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I dont know much about being a slave can some one give ... - 9/12/2009 10:48:28 AM

bitchboyslave

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I met a Mistress online or to be more appropriate I met my Mistress online last night we talked in a chat room for a little bit now I am wandering wether how I should keep the line of communication open.

Should I a message her again if so how long should I wait and what should I say?

Should I invite her to be my friend?

Also I have some dominant traits and was wandering what should be done about them?
Is obedience training is a standard part of the relationship because even though I am obedient which I told her I may still require obedience training?

I have never been a slave before and I dont want to blow it like I did last time. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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RE: I dont know much about being a slave can some one g... - 9/12/2009 10:53:44 AM

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If you don't know what you are doing go slow......

So you chat up a dominant pair of panties online, and are prepared to prostate yourself forthwith?

How about you mail her, tell her a little about why you are interested in her, leaving out any notion of anything that made your dick hard, (unless you didn't have any notions that didn't, in which case, don't bother going any further) and say you would like to visit with her and see if some sort of relationship could develop......

then, slowly accustom her imagination by degrees to your other notions.

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RE: I dont know much about being a slave can some one g... - 9/12/2009 11:16:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

If you don't know what you are doing go slow......

So you chat up a dominant pair of panties online, and are prepared to prostate yourself forthwith?

How about you mail her, tell her a little about why you are interested in her, leaving out any notion of anything that made your dick hard, (unless you didn't have any notions that didn't, in which case, don't bother going any further) and say you would like to visit with her and see if some sort of relationship could develop......

then, slowly accustom her imagination by degrees to your other notions.

Ron

Agreed. For the OP, one thing you should keep in mind in the beginning is that you don't have a foot race going on where you have to achieve nirvana (or even listen to Nirvana) on the first day. If I had any advice to give myself when I was at your stage, it would have been "take is slow and try to enjoy each moment as it happens". I jumped into slavery situations so fast when I was first getting into the scene (decades ago), and as a result, my mind was not on the present but on achieving something that could have happened all on its own, without my constant focus.

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RE: I dont know much about being a slave can some one g... - 9/13/2009 12:11:14 AM

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I met a Mistress online or to be more appropriate I met my?? Mistress online last night we talked in a chat room for a little bit now I am wandering wether how I should keep the line of communication open.

My emphasis added to the OP: If you are "Hers" as the result of one chat you both have a problem!

Should I a message her again if so how long should I wait and what should I say?

Try "I really enjoyed last night's chat and would love to chat with you again".

Should I invite her to be my friend?

No. Either wait till she suggests it (you know, actually allow her to be the Dominant one) or indicate that you would like to invite her and ask her if she is ok with that.

Also I have some dominant traits and was wandering what should be done about them?

What dominant traits might they be?

Is obedience training is a standard part of the relationship because even though I am obedient which I told her I may still require obedience training?

Well unless you were born knowing what she wants and how she wants you to obey ...
however it's also true to say NOTHING is standard, every relationship is worked out on an individual basis.

I have never been a slave before and I dont want to blow it like I did last time.?? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Does anyone else see anything wrong with this sentence???

Listen, you are getting wayyyyy ahead of yourself here. One chat does not a relationship make. I know that as a Domme I see this sort of over-reaction quite often, I specifically explain that I will not be railroaded into any kind of commitments or rush into relationships, boys persist and the result is that I am TOTALLY TURNED OFF THEM. Because it becomes ever so plain that they simply aren't listening to what I have to say ... which tells Me they won't make a good submissive because I won't be able to teach them what they need to know. So out the door they go.

So if you really don't want to blow it like you did the last time you weren't a slave because you haven't been one before ... chill out, enjoy the chats and let things build very very slowly ... at HER pace!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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