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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

You have no control over what someone says. You DO have control over the way you react to it.

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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Fat, Ugly, Fucked Up, or Stupid...... Sometimes people are just assholes.

andi was on Prozac and is now on something stronger.

You are most likely upset because you are an emotional person and it upset you..... NOTHING IS WRONG WITH THAT.

Just ask yourself how long you are going to be letting this guy control YOUR emotions.

Steel

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ORIGINAL: tammystarm

im learning, trying really weally hard. control of emotions. 

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ORIGINAL: dualityinmotion

Sometimes people take jabs at others just see the reaction. Sad, but true. So if you don't react outwardly to him, he doesn't get what he's looking for and goes away. Almost like a schoolyard bully.

Another reaction is to come back to them with humor... "i know, isn't awful, all of us here just waiting for help?" (Include him in the "all of us" thing... because sometimes those who criticize others really fear the same things in themselves.)

Finally... regarding the not belonging there, couldn't You just choose not to go there anymore? Not log on or be invisible or even just end your membership? I'm pretty sure if you felt you needed to leave for your own health, the owners would allow you to give up your mod job.

I totally agree with the idea above that you are in control of your reactions... it's a matter of choice. When i'm not sure how to react or what to do, i do nothing initially... sit still, think, sort my thoughts...then act rationally. At times i've even told myself not to respond to an email for a whole day... 24 hours...to be sure i wasn't doing a knee-jerk reaction to something.

Hope some of this helps somehow.

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ORIGINAL: sophia37

You reacted this way because there was a button pushed. What's your issue with Prozac? Or is it something else in that thread? You need to go back and re-read it. trust me. The second time around it wont have the same impact.

Or if you find the exact same spot hits you exactly the same way, then STOP, right at that moment and think it thru. Whats the problem? It's in there somewhere. Make yourself aware of what it is that bothers you. Don't run away from it. Confront yourself head on. Try it.

I find I don't go back and read the threads I post on. I wonder why that really is. Am I afraid of what someone might say? or am I as truly forgetful of where I last posted. Maybe you think you've said it all and there is no more.

Maybe I'll stop back and re-read this thread. Cant say for sure. 

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Pa, why would you care? Seriously. 

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

See, now that's why I would make a shitty Mod...I would have left the remark as posted, and your initial reply as well. I wouldn't bother trying to stop flame wars...in fact as a Mod I really wouldn't do much of anything except read and enjoy.