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online threats, how are they handled? - 8/11/2009 2:50:36 PM   
curiousgeorgetta


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Status: offline 		 A certain so called Master from Tennessee wrote to me and offered to answer some questions and chat. He sounded nice enough.  Atleast, he didn't start off ordering me to my knees.  So, we went to messenger and he started demanding a picture of me.  It was our first conversation and I was not liking his tone at all.  He creeped me out.  So, I politely refused him and he started threatening me and calling me childish.  Now, he writes me here on Collarme with this letter:

[email removed]

I reported the email, just not sure that will do any good.  Should I be afraid and go offline?  Can he really find me?  What do I do?
cg

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/11/2009 2:53:12 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		You should block him on here...on the messenger service you were using....and move on... Count it as a grateful that You found out so quickly how 'unstable' he was.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/11/2009 3:01:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would suggest you forward the threats to the CM gods on the other side then simply block his e-mails. If he contacts you via message boards hide his posts. If you added him to your personal messenger, delete and block him. The reality is only the mod gods can delete accounts and they don't hide the fact they are coming at you as moderators not some joe shmoe. So that is an empty threat in my opinion.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/11/2009 3:02:01 PM   
daintydimples


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Status: offline 		The blocking is good advice. Also, you seem to be taking his threats seriously. He's a bully. So block him and remove yourself from his list of prey and he'll move on.

Unless you gave him personal information about yourself, I can't see how he can track you from here.

If I got such an message, I would block, delete, ignore, and move on.




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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/11/2009 3:06:00 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: curiousgeorgetta

I reported the email, just not sure that will do any good.  Should I be afraid and go offline?  Can he really find me?  What do I do?

There is no way for him to find you.  If they email you again, report the email and do not reply to them.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/11/2009 3:27:39 PM   
CaringandReal


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Status: offline 		And if he emails you from another account, report that email.

IPs can be acquired through yahoo messenger although if he hasn't done so already he might find it hard to do unless he is able to initiate another conversation with you. So blocking there is a very good idea. Block him on your yahoo email account associated with the messenger name, too.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/11/2009 4:24:49 PM   
curiousgeorgetta


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Status: offline 		thank you for the great advise.  I did block him.  But, I guess that I needed reassurance, he won't find me.  So many wack jobs out in the world.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/11/2009 5:36:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally I have a variety of e-mail and IM accounts set up, nearly all of them with false or no information attached to them at all.  These are the ones that I use when doing any "serious" kind of talks with someone else.  If they ask for a pic, I just say why not cam to cam?  Easier to verify that way.  Don't give any personal information out, and be cautious as to what sites and things you use your e-mail for.  I habitually google the e-mail addresses of anyone I meet on the net and with some I have found their personal blogs and subsequently, loads of personal (99% of the time not private) information.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/13/2009 11:06:47 PM   
Rhodes85


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't worry about it. 99% of people that threaten or harass you online can't do anything. Blocking should do just fine. If it doesn't work and he keeps it up I could deal with him if you want. I've had alot of runins with idiots like that in the past. They usually back off real quick when you trace their IP and send them a message with all their info in it.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/14/2009 8:57:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		At this point, I think he's to busy trying to get photos of other women. I think you're 99.99% safe. Continue life as normal and I'm sure you'll find a good dom for you soon that you feel comfortable sharing everything with.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/14/2009 11:11:11 AM   
Termyn8or


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Status: offline 		Like Mod11 said, it would be very hard to find you from here. In fact the mail system here I think is even more private than regular email. I would be pretty sure that CM won't cut any information loose without a court order.

I wrote something once that was only construed as a threat, it was just a poor choice of words. But they threatened to throw me clean off here. They take such things very seriously. The thread was about privacy and someone started that "Well if you have nothing to hide" crap, and I said "What if I get my hacker friends to.........", I should have said "What if someone ......." Live and learn I guess. They came down on me like a sledge hammer, and in retrospect I see why. Privacy is very important here. Not just Cmails, we got people talking about some very private issues here. While I can't guarantee anything, I can assure you this, these things are taken very seriously here. The indications are that you are safe.

