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what do you think ? - 9/29/2009 4:35:00 PM

young2learn

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Thank you for taking the time to read my question. Not sure if this it right place. My Dom (daddy) wants to explore his sub side so he has ask me to look for a Mistress for us. i was talking with a Mistress this afternoon she said that is was just wrong that he has a slave when he is a switch.I dont think its any diff then a woman(or man) who is in a dom switch and has there own slave My question is what do you think is it ok what he has a slave when he is a switch.

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RE: what do you think ? - 9/29/2009 4:43:08 PM

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The last time I thought things I ended up in trouble so I am not allowed. :P

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As long as you are safe, sane, and consensual I see no problem in this.

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RE: what do you think ? - 9/29/2009 4:44:48 PM

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I've said this before on some of the Switch threads.

Yes, I do find it acceptable that a sub of Mine have a sub of his own. However, I do believe in the trickle down theory. What I mean by that is that if My boy owns a girl, by extension, I own her as well. If that wasn't part of the arrangement, I would not be willing to participate.

I would also refuse to participate in such an arrangement where My boy's sub was not aware of My existence.

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RE: what do you think ? - 9/29/2009 4:47:06 PM

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Well people with ideas like that can fuck off pumpkin.

I DO however, very much hope you find the right Domme for your Sir, and everything goes wonderfully.

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RE: what do you think ? - 9/29/2009 4:53:32 PM

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I hope you meant that in response to the original, Sunnyfey, and not My following comments.

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RE: what do you think ? - 9/29/2009 4:56:28 PM

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No!!! lol I meant that to the OP, I would not say that to you!!! LOL, I like your opinions and thoughts too much to ever say that to you.

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RE: what do you think ? - 9/29/2009 5:01:25 PM

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I appreciate that. Sometimes, that 'in reply to' feature can cause some confusion.

Please give My best to NZ.

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RE: what do you think ? - 9/29/2009 5:51:49 PM

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Don't pay attention to the rules of a dominant determining things in your life unless they are your dominant. I find her rule rather idiotic myself.

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RE: what do you think ? - 9/29/2009 6:32:30 PM

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OP, when you described your situation, I could think of a million questions you might ask. Whether a switch could own a slave is NOT one of them. It's happened before and will happen again. I could respect her saying that she didn't want to get involved, but saying it's "wrong"... /shakes head/

Some of the questions I thought of:

1. Who gets to pick the Mistress? The two of you, or just him?
2. How will this entirely new dynamic affect your relationship?
2. Is he looking to try this out, or will it be semipermanent?

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RE: what do you think ? - 10/11/2009 11:12:31 AM

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there are no rules to BDSM everyone has their own opinions, thoughts, views, favorites and limits. Dont listen to other people just do whats right for you.

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