marie2 -> RE: Humiliation = Edge Play? (9/9/2009 3:22:55 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey I see humiliation play as edge play, for the simple fact sometimes you just cant come back emotionally, and it could be damaging to your psyche for a long time, or forever. Thoughts? Opinions? I think words that humiliate are or can be hurtful/harmful at the very least, and possibly permanently damaging at the worst. I've engaged in it and even used to crave it, but in my own personal evolution over the years, I've come to think it's something I should avoid. I like and even need to be humiliated within a ds relationship at times, but there are plenty of ways to humble a person that don't involve degrading them or breaking them down or saying ugly, hurtful, and basically untrue things like...."you're a worthless whore" or whathaveyou. The thing about the mind is that it has a "mind" of it's own, and while we might think we are above the damage and have everything in the correct perspective, the damage can be happening without our realizing it. I once read that our subconscious doesn't know the difference between the truth and a lie. I believe that if you hear something enough times, you start to reflect that "truth". On a personal level, I work too god damn hard to build myself up and to function in the world with confidence in myself. I'm not really willing to be called a dumb cunt anymore, and I'm no longer attracted to doms who want to behave that way either. I'm not judging it for anyone else, I just happen to think it's destructive behavior, and ultimately detrimental for the one on the receiving end.
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