but I'm not looking for a pro. Am I dreaming?
Seriously, does your wife know? Yes this can be argued to be "not sex" but explain that to the divorce court judge.
If your wife goes to munches and stuff and makes friends with a Mistress, maybe. (Only "maybe")
Seriously, I'm not a Domme, FemDom, Domina, (Domette),or whatever. I should not speak for them, but your question was too good to pass up!
When the Lady smiles i can't resist her call. As a matter of fact, i don't resist at all. Well that depends if it is a smile or a grimmace.