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RE: "nilla" dating vs. scene dating - 8/19/2009 8:58:15 PM

traceoflace

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I don't date 'nilla, but I have found plenty of Dom men in the 'nilla world. I think I have a pretty good radar after speaking with someone awhile. One of the best Doms I've ever had the pleasure of dating I met at a starbucks *shrug*. Just because they aren't hanging out on websites like CM or going to munches doesn't mean they aren't Dom.

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RE: "nilla" dating vs. scene dating - 8/20/2009 1:43:45 PM

littleone35

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I am not sure if i could ever go back to dating vanilla. For me to do so he would have to be an very special man who spoke to my heart. I am submissive and i need the lifestyle, but i would at least give that "very special" man a chance and talk to him about the lifestyle. So i will never say never but its pretty unlikely i would date vanilla.

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RE: "nilla" dating vs. scene dating - 8/20/2009 3:37:16 PM

slavekal

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I can't speak for women, but I think this is one of the biggest mistakes sub males make. Dating, getting into relationships with, and dating vanilla women. Cheating is pretty much inevitable.

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RE: "nilla" dating vs. scene dating - 8/21/2009 12:41:34 AM

traceoflace

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

I can't speak for women, but I think this is one of the biggest mistakes sub males make. Dating, getting into relationships with, and dating vanilla women. Cheating is pretty much inevitable.

I think it really depends on what your kink is. For me, the ultimate turn on is making my man happy, so if i have to find my submission through making sure he is happy in a vanilla sense... I could probably live with that. Assuming he wasn't a total prude and strictly missionary type. I've never met such a man, but I'm sure they exhist.

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