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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

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ORIGINAL: lilboycaught
So it brings up the question.  Are us sub males really unappealing?  Do women just not want us?

Many, if not most, males are unappealing to an individual female.  We're picky, neh?  Your chances of clicking with a specific female based ONLY on a common interest in D/s are low to zero.  If for instance you're a big sports fan and prefer beer, meat and potatoes on the table, and she's a gourmet wine snob who hates sports, there is not a lot of relationship potential or even interesting conversation potential here.  If she's a hardcore gamer geek and you think D&D is for wimps and losers, or you don't know who Cthulhu is, same story.  Fundamentally D/s is still about human relationships, even if you add tight black leather and whips to the equation.  You can't substitute porno movie logic for how human relationships work in real life.

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I'd rather live in reality than fantasy.  I can always jack off over a fantasy, but reality is something I have to live with 24/7.  Please be honest.

That's the first step, really.  Dominant females are *real people*, not cardboard cut-out images from a fetish magazine.  If you treat us like real people and approach relationships with us with the understanding that we are human beings and not drive through McDomme's that exist for your kinky gratification, it's a very positive start. 

If all the dommes you've approached have turned out to be pros, it suggests that you're targeting professional profiles.  If you're only contacting women with magazine quality photos who advertise blatantly that they want kinky sex, well, guess what you're finding.  Try chatting sociably and nicely with women whose profiles seem a little more down to earth and realistic, and you won't be playing into the hands of the stealth pros. 

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ORIGINAL: lilboycaught
Thanks.  I'm aware that there are REAL dominant females.  Like You.  I hope you'll understand though, and I think you do, us sub guys have to wade through a minefield of BS...it gets depressing.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

You had two threads, typically called cross posting. Your other one was in Poll's. They just picked this one to move to the board it belonged on and keep.

As for what submissive's have to put up with around here... everyone has a burden of some sort here. Look at what you have put out there for us dominant women, to put up with. A game... a pitiful, naughty act that demands response claiming he wants honesty.

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ORIGINAL: AresNAphrodite

Three words: contradiction. in. terms.

No matter how many 'bossy', 'assertive', 'fat-but-physically-strong', 'massively-insecure(usually waist over 32 inches)-so-really-demanding' or any other type of 'dominant' female I meet I still find that they have a female brain. And that equals in-built, biologically evolved, chemically induced, female-neural-pathway transmitted timidity.

A dominant female is always insecure in typically female ways. Her conversation topics and language used are always female. And by my (admittedly fairly high) standard of what constitutes True Dominance that means a woman can never be called 'Dominant'. True Dominance implies a capacity for emotional autonomy that women are biologically incapable of.

That said, most 'Dominant' men I've met at munches are not True Dominants either. And I'm not there yet either...

Working on it.

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But most of the "dominant" females who have contacted me or who I've contacted just wanted money or wanted me to join a web site which, I suspect, they were paid on comission to recruit members for.

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

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Lame.

I hope you do give up.  The real dominant women of the site are well shut of whiney losers with no staying power.

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ORIGINAL: AresNAphrodite

One more thing. I think you should stop looking.
I think he should check his attitude, and come back later with a different screen name. The one he has makes it appear that he's already taken.

Take pride in your masculinity and realise that it makes you superior to woman. ALL women.

What a crock of shit.
 
 Being born one sex or another doesn't make anyone "superior".

They are profound children (trying to find who said this, but it wasn't me originally). Flame away girlies, but it's true.

Take responsibility for yourself. Responsibility for the fact that you're a bit of a pussy. Responsibility for the woman-children in your life.
And stop believing you're something called a 'sub-man'. You just haven't ever discovered the joy of realising that women want to be dominated. Trust me. They do. Even the 'dommes' on here...

Even if that were true, we wouldn't want to be dominated by anyone with that kind of offensive attitude. Ew.

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ORIGINAL: queencaliph

Now, you give the guy a break, girl. You know he has to post a lot of messages to get rid of that vanilla cone.