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AnnePrimrose -> "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/16/2009 8:37:35 PM)

This does not happen very often to me - or hasn't yet anyway - in the short time I have been here. But how do you feel about a man who is asking to be your sub and sends pictures of himself, including nude, without your having asked for them?
This was not in his very first letter.

What do the rest of you think about this?



sweetsub1957 -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/16/2009 8:49:34 PM)

I'm not a Dominant, but I think sending uninvited nude pictures is just rude....I think it's a man thing cause Doms do that to me.  A face shot is one thing, but for a guy to send unrequested nudes is just plain rude and inappropriate.  In my opinion anyway.



DarkSteven -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/16/2009 8:49:52 PM)

Let's see if I have this straight.  A man contacts you, unsolicited, and asks to be your sub.  You correspond with him and he sends you an unasked for cock shot.  Is that it?

I read your profile (likely something he didn't) and you make it crystal clear that you're not a gung ho Domina, and that you prefer women to men, and that sex with men is essentially off the table.  I conclude that you might Dominate a man, but that it's not a strong desire for you, and that you have zero interest in a man's genitals.

Based on that, all I can figure out is that you're asking if he's clueless or just rude.

It's a moot point to me.  If I were you, I'd send him a message that he was out of line, and block him.  It's not like you are desperate to get a man after all.



StoneFox -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/16/2009 8:53:54 PM)

DarkSteven is right.



LadyPact -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/16/2009 8:54:24 PM)

To Me, it's just plain rude.  If this was someone you were starting to converse with in real life, would it be appropriate in casual conversation for him to whip out his cock?

Sending Me the unrequested cock shot, or any other type of picture that is sexually graphic, is the easiest way to ask to be blocked as far as I'm concerned.



Lashra -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/16/2009 9:17:18 PM)

I get all kinds. The nude ones I block right off the bat as I consider that just plain rude, and shows which head they think with. The dressed ones I do not mind, in fact it is nice to put a face to the email.

~Lashra



Lockit -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/16/2009 11:20:02 PM)

BLOCK forever... period.



BKSir -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/16/2009 11:24:16 PM)

Yep, sounds like my thoughts are much in the norm here.  Explain to him that it was a very rude and uncouth thing to do, then probably block him.

I don't mind if someone wants to send me a picture or two of themselves, but, only g-rated ones please.  Unless I know the person very well, or have asked for something more... which would be extremely uncharacteristic of me.

Why would I want a sub that doesn't seem to understand things like "socially acceptable behavior"?



VanIsleKnight -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/16/2009 11:36:03 PM)

I only send face pictures. =) Nudes are rude



AnnePrimrose -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 3:03:28 PM)

You guys are great!  I enjoyed what all of you had to say about this. The pictures were "fetish" oriented; ie a corset and stockings and nylons and  heels. I guess he was sort of suspended in bondage - I did not really pay that much attention because the pictures were not taken FOR me. Most were black and white and a little soft in the focus. The one in color was outfit above and sharper focus, and a full-head-to-toe shot. None were strictly a zoom-in on a naked cock.


I just rolled my eyes and shook my head. It didn't upset me. And this man had not  really said enough yet to intrigue me so I have no strong feeling one way or the other about him. His "scorecard"  however is quickly getting deeper into the "red."

I guess I have just a little too much tolerance and patience. I have not yet learned that 100% of men who screw up like this only do worse a short time later. It does not matter. I have plenty of interesting men to to entertain me. I could tell him to go jump ... or just let the next tide wash him out to sea.

I don't think this particular man meant to shock or offend me. I think he thought a few pictures were a quick way to "answer" some of the questions I had asked him. It would have been a LITTLE better if he had SAID so.

But I agree that it was crude and rude and not at all the right way to go about things.
I have not replied to this man since he sent those pictures. I think I will send him to this message board to read what all of you said about it. And ask him if after reading all this, he has any 2nd thoughts or wants to make a convincing apology.  A VERY convincing apology!  Feedback from a half-dozen people might do him some good.



lameduck13 -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 3:24:57 PM)

to me nude pictures in general are uncalled for. If I want to see what you have to offer, I'm not taking you serious as a person. Seeing the other person Nude should be a reward for having them submit or Dominate you, I refuse to send nude pictures to people even if they ask for them. I guess it can be c called a limit.



LaTigresse -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 3:40:51 PM)

I just delete and forget.



subtlebutterfly -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 3:45:21 PM)

FR:
Does it never bother anyone...those constant referrals to people as applicants? [>:]
I don't care about the pics as long as they aint nude or inappropriate as a first correspondence.



Politesub53 -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 3:53:31 PM)

I hate Dominas sending me naked photos. [8D]



BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 3:57:14 PM)

They can send me all they want smile..



MistressSassy66 -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 4:17:41 PM)

I tell them how aweful it looks and its sooooo tiny.
That its the worst looking excuse for penis I have ever seen.
Then I block them,so they cant reply...I'm such a Bitch [:D]



PeonForHer -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 5:29:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

I hate Dominas sending me naked photos. [8D]


Likewise.  I wish applicants would wait till I've had my breakfast, at least. 




AnnePrimrose -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 5:36:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

FR:
Does it never bother anyone...those constant referrals to people as applicants? [>:]
I don't care about the pics as long as they aint nude or inappropriate as a first correspondence.



I agree that the word "applicant" seems so ..... business like or something.
What words do other femdoms or doms use? 
Is there a better word to describe those who have written  to express their interest or need ...?



RedMagic1 -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 5:49:52 PM)

Suitors?  (most romantic)

Petitioners? (often used in femdom/malesub)

People saying hi?  (my preference, as it's the most accurate until "more" happens)



DarkSteven -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/17/2009 6:04:01 PM)

I say something like "potentials" or "prospectives" but I think I'll be saying something like "hot tamales" in the future.



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