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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/24/2006 1:17:24 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Hi angelic,

No profile even with a search either.. Perhaps he has been shamed off the boards?? Ahhh well it's just one of those little mysteries of life. Still the information posted here may, hopefully, be of some benifit to some one in distress......

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/24/2006 1:40:26 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

No profile even with a search either.. Perhaps he has been shamed off the boards??


Maybe his sub made him take it down.

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/24/2006 3:03:38 PM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: proudsub

quote:

No profile even with a search either.. Perhaps he has been shamed off the boards??


Maybe his sub made him take it down.


Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh what an evil sub you are..... Here's a box of chocolates all for you <<<grins>>>

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/24/2006 3:09:39 PM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub

quote:

No profile even with a search either.. Perhaps he has been shamed off the boards??


Maybe his sub made him take it down.


Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh what an evil sub you are..... Here's a box of chocolates all for you <<<grins>>>


streaks thru the thread... *grabs the box of chocolates out of proudsub's hand before she can say thank you** runs back out of the thread yelling.... " chocolate bad for a subby's health* .. as I stuff my face full of chocolate and a big smile

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/24/2006 3:13:12 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Heaves KoM a 6 pack of Fosters to wash the Chockies down with.

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/24/2006 4:36:57 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh what an evil sub you are..... Here's a box of chocolates all for you <<<grins>>>


streaks thru the thread... *grabs the box of chocolates out of proudsub's hand before she can say thank you** runs back out of the thread yelling.... " chocolate bad for a subby's health* .. as I stuff my face full of chocolate and a big smile


LMAO!! And Knight you are so right, thank you for taking them because i don't eat sugar, but might have been tempted.

IronBear thank you for the thought anyway. MistressDread used to always push chocolates on me too.

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/24/2006 8:37:29 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		slavejali the day the CPS hearing came about she chose not to show and lost her kids.because by no showing she forfited her rights, We were put up for adoption after she forfited her rights to us by no showing. Of course sometimes they're bad actions allows for their kids to have a better life.

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/24/2006 10:37:46 PM   
VikingHouse


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Dang, I'm traumatized by your woeful story, but not enough that, I still wouldn't remind you that your bare back wick dippin caused the drama of parenthood... I could offer advice and might even attempt it if,I could witness the dynamic or lack of that you all share.
Gentry

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/25/2006 12:05:40 AM   
yourMissTress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists


quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub

quote:

No profile even with a search either.. Perhaps he has been shamed off the boards??


Maybe his sub made him take it down.


Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh what an evil sub you are..... Here's a box of chocolates all for you <<<grins>>>


streaks thru the thread... *grabs the box of chocolates out of proudsub's hand before she can say thank you** runs back out of the thread yelling.... " chocolate bad for a subby's health* .. as I stuff my face full of chocolate and a big smile


*trips KoM and steals his chocolates...mmmmmm, I love the truffles.

*tosses him a wetwipe for his messy face.

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/25/2006 12:18:39 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		Kitty meows politely, any treats suitable for a cat being tossed about? * giving my bestest and politest feed me face*

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/25/2006 6:03:50 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		FelinePesuasion: thats true re your statement about how good things can come from apparent bad situations.

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/25/2006 9:06:52 PM   
swtnsparkling


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quote:

Aanyone Eelse notice how the Op hasn't responded to this thread? angelic


He has responded- post 47

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/25/2006 9:26:51 PM   
angelic


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ORIGINAL: swtnsparkling

quote:

Aanyone Eelse notice how the Op hasn't responded to this thread? angelic


He has responded- post 47


thank You for pointing that out. However, that doesn't explain the profile that doesn't exist. It's not relevant anyway at this point. This has been a very interesting thread

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/25/2006 9:37:43 PM   
krikket


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

... and you don't have to deal with YOU! Encase you haven't figured it out yet.... your sub has found herself with 3 Doms!!! not just one! Instead of blindly setting the goal... get involved on organizing things and how the goals will be accomplished. Don't except all goals to be accomplished immediately. Set small goals... Really small goals first. Look around see what she is accomplishing consistently already... NOTE it to her! Express your satisfaction to the things she is accomplishing. Then set a small goal beyond that what is being accomplished. Discuss it.... make sure it is realistic. Consider not just setting the goal... but how it can be accomplished... look for what things could prevent it from being accomplished. Build her Confidence! Work with her! You have set the bar so High... you have set her and you to fail! So my question... Is what you doing working? Well Change what you doing.... quit doing different versions of the same thing.




Woohooo...i hope someone gives You a great big kiss and hug, KoM...you deserve that and more. Any chance, we could clone that part of You to pass around? LOL!!!

cheers
jimini

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/26/2006 7:00:27 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		He didn't think about birth control, instead he got her pregnant twice. She sounds depressed because she was no more prepared or desirous of having children than he was. There is no mention of her being assessed for: hypothyroid, depression, chronic fatigue etc. No mention of her receiving any medical care at all except for the births.

