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"Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 5:16:07 AM

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I've noticed that some affectionate or requested names for a Dominant partner is either mommy or daddy. Is this just a normal kink fetishy name thing, or does it imply a level of roleplaying?

Apologies for my inability to punctuate my sentences with proper descriptive words, I'm stubbornly refusing sleep for a small variety of reasons.

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 6:23:54 AM

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Some folks use that term because they have a different type of dynamic. There are several threads on Daddy Doms. Mommy is one that I've only heard in relation to ABs.

I'm not the best resource for answering your question, as these are not the type of dynamics I participate in. I'm sure someone will come along to explain more in depth.

Edited because the word is "in" not "it". I need more caffeine.

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 6:34:13 AM

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for me its a combination. yes, there is some fetishy role play in the relationship i have with TheEngineer, and also (for me specifically) its a southern thing to call the husband "daddy" once children come along. so it just went along with what we were doing (as it were).

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 7:03:07 AM

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Usually a D/lg dynamic implies less sadism, more caregiving. Not as hard and fast as a M/s one where no excuses or reasons can be given for not doing something. (Yes, I know that's stereotyping and it doesn't work like that in r/l).

Anyone who has been a parent will know that flexibility is essential to be a good one because things change so fast.

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 8:05:07 AM

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Hey thanks for starting a thread on this.

Firstly, I'd like to say that the Mommy/boy dynamic seems to be the hardest to find compared with Daddy/girl, I'm not sure whether its because of social conditioning, gender genetics or whatever. Maybe it's still cringed upon even in a forum like BDSM.

I'm unsure whether its roleplay or real myself! I'm definately hugely interested in the idea of Mommy-Dommes, as everytime I hear a female sub talk about her 'Daddy', I get a bit jealous and tingly.

But I wouldn't be that regressed/age play persona all the time. I've never been to a BDSM club or party as I'm extremely shy and not involved much with the scene, but the thought of being feminized into a Mommy-Domme's naughty daughter and sinking in depth into that mindspace losing all insecurities of the 'real me' would be amazing.

I've been told I look like a 12 year old girl anyway! And I'm 26 male. Maybe it's an anxiety release motivation to accept that part of myself rather than worry about it being pointed out.

So I guess to answer your question, I think the Mommy-Domme would be the Mommy-Domme as her BDSM identity, and I would be 'my adult self' therefore creating a reality based dynamic, at the same time I would also seek age/gender play on my part which may fall into the roleplay aspect.

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 8:05:46 AM

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I've noticed that some affectionate or requested names for a Dominant partner is either mommy or daddy. Is this just a normal kink fetishy name thing, or does it imply a level of roleplaying?

my experiences in age play are on the other end of the spectrum. i have lived in a relationship as the child in the past and basically had all my needs provided for. while i enjoyed it for the most part, i found it created elements of codependence i was unhappy with. but then again when you spend a long time having everything done for you, much like a child does, i suppose that can occur. i don't know if i'd call mine a kink because i readily enjoy having the mental and emotional sides nurtured and it isn't wholly sexual. there are different ways of implementing this and each pair will choose what is best for them.

when it is utilized in my relationships it is an aspect, not the whole focus. i don't do exclusive age play partnerships for various reasons, including the ones stated above. i don't see it as black or white as some and consider it a proverbial slice of a comprehensive pie called 'me'. much like slavery, motherhood, partner, etc. all are.

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 12:41:10 PM

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edited because it made no sense!

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 12:46:05 PM

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I know a local male submissive, who is very much into the "mommy" dynamic. For him it isn't about role-play but the emotional connection between a mother and child, the physical bond. When he looks as someone in that manner his whole demanour changes, his voice, his actions, his whole being changes. Its like he lets go of his adult inabitions and give them to her. (if that makes sense)

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 1:50:10 PM

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Like most aspects of human psychology, it always seems to hark back to infancy -- infancy appears to be the 'root' on which everything else is built. Indeed personally I would go further, in that not a few people never lose that infant personality, its there in the unconscious ready to spring out at times of stress, strong drives, or alcohol. I also believe that this underlying personality, this "alter ego" can develop independently and unconsiously of the adult 'persona' in some people, especially cds, tvs, and adult babies.
I call this underlying personality the 'individuate' adapting the verb into a noun. I say this because I really do believe that is where the individual truly lives, not the adult persona, which seems to me to be largely a product of his/her local and media environment.
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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/5/2009 1:56:19 PM

