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LadyHibiscus -> RE: What do i do? (9/23/2009 12:08:53 PM)

Aw, I feel bad for ya, LaT!



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: What do i do? (9/23/2009 12:12:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly
As is an exceptional submissive, meaning one that practices his right to be selective, and holds himself to the higher regard of not being used.
So we should not be using submissives?     Uh oh! [8|]
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choccywoc
i'm not really looking merely to have my "silly ass beaten" or to be given a "roughing up". As you say i can get that anywhere. An exceptional mistress is difficult to find.
Only you know what an exceptional mistress means to you, and I hope you can either work it out with your current.   Exceptional submissives are hard to come by as well, but again, it's a matter of different strokes for everyone.    Some men rather enjoy having their silly behinds beaten.    M



LaTigresse -> RE: What do i do? (9/23/2009 12:20:43 PM)

And used. [:D]



MmeRegineSybille -> RE: What do i do? (9/23/2009 1:12:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: choccywoc

  I've been seeing the same mistress for about a year and our first few meetings were out-of-this-world. She has the equipment and the experience and a large house to go with this lifestyle. The sessions would always loads of foot-worship, of which i can't get enough & frantic punishment, i would try to count the strokes but could never keep up. I was quite happy to be her servant & domestic. Yet of late the sessions have become boring, to say the least. Her enthusiasm is gone, whenever i meet her she is dressed in her normal clothes, everything is a chore she reluctantly punishes me, seldom does anything like we used to do. Yet her demands for gifts are outrageous running into tens of thousands of £/$. The thing is, is it time to move on? My major problem is that i live in a Mistress Wilderness. 


And not it appears you are Her money pig.........is that what you wish? you must define what you wish a relationship to be then make it happen.........if it does not involve Her then c'est la vie mon ami!........Her loss.......but now, not Her responsibilitie.......She is using you as She wishes.......it is not for you to whine and complain.....it is Her wish.......if this is not how you wish to serve a Woman.....then find One that fits your desire of serving..........not so complicated......no?



TexasMaam -> RE: What do i do? (9/23/2009 7:27:15 PM)

Have you tried begging? Perhaps She responds to 'petitions' or 'begging' for what you need? Just a thought. TM



choccywoc -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 4:08:11 AM)

I've tried begging, pleading & groveling, yet she prefers the talk of money.



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 6:49:31 AM)

Maybe she's become bored with your not offering anything else worthwhile for her amusement. 
I can't imagine a woman would give up fun, in favor of money alone, when she can have both.    M



MMagic -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 7:05:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Tens of thousands?!?!?!

I am SOOOOOO in the wrong profession.

OP, move to Iowa........for tens of thousands I will dress up and beat your silly ass!



Damn..I'm thinking the same thing....



thetammyjo -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 7:29:37 AM)


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ORIGINAL: choccywoc

   I've been seeing the same mistress for about a year and our first few meetings were out-of-this-world. She has the equipment and the experience and a large house to go with this lifestyle. The sessions would always loads of foot-worship, of which i can't get enough & frantic punishment, i would try to count the strokes but could never keep up. I was quite happy to be her servant & domestic. Yet of late the sessions have become boring, to say the least. Her enthusiasm is gone, whenever i meet her she is dressed in her normal clothes, everything is a chore she reluctantly punishes me, seldom does anything like we used to do. Yet her demands for gifts are outrageous running into tens of thousands of £/$. The thing is, is it time to move on? My major problem is that i live in a Mistress Wilderness. 


If you are paying her, then this is a professional relationship and you are a customer.