Actually I would block him from yahoo and whatever, but here I wouldn't. Let him bury himself. The Mod spank I got included "Do that again and you will be outta here faster than......" I don't remember the metaphor used but it sounded pretty fast. I say give the guy enough rope. If they block him the hard way, it will take a computer geek to get him back in.

Actually this site is secure enough that I would be tempted to play games with any idiots who contact me. Now if you want a semi-dangerous enviroment, try Usenet. It is easy to track someone down from there. But this is way different.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/14/2009 2:45:38 PM   
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I guarantee you it won't be the last threat or harassment you get from people online. I've lost count over the years.


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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/14/2009 3:50:19 PM   
XaviersXian


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Status: offline 		greetings to all,

Easily.  Walk away from the computer and forget about it.  My own experience with online threats/harassment/potential stalkers has told me that most threats are just people in the heat of rampant emotions, shooting their mouths off, and threats to stalk are just empty words (they are often desperate, downtrodden people, who want control over their lives, but have no idea how to gain genuine control).

You should be completely fine!

well wishes,

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/18/2009 6:28:46 PM   
DivineWill


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quote:

ORIGINAL: curiousgeorgetta

A certain so called Master from Tennessee wrote to me and offered to answer some questions and chat. He sounded nice enough.  Atleast, he didn't start off ordering me to my knees.  So, we went to messenger and he started demanding a picture of me.  It was our first conversation and I was not liking his tone at all.  He creeped me out.  So, I politely refused him and he started threatening me and calling me childish.  Now, he writes me here on Collarme with this letter:

[email removed]

I reported the email, just not sure that will do any good.  Should I be afraid and go offline?  Can he really find me?  What do I do?
cg

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He can't find you, only the administrator knows your IP address-- and even then it's near-impossible to get your information. So it's not a credible threat-- especially since online threats are almost never, ever ever carried out, even when the person knows personal information.
I used to worry about online threats, i.e. the chance of some psycho tracking me down and coming over to my house etc.; but that was about 10 years ago, and now I just respond with "BWAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA!"

However if a site EVER reveals information about you, I'd recommend leaving it permanently.
But this is a GOOD reason not to reveal information about yourself online: if you want to meet someone, just ask for HIS information, then meet in a public place where you feel safe.
And it's a good idea to make friends with some tough Doms, we're very protective of subs-- and NOT the type to be messed with when we mean business.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/18/2009 6:33:35 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DivineWill

quote:

ORIGINAL: curiousgeorgetta

A certain so called Master from Tennessee wrote to me and offered to answer some questions and chat. He sounded nice enough.  Atleast, he didn't start off ordering me to my knees.  So, we went to messenger and he started demanding a picture of me.  It was our first conversation and I was not liking his tone at all.  He creeped me out.  So, I politely refused him and he started threatening me and calling me childish.  Now, he writes me here on Collarme with this letter:

[email removed]

I reported the email, just not sure that will do any good.  Should I be afraid and go offline?  Can he really find me?  What do I do?
cg

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He can't find you, only the administrator knows your IP address-- and even then it's near-impossible to get your information. So it's not a credible threat-- especially since online threats are almost never, ever ever carried out, even when the person knows personal information.
I used to worry about online threats, i.e. the chance of some psycho tracking me down and coming over to my house etc.; but now I just respond with "BWAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA!"

However if a site EVER reveals information about you, I'd recommend leaving it permanently.
But this is a GOOD reason not to reveal information about yourself online: and make friends with a few tough Doms, we're very protective of subs-- and NOT the type to be messed with when we mean business.


You are safe provided you do not have your real name listed in your IM contacts list.

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RE: online threats, how are they handled? - 8/18/2009 6:37:14 PM   
DivineWill


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Status: offline 		Yes: NEVER reveal true personal information online-- not even use your real first name. For example, my real name isn't "Will." Make sure EVERYTHING is 100%  FICTITIOUS.

This includes the email address you use-- don't let it contain anything that contains information about you: i.e. descriptors, names, or the internet-service you use..

Also if you're worried, use an IP-address shifter program like "Easy-Hide IP".

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