How i "act" when i meet a Gorean Man, in all reality depends on him, the setting, the reason i am there. If its a general meeting of checking each other out so to speak. I don't "act" slave i react as slave. i act as myself, which means if he has qualities that will make me react as slave then i will do so unconsciously. Acting as a slave doesn't make one slave. If i am meeting someone i will show him respect simply because i must somehow like him if i am meeting him. If he is considering me for his collar then in, i believe, all reality he is more so looking for my reactions, my unconscious, uncontrolled, instinctive reactions to him than he is to see if i fetch him things, or demure to his decisions on matters moment after meeting him. If i would want his collar my conscious goal would be to be as pleasing as possible, to charm him with my witt lol if he likes that, to stroke his brain with my intelligence if i know he enjoys that, etc.
In my opinion, to serve him without his direction to me would mean i was being arrogant and presumptuous in thinking i already know how to serve him as slave, to to be slave without mastery and ownership, because i decided i was slave, not because he decided i was slave. That i should have the privilege of being allowed to serve him, because i say so, not him. i guess to me forcing my service on a Man is presumptuous and arrogant. i like to believe Men who are Masters know how compel the reaction of slave in such a situation if they wish it. That they are the ones in control therefore, they know 1) why i am there, 2) they will decide what i will and will not do in "serving" them, not me deciding. Sometimes when getting to know a Man to assume he wants you to do certain things can bring out the division of assume. i guess i just see it differently, if the Men are Masters then they will make sure things happen as they want, i will not have to control the situation so he will see me as slave. i am not sure if this makes sense.
So if i am meeting a Man, though i will strive to be pleasing in what i know of him, i am a woman who needs to be mastered and the slave compelled by the Man, i will hesitate in trying to think for him thinking he will want to see this and this and me acting like such and such. i will pretty much allow him control and react instead of act. However, if i know what he likes, i would probably ask him before acting, if he wishes me to do such and such.
All this being said, if i am among men in a party or gathering setting and i am there to be pleasing and serve, then that's a different idea. I would probably take my que from the other girls, i would have instructions from the Man giving the gathering and hopefully help from his girl and the others who are familiar with the Men, guiding me in serving the Men in the ways they individually enjoy as close as possible within a gathering setting.
If i am with a Man who already has a slave, i would more than likely ask her for guidance if i had the chance, if i didn't, i would defer to his girl being the one to serve him unless he specificially stated otherwise, because it would not be my place to usurp his slave's position to him. Or if i wanted to serve him in someway, i would (if i could get my nerve up lol) beg to do so. If he wishes things differently then he will say so.
i am not sure if this makes sense.
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.