CallaFirestormBW
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For me, the issue comes around the liberal application of the term "No limits". People can call themselves or one another anything they please. It may complicate conversations a bit, until everyone knows what everyone else is talking about, but I found the whole issue of 'slave' vs. 'submissive' so distracting and irrelevant that I stopped using -either- term, and started calling all of those who yield to the dynamic in our household "servants" -- which eliminated the whole issue of whether either is better than the other or more dedicated or -whatever-. What I -don't- see the point of is designating a relationship as "no limits". Every relationship and individual has limits. If an individual's limits are outside of the scope of what I would require, that individual is, essentially, without limits FOR ME, whether or not xhe calls hirself "no limits". Now, if an individual has certain boundaries that _DO_ affect how I manage my household, then there is -no- possible definition by which that individual can be "no limits"... especially if xhe plans on enforcing hir preferences within my household. That is just common sense. One cannot be 'without limits' and then enforce a limit. Now, that being said, I've had servants in my household who did -not- provide housework as part of what we expected of them. It was -my- choice to bring them in, knowing that they weren't going to be useful for housework, and their role in the house was established in the same way that it is for -any- servant in our household. However, if they came into my house with the understanding that I was looking for someone who could handle domestic duties and then they informed me that they didn't -do- that kind of thing... well, suffice to say that the trial period would be shortened consummate with that realization. If a person is going to call hirself NO LIMITS, then xhe had better be willing and able to accept -anything- that comes down the pike. If xhe can't do that, then xhe needs to be honest and not tack on the NO LIMITS designator, as it is dishonest and misleading. I don't care how much xhe feels -romantically attracted- to the IDEA of NO LIMITS... xhe has limits and needs to accept those honestly, and anyone xhe gets involved with needs to be able to both know about them and accept them as well. Dame Calla
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*** Said to me recently: "Look, I know you're the "voice of reason"... but dammit, I LIKE being unreasonable!!!!" "Your mind is more interested in the challenge of becoming than the challenge of doing." Jon Benson, Bodybuilder/Trainer
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