We have five teens between us. Believe me that breakfast in bed is a fantasy. Some days he makes the tea in the morning and some days I do. Neither of us is a clean freak so the house is never as nice as it would be if one of us were.

Toddlers are exhausting. You are up during the night and on call 24/7. You can't even go to the bathroom in peace, they follow you in. Please read some books or talk to the pediatrician about what this is like for mothers and children.

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/26/2006 3:02:13 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		thank you krikket... when science figures out who to split these unsavory qualities from my other nice sadistic ones... then we can look at doing some cloning.... hey I might even make some money on the deal *w* But, until then.... I come as a package deal!

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/26/2006 4:02:31 PM   
aurora31


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Status: offline 		lol...Likes the whole package and would gladly pay for a clone just as you are. But I guess until science figures that one out my search will continue for one who shares many if not all of the qualities you possess.

aurora

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/27/2006 6:38:42 AM   
LeatherBentOne


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Status: offline 		"Kuddos" to KnightofMists post. I totally agree and am refreshed by your wisdom.

< Message edited by LeatherBentOne -- 2/27/2006 6:41:09 AM >

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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 2/27/2006 7:34:53 AM   
yourMissTress


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ORIGINAL: DraconicAnger

Thanks for the input, while the original post may not have been thoroughly read or perceptions were miscontrued. Thanks anyways and honestly the coffee and breakfast was just an example of her duties. I take care of the children and clean the house and no we are not married. My simple question should probably have been.

How would you deal with a sub after having kids but they constantly give excuses as to why chores are not done. This entails when you the Dom do what is necessary to keep the household running? How many Dom/me would accept excuses from subs on a constant basis even after having stern talks with them. 24/7 relationships go way beyond mere scenes all the time. If you enter an agreement with someone it needs to be abided by or discharged in an amicable manner when you are unable to fulfill it.

Drac


Ok, I stayed away from your initial question simply because it clearly put you in the light of a whining child that wanted all the accoutrements of being an adult (note: NOT DOMINANT)and no responsibility. This question brings many more questions to mind. Most of them being centered around the contradictions in your own question.

1) You say that you are doing everything. But she's giving excuses as to why the chores aren't done? Why is she making excuses for you? and to whom?

2) You say that "stern talks" haven't worked. Have you thought about talking to her as a person? Talking to her on an equal level?

3) I am assuming that you loved this woman to begin with. Maybe not. But if you did, before you go off yelling at your slave for not being slavish, what about attempting to help the woman you love out of what appears to be depression of some kind. I'm also assuming you are not a Dr. so what about taking her to one?

No matter what the result of the relationship between the two of you, at this point I feel very sorry for the children involved. I hope for their sake they don't ever hear you talking the way you did on this board. I hope that they don't ever pick up on how callous and selfish their father is, although kids are far smarter than most adults give them credit for, and intuitive as well. Your resentment of their birth and how they interfered in your life and sexual fantasy will not be something that boosts their self esteem.

Good luck to all of you.



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RE: Tired Dom seeking Advice from other Dom/me - 3/13/2006 11:11:04 AM   
SoulBelow


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

quote:

the very instant HE decided to have unprotected sex with her he made the conscious choice to risk the potential outcome.....children.


Well ..as a Dominant He is responsible to guide the relationship in the way of his choice, He should have made sure his subbie had adequate birth control. He has made a huge mistake that is going to effect the rest of his life, and hers.

The victimisation i mentioned meant that he is trapped in a life he didnt choose, no more, no less.

There are tons of things in life we do that we dont consider the repercussions to (I'm not giving excuses for doing this, but it does happen), i know preganancy and children is a touchy and emotional subject, but when it all boils down, whenver we dont think of repercussions to an action, we often wind up with a situation that wasnt planned or wanted and we are going to suffer the subsequent unhappiness.


I understand what you're saying slavejali but this man sounds like he is blaming his sub for getting pregnant and then expecting her not to change and thier situation not to change and for everything to go back to the way it was before she got pregnant.

Kids change things in a way no one can ever imagine before they have them. There seems to be no understanding for her situation. However like many have said we only see one side of the story here.

Just seems like a tantrum from a selfish immature person. " I want things back the way they were and I want them back now" *Stomps feet*

Takes two to make a baby. Just because the woman has to carry it for 9 months, seems she is now a machine and that having a baby is nothing more than a physical process, when if you're a woman you'll know how it screws with your emotions too. Changes the way you look at life. Seems there is no understanding here.

Also if you're slave is not serving you as she should or has been taught to then maybe you need to look closer to home. Could be a lot of the problems are coming you, the dom, losing control due to changes in circumstances and responsibilty.

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