If she can't uphold her end of the services you are paying for, find another professional.




fadedshadow -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 7:32:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: choccywoc

I've tried begging, pleading & groveling, yet she prefers the talk of money.


methinks she's using ya and she's not even upholding her part



Venatrix -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 1:16:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: fadedshadow

quote:

ORIGINAL: choccywoc

I've tried begging, pleading & groveling, yet she prefers the talk of money.


methinks she's using ya and she's not even upholding her part



Yes, indeed.  It's time the OP woke up and smelt the single-malt whisky.  The truly sad thing is he's not even being used in a subtle way.  I mean, if you're going to use someone, at least do it with a bit of finesse, yanno?



fadedshadow -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 4:40:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: fadedshadow

quote:

ORIGINAL: choccywoc

I've tried begging, pleading & groveling, yet she prefers the talk of money.


methinks she's using ya and she's not even upholding her part



Yes, indeed.  It's time the OP woke up and smelt the single-malt whisky.  The truly sad thing is he's not even being used in a subtle way.  I mean, if you're going to use someone, at least do it with a bit of finesse, yanno?


right but even then, using someone isn't cool at least not to me



Venatrix -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 4:55:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: fadedshadow

right but even then, using someone isn't cool at least not to me



Of course not.  I had counted on people recognising that my post was tongue-in-cheek.



fadedshadow -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 7:45:40 PM)

i see



looking4princess -> RE: What do i do? (9/24/2009 8:03:22 PM)

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I've tried begging, pleading & groveling, yet she prefers the talk of money.


To borrow from some old songs.... "Some people want to abuse you... some people want to be abused" You, my friend, seem to be of the latter species and loving it mightily elsewise methinks you would not be on these boards admitting to such sniveling behavior. If you do not wish to be abused put on your size 10s and "hit the road, jack" [:)]



Politesub53 -> RE: What do i do? (9/25/2009 12:58:02 AM)

Sweet dreams are made of this, who am I to disagree ?



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: What do i do? (9/25/2009 1:31:52 AM)

I've traveled the world, and the seven seas [not really, yet] , everybody's looking for something.
<<<<<-------- Love the song, and listen to it regularly.    M



LadyHibiscus -> RE: What do i do? (9/25/2009 8:25:03 AM)

Okay, HOW do LaT and I set up this plan where folks give us monies?  Because she needs boots, eh, and I need a blue cross card!  We are highly deserving women who would love to have people reward us for existing in the universe! 



ShaktiSama -> RE: What do i do? (9/25/2009 8:34:50 AM)

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ORIGINAL: choccywoc

  Thanks for the humour and the well intended advice. I'm sorry i mentioned the financial side of things, as i'm not really looking merely to have my "silly ass beaten" or to be given a "roughing up". As you say i can get that anywhere. An exceptional mistress is difficult to find.


True dat.  Pity you haven't found one.

You're seeing a pro.  Always have been, always will be.  The dynamic established was that she took the Big Money and she delivered the Big Prize--dressed up like your wildest dream, indulged you in hours of foot/shoe worship, poured hours of sweat into beating your ass.

The only problem with your relationship now is that she is no longer acting like a pro.  She's taking your money and behaving like a real woman--one who doesn't exist to fulfill your sexual fantasies and doesn't exert herself to please you every time you walk into the room.  Unfortunately, a woman can't really do that when she's in a relationship like yours.  She's not allowed to be real.  She's a pro, and she needs to deliver the services you're paying for, or you're not happy.

Personally, I'm a lifestyle domme, which means I don't take money from men.  It also means that I live and dress to fulfill my own fantasies--not a man's.  I dress up in fetish gear about once or twice a year, when *I* feel like wearing the stupid uncomfortable crap.  That schedule does not = "every time I spend a single minute in the company of a submissive".

Similarly, I do not subject myself to hours of foot and shoe worship when that fetish bores me absolutely to death. And I also do not pour on hours of topping if that topping is going to be absolutely non-orgasmic for me and draining in every single possible way:  physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

You asked in this thread what you should do, and people gave you a legitimate answer:  if you're going to see a professional, find one who behaves in a consistently professional manner.  It's one thing to hire a working girl--it's another to pay for something you're not getting.  You used to be a John.  Now you're a Mark. 



SaharahEve -> RE: What do i do? (9/25/2009 8:56:58 AM)

We tend to do what works for us whether it's reasonable or not. You'll eventually find your answer yourself. Good luck...



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