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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/3/2006 2:22:02 AM

Lashra

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I love roleplay, the costumes, the fun of donning another persona for awhile. I don't get into the M/s slave thang *owning* other people its just not my bag. But I certainly don't mind playing a slaver owner in the bedroom for awhile.

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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/3/2006 5:57:16 AM

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Is that still roleplay? or is it simply a misunderstanding observer?

I've thought about this a lot as well- there's a lot of grey area here.

When I do age play, I'm not pretending to be "an 8 year old." I become MYSELF at 8 again. So am I playing a role or am I being myself in a different way?

Perhaps we need new terms: Role Play and Role Being? I don't want to start some elitist division here, but it might help to clarify.

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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/3/2006 8:44:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: MsPurrmeow
Is that still roleplay? or is it simply a misunderstanding observer?

I become MYSELF at 8 again. So am I playing a role or am I being myself in a different way?

are you being yourself at 8? or are you just being yourself at 8 as you preceived yourself? How we precieve ourselves is never complete! Just as how others see us in never complete!

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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/3/2006 8:55:45 AM

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are you being yourself at 8? or are you just being yourself at 8 as you preceived yourself? How we precieve ourselves is never complete! Just as how others see us in never complete!

I say I become myself at 8 because of the headspace I go into. I naturally will react to things as I did then. Who can say if I am acting as I actually did unless they were my family? Well, while my aunt was my mistress, we did not get into age play in that relationship, so no dice there unfortunately.

I know that my recollections from those scenes are fuzzy, I know that I don't THINK about reacting, I simply react, I know I don't THINK "what would my 8 year old self do?" I just do it. And I never consciously pick the "age" that I'm being at that time, it can shift radically.

And while it's not particularly relevant to the topic, I'm not sure that I agree that we never have a complete perception of ourselves.

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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/3/2006 9:07:25 AM

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Nothing about what I do is role play, and it has always been this way. In my world, it's either real or it is not. This quality makes me quite rigid in the eyes of many who switch or possess a virtual rolodex of fetish personas. By saying this I'm not insinuating that role play is necessarily bad, however. To each their own.

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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/3/2006 9:10:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: amayos

Nothing about what I do is role play, and it has always been this way. In my world, it's either real or it is not. This quality makes me quite rigid in the eyes of many who switch or possess a virtual rolodex of fetish personas. By saying this I'm not insinuating that role play is necessarily bad, however. To each their own.

Why would people consider you rigid just because you don't engage in a certain kink? And what does role playing or not have to do with switching?

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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/3/2006 9:16:30 AM

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I can definitely relate to what you are saying here. I don't consider myself as being into age play. If it were a role I were playing it would feel just as silly to me as playing a medieval serving wench. However, on a few occassions I have actually experienced what I call "going little" which as you said is more about one's headspace than consciously playing a role. It's more about a feeling of child like vulnerability, mannerisms, thought processes than pretending to be a certain age. Normally it's not something I recognize until after it has passed.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
I say I become myself at 8 because of the headspace I go into. I naturally will react to things as I did then. Who can say if I am acting as I actually did unless they were my family? Well, while my aunt was my mistress, we did not get into age play in that relationship, so no dice there unfortunately.

I know that my recollections from those scenes are fuzzy, I know that I don't THINK about reacting, I simply react, I know I don't THINK "what would my 8 year old self do?" I just do it. And I never consciously pick the "age" that I'm being at that time, it can shift radically.

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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/3/2006 10:18:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: StrawberrySkye
Why would people consider you rigid just because you don't engage in a certain kink?

It's not so much a certain kink as it is a general doctrine I follow, which tends to dampen the role play concept.

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And what does role playing or not have to do with switching?

For myself I have quite often found switches akin to kids romping around lustfully in a candy store; they experience a breadth of personalities and scenarios; they manage to have really hot sex in a sort of psycho-sensual safari, but tend to be transient and not entirely reliable one way or the other.

Obviously, there are different definitions of "switch", so the above critique does not apply to all.

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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/3/2006 5:21:03 PM

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Nothing about what I do is role play, and it has always been this way. In my world, it's either real or it is not.

i'm going to start calling you "Master's Brother."

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RE: Role play in a D/s relationship - 3/6/2006 4:50:38 PM

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Everyone has their own D/s style.
For the MOST part I don't get into role playing, but on occasion my husband/slave and I do enjoy playing out the roles of strangers while out in public.

This only works when going somewhere no one knows us, because it depends on the people present not knowing that we are in fact together.

We pre-arrange a place and time to meet and act out my enslaving the "innocent young man" - he's 13 years younger than I.
It's fun.:)

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