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RE: After Care - 9/10/2009 12:37:47 AM   
fadedshadow


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Status: offline 		aftercare for me is like cuddling and having a blanket wrapped around me. oh and having some water and chocolate

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RE: After Care - 9/10/2009 8:34:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have to laugh at all the pampering that goes on only because I was taught that the sub/slave was there for the Dom's needs and once those have been met then the sub/slave has done their job. Sure, cuddling & the occasional blanket is great & much appreciated, but I'm just as content without as long as I know he's happy & I've done my job well.

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RE: After Care - 9/10/2009 9:30:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am not sure about anyone one else, but, usually, after any sort of scene, I get extremely depressed, to a suicidal point. I got left alone after a scene, for about ten minutes and cut myself really bad. Strange thing is, I don't remember doing it. Almost like, I feel the depression, I know whats going on, but I am not in control of myself. I do things that I could never normally do when I have control. I never hurt anyone else. Just myself. 

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RE: After Care - 9/10/2009 1:02:45 PM   
fadedshadow


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ORIGINAL: xoxkittenxox

I am not sure about anyone one else, but, usually, after any sort of scene, I get extremely depressed, to a suicidal point. I got left alone after a scene, for about ten minutes and cut myself really bad. Strange thing is, I don't remember doing it. Almost like, I feel the depression, I know whats going on, but I am not in control of myself. I do things that I could never normally do when I have control. I never hurt anyone else. Just myself. 


that can't be good =[


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RE: After Care - 9/10/2009 1:06:13 PM   
VirginPotty


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RE: After Care - 9/10/2009 1:47:35 PM   
Wolf2Bear


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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

I have to laugh at all the pampering that goes on only because I was taught that the sub/slave was there for the Dom's needs and once those have been met then the sub/slave has done their job. Sure, cuddling & the occasional blanket is great & much appreciated, but I'm just as content without as long as I know he's happy & I've done my job well.


That may work for you Potty though with the relationship which I am creating, I need and will ensure the human factor remains as important as the D/s aspect. When I am bottoming or submitting to another in a play session, aftercare is good though not an absolute requirement. It is the next day which I will crash and I have my own methods to dealing with it until I feel back to normal. With the new boy I am acquiring, the aftercare I will give him is an investment in his well being and giving him a good sense of feeling safe and secure with me, which will extend into the everyday dynamic we have together.


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RE: After Care - 9/10/2009 2:01:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

Sure, cuddling & the occasional blanket is great & much appreciated, but I'm just as content without as long as I know he's happy & I've done my job well.



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RE: After Care - 9/10/2009 4:37:34 PM   
afterforever


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Status: offline 		I like it if a Dom is in the mood to cuddle up with me afterwards, or wash me off in the shower if he's got me particularly filthy, but I wouldn't say it's necessary aftercare. If he just wants to go to sleep, I've never been that out of it that I couldn't stumble off and get my own water, food and antiseptic cream.

I never got cookies and lollipops, I feel hard done by now! My ex was more of a crisps kind of man, no sweet stuff in the house.

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RE: After Care - 9/10/2009 8:31:59 PM   
NuevaVida


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quote:

ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

I have to laugh at all the pampering that goes on only because I was taught that the sub/slave was there for the Dom's needs and once those have been met then the sub/slave has done their job. Sure, cuddling & the occasional blanket is great & much appreciated, but I'm just as content without as long as I know he's happy & I've done my job well.


While I completely agree with the bolded part, why insult others by enjoying something differently than you were taught?


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RE: After Care - 9/19/2009 2:30:37 PM   
BoundDragon


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Status: offline 		I have to agree that knowing I have done well and he is pleased would be the biggest comfort.
I do find that being held and having my hair stroked helps soothe and relax me. When my sir has tucked me up at laid down beside me till I sleep I have drifted off to sleep so totally contented and woken up with an absolute calm happiness.

I have not really experienced proper sub drop but he has done all the above when I have been unwell or sad. I know if I did get sub drop this would be enough for me.

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RE: After Care - 9/19/2009 3:57:44 PM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: afterforever
I never got cookies and lollipops, I feel hard done by now! My ex was more of a crisps kind of man, no sweet stuff in the house.


Tsk, so am I but I have both cookies AND lollipops in because if I am sufficiently please I maybe in the mood to indulge her a little. (Those that consider it bad form to 'pamper' a girl can kiss My ass, she is Mine and I treat her as I want to)

Belfast is a little far to pull the "Want a lollipop little girl?" line


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