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Do you stretch yourself for a good slave? - 8/28/2004 10:47:32 PM

monsieur42

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Hello to all,
I am relatively new at Collarme, this is my first post.
I would like to know from Mistresses if they sometimes stretch their own limits to reward good behaviors and services from a slave. For instance, if your slave would have a strong fantasy about an activity you do not really enjoy, would you consider doing this activity as a special means to reward your slave or do you keep activities strictly for your own pleasure? We often hear about stretching the soft limits of the slaves, what about the soft limits of the Dom(me)?

(A special hello to Lady Angelika whose posts are among my favorites (no offense to everybody else)).

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RE: Do you stretch yourself for a good slave? - 8/29/2004 9:21:55 AM

MaitresseEden

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Wonderful topic!

My answer is.... "to a degree".. with the Caveat that I don't consider expanding and exploring mine and my partners sexuality and connections to be a limit.

Because the things that get me hot, and turn me on are the acts that give me the reactions that I need to feel the power of the control I have over another individual, I've learned over time never to say never. Things I enjoy with one, I may not enjoy with another. In fact I may find them revolting with another. After 12 years in the scene, if 6 years ago someone had told me I'd like fisting, or needles, I would have told them NO WAY.. not going to happen. But then I had a sub who totally "morphed" for lack of a better word into this most exquiste creature during those activies, and had I not been willing to explore that I would have been deprived such bliss myself. That said, it is an activity that I don't enjoy with everyone. Another submissive I played with later, who was a huge anal slut, did nothing for me in that area. It actually turned me off.

For me what I do, is find what pushed the buttons that give me the total and complete mental and physical surrender that I need, and then I keep pushing. There is something majestic about having a male in a position where his body betrays him and he is helpless to refuse me

mmmm... what sweet thoughts.

Ms.Eden

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RE: Do you stretch yourself for a good slave? - 8/29/2004 11:13:46 AM

LadyAngelika

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Salut toi ;) Welcome to the boards! It’s nice to see you posting here.

Do I stretch a good slave? Oh yes, in fact I’d love to get my hands on a stretching rack!

Oh wait… that wasn’t your question ;) Do I stretch for a good slave… well you probably already have an idea about this based on our discussions but let me take this one step further.

I believe the day we stop learning and discovering, we might as well stop existing. That being said, as much as a sub needs to trust a Dominant to have their limits pushed, the reverse is true. In the end, these BDSM activities permit us to discover dimensions of ourselves and I believe going further is only natural. So yes, I would stretch my limits but not for the slave so much as I would for myself. The slave getting pleasure out of it would simply be a nice side effect.

Oh I’m so waiting to hear MizSuz’s opinion on this. <weg>

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RE: Do you stretch yourself for a good slave? - 8/29/2004 3:23:12 PM

LadyShoshin

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ORIGINAL: monsieur42

Hello to all,
I am relatively new at Collarme, this is my first post.
I would like to know from Mistresses if they sometimes stretch their own limits to reward good behaviors and services from a slave. For instance, if your slave would have a strong fantasy about an activity you do not really enjoy, would you consider doing this activity as a special means to reward your slave or do you keep activities strictly for your own pleasure? We often hear about stretching the soft limits of the slaves, what about the soft limits of the Dom(me)?

(A special hello to Lady Angelika whose posts are among my favorites (no offense to everybody else)).

Yes I have, and probably will continue to as I grow. There are some set in concrete limits, so I would suggest they find someone else, or as with my roommate/public playpartner, I am finding the best Dom/mes in certain skills and putting him in their hands. I did that this past Friday. I am not skilled with a single tail, but I know someone who is, a Dom I have trusted to whip me. They both had a great time! The saying was from the t-shirt he wore that night.

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RE: Do you stretch yourself for a good slave? - 8/29/2004 5:44:39 PM

DarkDeadGirrrl

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It depends on the sitaution, but I am in agreement, with a few exceptions, I can not honestly say never.

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RE: Do you stretch yourself for a good slave? - 8/29/2004 9:53:41 PM

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only for My subby hubby. He has blessed Me with 3 yrs of wonderful servitude thus far so I feel I can give him one of his fantasies which is seeing Me Domme a female.

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RE: Do you stretch yourself for a good slave? - 8/30/2004 12:26:02 PM

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