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Lockit -> RE: Cabbage patch submissive’s… (9/13/2009 12:00:11 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Elastic
I feel that I have some characteristics that fit your definition of a "Cabbage Patch Submissive", so perhaps I can shed some light on this.
As a person I am quite reserved and often reluctant to voice my opinions and speak my mind freely. It takes time to become comfortable with new people and open up. So I have a rather passive nature which I believe is directly related to my identifying as a submissive. I understand that I am just one example of a submissive and I don't pretend for a second that all submissives fit this pattern. In fact, I don't know if any submissives do. But if more do exist, then their personality, like mine, is likely hidden just below the surface. For those who have the patience, just peel back the outer leaves and take a closer look. Who knows what you might find, maybe even a big green caterpillar [;)]
By the way, I just loved your cabbage patch analogy. I can't help thinking of how, if left unpicked, any cabbage will become tough, woody and go to seed.
It isn't shyness and I would not be impatient with someone who was shy or to some degree, passive. I wouldn't call you a cabbage patch submissive! lol I think the point is, that you have an opinion or view of things and know about yourself and life, whether you are open to express them freely or not. You are not lost, with no understanding of how a relationship might work or how a dominant might feel and how to live life. You are only shy about presenting it all. That is different than what I mean.
What I am talking about basically is a person who is above say twenty one, who doesn't have a clue about how to function in society or within a relationship or with a woman/dominant, as if we are alien creatures. I guess it is hard to explain without getting into details which could sound rather harsh and as if there is no acceptance for some struggle someone might have.
I can be patient and teach, but I cannot be patient or teach elementary things. I cannot think for someone else and I expect them to be able to think for themselves, have opinions and interest and not be empty of personality or life experiences that would make them interesting to talk to and not someone who sits and waits for me to instruct them in all things. They don't need me to tell them what to think, what to do and how to do simple things. I am not a human programer.
And I am too foggy to explain this very well... my bad! lol
Going for more coffee... I can really type and talk... I can!
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