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Do You - 9/9/2009 4:13:28 PM

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or are you capable of "switching" in the middle of a scene?
I read a post by an individual who I assume considered himself a Dominant. He appeared to be quite upset that his play partner for the evening had switched in the middle of the scene and I guess had ruined it. Is this something that can or does happen? If this indeed does happen, do you end the scene? do you continue as you may feel a sense of obligation to your partner?

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RE: Do You - 9/9/2009 4:38:41 PM

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No. When I am serving and playing with a dominant, I am in my role as a submissive and play as such. Which means I am as fully in the sub mind space prior to agreeing to play and for the entire session.

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RE: Do You - 9/9/2009 6:51:48 PM

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As with so many questions in what it is that we do, it depends. Depends on the person, depends on what we've negotiated. Definitely something to cover in negotiations . . . . .

Am I capable of switching mid-scene? Sure. But whether I do or not depends on whether my partner(s) & I have decided that's what we want going on . . . . . .

& the 'controversial-ness' of this issue pertains way more to D/s stuff than to SM or sexual top/bottom switching . ... . I've met plenty of dominantly identified persons who like to engage in 'dominant bottoming' & don't necessarily think of themselves as 'switches' even tho' they are engaging behaviorally in 'switching' along the top/bottom axis . . . . . .

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RE: Do You - 9/9/2009 9:13:12 PM

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When subbing, I stay a sub. When Domming, I stay a Domme. When switching, I switch.

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RE: Do You - 9/10/2009 7:12:43 PM

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I can switch during a scene easily...if I'm with a Switch........

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RE: Do You - 9/17/2009 7:26:39 PM

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I've switched in terms of top/bottom within the same scene, but only with another switch, or in circumstances where the other person specifically agreed to it (ie. wrestling/playfighting). In that circumstance, I respect their limits (ie. no biting, not fighting back at full force, etc.). I have topped one person while in a submissive mindset. I have tended to lean slightly dominant no matter which side of the whip I was on in the past, before my previous boyfriend/Dominant. Most of the time, even if I reacted that way, we weren't explicitly in a D/s relationship, though.

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RE: Do You - 9/18/2009 12:32:34 AM

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I'm quite sure that I am capable of it.

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RE: Do You - 9/18/2009 1:21:06 AM

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When subbing, I stay a sub. When Domming, I stay a Domme. When switching, I switch.

This, except, I've never switched with the same person. Though I think I'm capable of it, I think my mind woudl percieve that as more top/bottom.

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RE: Do You - 9/19/2009 8:19:31 AM

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I prefer to stay "in postion" during a scene - swapping halfway through tends to ruin my headspace no matter if I'm topping or bottoming.

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RE: Do You - 9/19/2009 12:30:58 PM

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Yes it can happen, but I think there has to be a real ability to sense within a scene when it is appropriate. Doing it just out of sheer power struggle is bound to cause problems and a lot of hurt feelings. Doing so because it is needed and right in that moment is another thing entirely.

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RE: Do You - 9/20/2009 3:50:48 PM

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I'd say it would depend on the situation and the person. I'd say it's possible but I prefer to stay in one role durring an experience .

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RE: Do You - 9/20/2009 9:38:08 PM

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I'd say yes, I belive I am capable of it. I am not sure in what context I would desire to do it.
Hmmmm, some back and forth is sometimes interesting energy...that's the most ready thing that comes to mind.
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RE: Do You - 9/21/2009 9:36:12 AM

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I can, certainly. i'm a ProSwitch, so it's necessary sometimes, but I enjoy it, too. I prefer to sub at the beginning of the session, and then feel for clues about the perfect moment to "turn the tables">
It can be very hot, particularly in a roleplay scenario...Secretary taking control of the boss, schoolgirl dominating the teacher/Headmistress, very very sexy!

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RE: Do You - 9/21/2009 4:44:27 PM

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or are you capable of "switching" in the middle of a scene?
I read a post by an individual who I assume considered himself a Dominant. He appeared to be quite upset that his play partner for the evening had switched in the middle of the scene and I guess had ruined it. Is this something that can or does happen? If this indeed does happen, do you end the scene? do you continue as you may feel a sense of obligation to your partner?

Anything CAN happen and sometimes does.
Myself I'm wired dominant but have had enough drive to submit in specific relationships that I would be less than honest by not putting it out there. Takes a hell of a dom to flip my switch...and some days I miss him very much.

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RE: Do You - 9/24/2009 6:40:49 PM

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I couldn't switch mid-scene I'm simply not wired that way. I'm a switch in the sense that at any given time I'm either Top or bottom, but never ever with the same person.

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RE: Do You - 9/25/2009 9:16:49 AM

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I have switched in the middle of a scene when it calls for it. But with my wolf I tend to let everything happen as it does. Some times I am the domme and some times I am the sub. Completely depends on the scene we are in at the time.

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RE: Do You - 10/15/2009 11:59:56 AM

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Yes, I have done.

As others have said it depends on a lot of factors. I still consider myself mostly sub but in the right circumstances & company switching in the middle of play like that has happened. Some people just bring it out in me somehow...

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RE: Do You - 10/15/2009 2:48:05 PM

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I can and have, even though I do not consider myself a switch. But so much of what I (we) enjoyed was resistance play and that involves a lot of flipping between who has the most power at the time.

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RE: Do You - 10/16/2009 11:13:18 PM

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This is a huge turn-on for me. I love the idea of the sub deciding that s/he has had enough of being bossed around and suddenly deciding to take charge. I have one particular fantasy of a man dominating me together with another submissive girl. Then we realize that together we could easily overpower him and so we decide to turn on him. It takes him by complete surprise and then he doesn't seem so domineering anymore when he is begging us for mercy! Oooooh, it drives me wild to think about it.

I also love the idea of starting a scene when you haven't yet decided who will play which role, and so it begins with a power struggle. For instance, there is a pair of handcuffs and whoever manages to get the other handcuffed gets to be the dominant one that evening. Either I get to give him an evil smirk as I see that look of defeat in his eyes, or he has my hands cuffed behind my back as he leans down and whispers in my ear "You lose, sweetheart."

So yes, I would absolutely love to switch in the middle of the scene. Yes, yes, yes!

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RE: Do You - 10/24/2009 1:37:57 PM

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I could NEVER imagine switching with my owner especially in the middle of a scene.

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