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I know a local male submissive, who is very much into the "mommy" dynamic. For him it isn't about role-play but the emotional connection between a mother and child, the physical bond. When he looks as someone in that manner his whole demanour changes, his voice, his actions, his whole being changes. Its like he lets go of his adult inabitions and give them to her. (if that makes sense)

Yeah, I was in a relationship very much like that once. I don't even really know how it happened, but she liked to say "No, Duane, you can't do that" or whatever We'd go shopping for groceries, and she'd treat me like a six year old, but in a very loving way. It was strange, and I actually really enjoyed it. But it was basically because it was with her, as I don't think I've ever really been with another woman who made that feel so right. The rest were all different dynamics, although not any lesser because of it.

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/6/2009 4:12:22 AM

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Good morning!
Daddy and I do not role play, I do not dress up or play with crayons. To us, it implies that he can and will take on a more caring and supportive role. he calls me "baby girl" or "lil one" but there is no baby play, I am merely HIS, a type of affectionate name for me. When he gets really annoyed , he will call me by my first name but that is hardly ever. And there is no degrading in our relationship, so it is more about emotions and caring.
After having my Daddy, I could never go back to a plain Master or Dominant. I need this side too much. Good luck!
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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/6/2009 9:22:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VanIsleKnight

I've noticed that some affectionate or requested names for a Dominant partner is either mommy or daddy. Is this just a normal kink fetishy name thing, or does it imply a level of roleplaying?

Apologies for my inability to punctuate my sentences with proper descriptive words, I'm stubbornly refusing sleep for a small variety of reasons.

There is no "normal kink fetishy" thing, we are all different and we each have our own unique kinks and sexuality. For example, you love masks, especially Venetian or masquerade masks. Weird to me, but very cool to you and probably many others. Even in the kink community, I've met many people that think the terms "Master" and "Mistress" are way too out there for them. And I've met many people that think "Daddy" and "Mommy" are way too out there for them. For me, I'm cool with either and I'm more concerned about what works in each individual relationship... I'm more interested in connecting with another person than fulfilling some sort of lifestyle code or rules some person or group of people came up with.

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/6/2009 9:46:05 AM

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Depends on the person and the dynamic.
While I prefer to be able to view a man who is Dominant to me in somewhat paternal ways, calling him Daddy or the like squicks me out (No offense to anyone who really digs such things).
My ex- (Vanilla boy that he is) thought the whole "who's your Daddy?" thing was very hysterical and would announce it at the most uncool of times. That year, on his birthday, I told him he could let fly with the offending query and that I would answer it in a way that I thought he'd find pleasing...so, ass slap, hair pull, and query later, I turned around, gave him my best innocent doe-eyes and said, "You're my Daddy and I'm your naughty little girl". Well, that did it for him (With relative immediacy) but I don't think I ever heard it again (I think he actually enjoyed disturbing me more than he enjoyed the age-play aspect).
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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/6/2009 9:56:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: VanIsleKnight

I've noticed that some affectionate or requested names for a Dominant partner is either mommy or daddy. Is this just a normal kink fetishy name thing, or does it imply a level of roleplaying?

Apologies for my inability to punctuate my sentences with proper descriptive words, I'm stubbornly refusing sleep for a small variety of reasons.

It is neither exclusively kink or role playing. Those terms have been used by people in relationships as words of endearment by people who did not know this lifestyle had ever exisited

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/6/2009 9:54:27 PM

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although I have no experience refering to a woman, as mommy it does spark interest.

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/6/2009 9:58:44 PM

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although I have no experience refering to a woman, as mommy it does spark interest.

Awww, their might be a Mommy out there looking for a good little boy like you.

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RE: "Mommy" or "Daddy" - 9/6/2009 10:39:18 PM

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I call Master Daddy on occassion, mostly its a clue to him that I might need a little bit more emotional support (I'm feeling the need to be protected, the name is a clue for him to act more gently with me). Or I just call him Daddy because it makes us both smile (my tone is very different depending on the situation)

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