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RE: seeking to understand behavior - 8/14/2009 3:10:44 PM

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You misunderstood me, I'm afraid. I didn't mean to imply that slut was a "bad word" only that the name (the "utter" part more than the "slut" part) was ironic in this instance... Utter: adj. "carried to the utmost point or highest degree" ... a slut of the highest degree would probably not have any problems with someone supplying a "gangbang". I didn't mean to imply that the name provoked his actions, although it might have had some effect on exactly how he decided to retaliate, and I in no way meant to imply that you "deserved it" simply because of a name. It was sort of a joke, in that if you were really an "utter" slut you would probably not be offended, you would just take advantage of the extra publicity. *wink*

As far as provoking it in some other way, obviously I have no way of knowing what happened, and again I didn't mean to sound like I did. I was merely saying that in the cases I have observed where things escalate to the point where a neighbor calls the cops (as opposed to cases where an involved person calls themselves) there is often a situation where BOTH sides are doing the fighting, yelling, etc. Basically no one will have reason to call unless there is enough noise and disturbance to draw their attention. Again, I don't know if this is why the cops were called or not, I was just mentioning it since every time the cops have shown up in my neighborhoods over domestic issues like that it was following an epic screaming fight from both sides, and not usually quiet actual violence. I tried to word that generally since if you called them yourself over actual violence, that part was completely irrelevant (and now that I re-read it, I guess I was still a little sleepy).

Hope that cleared things up a little, I really was trying to find a way to be constructive.
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RE: seeking to understand behavior - 8/14/2009 10:57:03 PM

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I can only hope a nice slut will find him and make him happy or atleast move on peacefully.Six months later I have moved on, dating, screwing, being free and doing as I please ,I am grown and way over 18 and will hold myself accountable for my actions..

If I do recall, your profile originally stated how much you LOVED gangbangs, and how easy and beneficial it is to be an escort, and how enjoyable such behavior is for you.

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my last try at a D/s type relationship ended on Feb 15 of this year.( 6 months ago)

Your profile also stated that a recent dom inserted three fingers into your vagina, which you also had on display, hardly provocative, also looking quite flappy to be honest. That would be a d/s relationship, regardless of it's duration of time.

And nowhere in your posts is there any evidence that the police were called because of violence. The reason for my post is to state that if you are truly in understanding his behavior you would be asking a professional therapist, not a chat room message board, and maybe him, instead of using trickery and fraud to mock and induce negativity towards him. Maybe he learned how to use the internet to be vindictive and spiteful from you? As the old saying goes, what goes around comes around.

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RE: seeking to understand behavior - 8/15/2009 6:52:31 AM

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Call the police. This is illegal and he can be prosecuted, and should be.
Gather all the information, consult your attorney and seek redress.

Me? I'd be hassling the D.A. to get him a long jail term and I'd be suing him for every dollar he has. It is totally unacceptable.

Yea that was my first gut reaction too. Although it will be interesting to see the cops face when she explains that he made the craigslist ad to send guys to her cm profile where she has named herself utterslut. Now that should not matter. What the guy did was terrible and he should be held accountable. But really, what do you think their reaction is going to be.

To the op, I am not sure which bothers me more. The fact that your ex is such an asshole or the fact that you have to ask if its right or wrong.

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RE: seeking to understand behavior - 8/15/2009 7:40:14 AM

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Wow. The OPs profile went "poof!" I was going to look for it, but "Profile Can't Be Found." Imagine that. lol

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RE: seeking to understand behavior - 8/15/2009 10:30:13 AM

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so, my last try at a D/s type relationship ended on Feb 15 of this year.( 6 months ago)
It ended pretty badly with the cops called, with both parties eventually going there separate ways. I have not spoken a word to him, no emails, no calls, not letters , nada.
I made this new name, posted a few very provocative photos of my body, unsure if I should post my face, but I know men are visual creatures and a photo is needed still trying to keep a low profile but moving on with my life.
I go to my space and notice that I have ALOT of email. upon reading a few I begin to notice they are saying they are replying to an ad that I placed on Craigslist.
Seems my ex found me here on CM under my new name and decided he would go ahead and exploit me further by placing an ad that I was seeking a gangbang, perfering black cock, posted photos of me and told them how they could find me on my space. Though he once did own me, does he still have a right to act like he still does ?
What do you think of this behavior ? Why would he try to humiliate me 6 months later ?

It means he's a dick.

Do you understand now?

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RE: seeking to understand behavior - 8/15/2009 10:47:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: utterslut

so, my last try at a D/s type relationship ended on Feb 15 of this year.( 6 months ago)
It ended pretty badly with the cops called, with both parties eventually going there separate ways. I have not spoken a word to him, no emails, no calls, not letters , nada.
I made this new name, posted a few very provocative photos of my body, unsure if I should post my face, but I know men are visual creatures and a photo is needed still trying to keep a low profile but moving on with my life.
I go to my space and notice that I have ALOT of email. upon reading a few I begin to notice they are saying they are replying to an ad that I placed on Craigslist.
Seems my ex found me here on CM under my new name and decided he would go ahead and exploit me further by placing an ad that I was seeking a gangbang, perfering black cock, posted photos of me and told them how they could find me on my space. Though he once did own me, does he still have a right to act like he still does ?
What do you think of this behavior ? Why would he try to humiliate me 6 months later ?

1 No
2- he's a immature slime ball
3-refer to answer 2

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RE: seeking to understand behavior - 8/15/2009 1:04:39 PM

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2- he's a immature slime ball
3-refer to answer 2

Maybe I missed the news flash, when did BDSM, role playng, name calling, pissing contests, and having to be tied up and spanked in order to feel fulfilled become mature, respectable, sane, and widely accepted as wholesome healthy human behavior?

Her profile could have easily been interpreted as an ad for prostitution. Just because it may have been deleted from the profile that also vanished doesn't mean there isn't a log file tucked away on a backup server somewhere.

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RE: seeking to understand behavior - 8/15/2009 2:51:44 PM

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You noted early in your post that you've made no contact with the guy, then there are these recent craigslist posts.
You pose the following questions:

Though he once did own me, does he still have a right to act like he still does ?
****If you're asking this seriously, you need to look at your own sense of boundaries.

What do you think of this behavior?
****I think I would report him to the craigslist people and also attempt to make a police report regarding harassment.

Why would he try to humiliate me 6 months later?
****Just guessing but probably because he's an antisocial or a low-end narcissist and he's getting his kicks and trying to hurt you and/or to yank your chain/get you to contact him.

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