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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren


This was one of the main reasons I outed myself. Originally Loving Dominant was to have the author as "Mentor." Then I realized it and the scene needed a real spokesperson.

I don't know how many roldexes I'm in, but I regularly get calls from news media types who want background or a quote on a story. To their credit, most of the ones I've dealt with have been after "the truth" rather than trying to spin the story to meet agenda.

This is one reason to support NCSF since they are often the "primary front person" for the scene these days.

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ORIGINAL: Domin81

BDSM is getting more and more exposure in various media. Some good and some bad, but over the years, I believe the ratio is turning to more positive and realistic portrayals being shown. Check out www.mini.ca , just click past the questionnaire and click through the ‘Dominate Winter’ box. You will see crops whips and paddles….used to sell cars.

Definitely becoming more mainstream?

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

It's a pity LA that you so often post in a manner which can easily be taken that you speak for the entire community and for all places. I'd venture to say that your comments may be true for the USA but not for other nationalities who participate in the CM Forums too. Perhaps some small disclaimer that you refer to your area of living and experience would place things in perspective???

Well I certainly can't account for all cultures and experiences, but I know I have a best friend/ex-girlfriend who is a native and current resident of Australia and very active in the kink community near Brisbane and she and I discuss the culture over there a lot and in my travels through Europe I made a lot of contacts and tried to expose myself to as much of the culture there as possible.

So I take all that I can and amalgamate it into a big "I think, in general" type statement.

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Do you feel under attack, or do you welcome it and the resulting curious minds that will inevitably follow?

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ORIGINAL: cravinspankin

Thank You, for Your positive comments about the media that you've dealt with.
As a member of that media, i can attest that most of us are responsible and operate on a high sense of ethics, with truth and balance an absolute must.
Anything else, in our minds, is unacceptable.
Most of us... and i'll be the first to admit not all are as responsible or ethical.. but most of us go after the truth. Yes.. we may have an idea what the story is when we start reporting, but are professional enough to realize that story may change, our perceptions and what we thought was the truth when we started gets altered as we conduct the interviews and do the research.
So we don't go into a story with an "agenda." We go into it only seeking the true story.

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BTW.. if i may ask.. what is NCSF?

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ORIGINAL: Chaingang

Links:
http://www.nbc13.com/news/6812175/detail.html

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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

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Do you feel under attack, or do you welcome it and the resulting curious minds that will inevitably follow?

I'm sure you'd be less than thrilled if TV 11 came knocking on your door asking about your slave trade.

For 'the latest thing,' see:

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/allnews/page.cfm?objectid=12987678&method=full

(the short story)

>But until Larry Wachowski emerges from his self-imposed exile, if he ever does, nobody will know how deeply into his own personal Matrix the director has gone. "As far as I know," says Porsche Lynn, who remains in touch with Karin Winslow, "they're living happily ever after."<

Larry W. has essentially gone into hiding. Unless a person is a true attention / media whore or a business domme engaged in marketing --- I think one is uncomfortable with being spotlighted in the BDSM world. So my vote would be "under attack" or if not that, "under uncomfortable scrutinty."

http://www.rollingstone.com/news/story/9138137/the_mystery_of_larry_wachowski/?rnd=1140619130292&has-player=true

(The long story)

Marv Albert, the venerable basketball analyst, had to resign after it went public he's a masochistic CD at heart.

Differences are generally NOT APPRECIATED by society at large.

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ORIGINAL: amayos
All of this prompts me to ask what you may think about our little world vs. the larger one, and how 'we' are being perceived. When the flashy media monster of spin, scandal and vanilla titillation rears its head on the lifestyle you enjoy and identify with, does it bother you a little? Do you feel under attack, or do you welcome it and the resulting curious minds that will inevitably follow? Is media attention to the practice of BDSM good or dilutive in some way? Do you even care?

Quite curious to know.

I think on the whole that "kinky stuff" in general is viewed as fun, cute, accepted and fine as long as it's in the bedroom with the lights out.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
When it becomes organized, into "sex clubs" or "a lifestyle" I think most people are intrigued, but still considering it nasty, dark and bad- resulting from an unloved childhood or the like.

I think over time (generations) it will become a normal everyday type of choice.

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

i do find it unfortunate, however, that the Dominance/submission aspect is always viewed so negatively, and often as something "sick." By focusing on only the weird and deranged stories related to D/s, the media propagates that mindset. Eventually D/s = weird and sick, thus pushing us further into silence.

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ORIGINAL: IronBear
I'd venture to say that your comments may be true for the USA but not for other nationalities who participate in the CM Forums too.

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty


Was there anything she said in particular that you disagree with, or were you just trying to catch the lady's attention?

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This is a public forum, and if you haven't internalized that everything said by everyone is just their own opinion, and may not be true for other people, places, or planets, you might look into doing so.

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Secondly, the issue of child pornography really makes this more intense. When someone sees this, regardless of the other stuff, they've basically decided against him.

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ORIGINAL: DestinyCommander

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Secondly, the issue of child pornography really makes this more intense. When someone sees this, regardless of the other stuff, they've basically decided against him.

I tend to discount reports of child porn. I do believe it exists, and I think it is a disgusting thing. But it is also one of those things that becomes a "guilty until proven innocent". So much so, that I think law enforcement sometimes makes it up to make someone look worse.

The contract in and of itself isn't really a bad thing. It isn't illegal, because it wasn't signed. And it's entirely circumstantial, unless they've got his fingerprints on it. So this woman's case comes down to he-said vs. she-said. Then what's a prosecutor to do? Make up a child porn charge. Then in the public's mind, the guy is automatically guilty of anything else they choose to throw at him.

I honestly don't know how child porn is brought in as evidence in a trial, but I highly doubt they print the photos and show it to the jury. If they did, the proscecutor would be guiltly of disseminating it. If the police are motivated in putting the guy away because they didn't like the contract, they might well be willing to stretch the truth a little on the stand when in comes to what they found on his computer. (That's not to say the police are "lying", just that since they are convinced he's guilty of something, they are subconsciously motivated to make others believe it.)

Even if they never persue the child porn charges officially in court, public opinion (e.g., the jury's opinion) is stacked against him, and the guy never gets a chance at a fair trial.

Now that's not to say it wasn't true... but I certainly don't believe everything I read.

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I honestly don't know how child porn is brought in as evidence in a trial, but I highly doubt they print the photos and show it to the jury. If they did, the proscecutor would be guiltly of disseminating it.

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the issue of child pornography really makes this more intense. When someone sees this, regardless of the other stuff, they've basically decided against him.

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ORIGINAL: Petruchio
I was shocked when a separated teacher I was dating said that her friends advised her to claim her husband had molested their daughter to gain the advantage in the divorce. Although she ultimately did not go this route, the fact she seriously considered it raised huge flags with me.