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EspadaKing -> Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 3:22:28 PM)

I keep emailing female subs and slaves but none of them are responding am I suppose to address them in a certain way when answering there request for a Master/ Owner?



dundreggen -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 3:33:27 PM)

How are you doing it now?  I like funny, or intelligent discussion, I want to know WHY i should respond.  Each sub will be different.



Rule -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 3:36:38 PM)

You ought to address them as Your Excellency. (Unless you are a Gorean, in which case you command them: "Kneel, slaves!") [8D] [;)]

Now seriously: I always say "Hi", but I say that to other people as well.



lilivontramp -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 3:38:57 PM)

I'll reply to anyone who doesn't ask to see my body parts, how hard I like to be spanked, or call me "girl, sub, slave." Someone showing interest in me as a person and not just a toy will get a nice reply...usually.

ETA: I'm not available, but I'll still be friendly.



Carmeldelight -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 3:44:06 PM)

It all starts off with using manors. Start of by saying hello or even introducing your self using your name. Second respect if the submissive is interested in just one race, let the submissive know that you are aware of her needs but I just want to be friends. I have posted that I am interested in African American Men, but I still get other men of races who just do not know how to read.



SweetNika -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 3:48:11 PM)

I dont respond to emails from alot of doms and NEVER answer emails from dommes. Typical reasons I dont answer emails from dons are that they are not local or after reading their profiles I dont think we share common ground. My nonresponse is indeed a polite response in my opinion.

Edited to add: Be patient and remember to approach submissives like women.



BeIgnited -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 3:48:41 PM)

Was your profile active when you messaged them?

Were I looking, unless the content of the message was really intriguing, I wouldn't bother to respond to respond to someone who either didn't have a profile or left theirs blank.



DesFIP -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 3:51:07 PM)

Without a profile, don't expect any responses. We use profiles to see if there is obvious incompatibilities; age, edge play, poly etc.

Beyond that: read their profiles.

If someone says no one over 30 and you're 40, don't assume you are the exception. You aren't.
If they say monogamous and you want her to be bi, don't write.

It would help if you participate in a friendly manner in the forums. We will read your posts to see what kind of a person you really are, not what you say about yourself. Your post about fem dommes alone would prevent any female from writing you. You were nasty, attacking, rude, and barely comprehensible. That is not the way to make friends and influence enemies. And saying you didn't mean to offend when you went out of your way to be offensive doesn't cut it.
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littlewonder -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 5:38:26 PM)

How do you react to women in real life?

Be polite, be respectful, be nice, show a genuine interest in them.

Oh...and get a profile and post a pic.



DarkSteven -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 5:40:30 PM)

Note that the women, Domme or sub female, get LOTS of mail and many ignore almost all of it.  So, do as the others say but don't count on a reply.



CarrieO -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 6:15:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: EspadaKing

I keep emailing female subs and slaves but none of them are responding am I suppose to address them in a certain way when answering there request for a Master/ Owner?


Yes...address them as people, not as a sub or a slave.  Just because someone uses the label submissive or slave doesn't mean they're YOUR sub/slave.  Mind your manners, comment on something in their profile, be creative, add a bit of humor and be patient. 

Of course, none of this will likely matter if you don't take the time to have an active well-written profile. No profile/blank profile = no reply generally.



fluffypet61 -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 6:58:33 PM)

this girl does NOT answer if there is no profile.



Musicmystery -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 7:06:58 PM)

~FR~

Doesn't anyone understand the art of seduction anymore?

Or its importance?



Sunnyfey -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 7:08:22 PM)

Some still do, I made a post in my journal about sensuality.

I think that's one thing people forget about during the seduction phase of dating..



porcelaine -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 7:18:09 PM)

i'd defer to traditional honorifics or simply the username to avoid being offensive. i would not refer to her as girl, slave, or something objectifying. that can be taken in the wrong context. i've personally never liked either.

porcelaine



Stephann -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 7:24:26 PM)

I've have pretty good success in getting replies.  There's a lot of suggestions on the link in my signature.  Attach a photo to every email you send out, as well; girls are more likely to read messages with that 'photo' icon next to it.

Also, a brief thought; if you see them on the left side, indicating they're 'new users', it means everyone else sees that too.  Those girls are getting up to ten pages of email a day.

Stephan



Sunnyfey -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 7:27:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: EspadaKing

I keep emailing female subs and slaves but none of them are responding am I suppose to address them in a certain way when answering there request for a Master/ Owner?


The entitlement in this statement is most likely what throws them off. You are NOT the answer  their prayers for finding a perfect Dom.

You could always try acting like a normal man talking to a normal woman.



Acer49 -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 8:17:47 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: EspadaKing

I keep emailing female subs and slaves but none of them are responding am I suppose to address them in a certain way when answering there request for a Master/ Owner?


Well since you have no profile I would assume that might have something to do with it



HeavansKeeper -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/10/2009 9:20:23 PM)

Go to your "Read Mail" and view your sent mail. First establish they're viewing the message.

If you're just playing a numbers game, that's fine. But expect certain statistics. If I blind messaged 1,000 female subs, I'd expect 985 non-responses, 8-12 "No thank you, sir. I wish the best to you and pet", and 1-3 replies with interest to whatever proposition I offered.

Stephann does show some great ways to narrow the odds in a healthy constructive manner. It's good council.



SweetNika -> RE: Getting a Sub/Slave to reply. (9/11/2009 11:16:48 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: porcelaine

i'd defer to traditional honorifics or simply the username to avoid being offensive. i would not refer to her as girl, slave, or something objectifying. that can be taken in the wrong context. i've personally never liked either.

porcelaine



I had a dom write me several times and refer to me as "the sub" it was the most annoying thing, I honestly didn't read past that. I asked him to use my name when refering to me or speaking to me, he said "but aren't you a submissive?" I really wanted to smack him.



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