:10 AM)
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We've never gone into the whole thing of announcing a 'protection collar', though we -have- helped out a couple of individuals who were going through a hard time by bringing them under the protection of the House.
For us, this meant that they weren't under consideration as HB servants, nor were they under contract to us. However, a HB Keeper would be available to accompany them to events, or they could join HB servants at events either until they found someone that they were interested in to enter into a relationship with, or until the individual who had been causing them difficulty (in all cases, abusive/violent former lovers or dominants) was dealt with. In these cases, without someone else to basically 'have their back', they would have been too afraid to go out to anyplace where they might encounter the "ex-ass" without backup. In at least one case, being under House protection saved the woman's life, as her ex-dominant showed up at an event, armed (knife), grabbed her and tried to haul her off with the intention of getting her by herself and forcing her to return with him (his perception was that, once he collared her, she was his to do whatever he wanted with and could never leave... it sounded good at the time, I guess). In any case, two of our beloveds took her, along with a few of our servants, to a national event, and her ex showed up there -- were it not for one of our gentlemen leaving to find the cops, and the other one basically silver-tonguing the heck out of the situation to delay things, we might never have gotten this asshole off the streets (he ended up being convicted of aggravated assault, and assault with a deadly weapon). I do need to qualify this and say that this was before my time in the House, so I didn't -see- any of this... but I -did- meet the woman in question, as she still occasionally attended events with us while I was a relatively newbie in the House.
I think part of the reason that these kinds of questions come up is because people use the -concept- for purposes other than what it is truly intended for. Mentorship, trial or consideration periods, and protection from known entities all have their place, just like they do in mainstream society. After all, what do you think apprenticeship, engagement, and an active police force -are-? However, these ideas have gotten a bad rap in the BDSM aspect, just like polyamory has, because they are, essentially, used in ways that confuse their aspect with other aspects that are often considered "undesirable" or even downright dishonest. There is nothing wrong with the -concept-, per se, or with those who choose to use it, but it has been so watered down or twisted that one is often hard-pressed to find any of the original essence still present in the permutation.
Dame Calla
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