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Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/4/2006 12:51:10 PM

thetammyjo

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While I am a mutual consent freak and I insist on learning all you can, I am not, I must confess, a stickler for 100% as safe as you can get.

Right now, after spending two hours of work, my slave is laying downstairs watching two tv shows I taped for him and mummified from the bottom of his feet to his neck.

I'm upstairs writing this.

There are two floors between us.

It is a choice we make to be less than ideally safe for several reasons and I wanted to just see if others honestly make less than ideally safe choices too.

He was mummifying himself for years before he met me -- we follow his basic procedures so I am fully confident he can get out if he needs or wants to.

I made sure he has padding in the joints and its loose enough to breath.

He's not in a stressful position, just laying on his bed.

And to be perfectly honest myself, when he's fully mummified, I get bored and watching over him gets old fast. He'll want to be in there for a few hours and if I was with him he'd see I was bored and that would ruin it for him.

Is this as safe as we could make it? No. But after six years I can say that I think the safety level is acceptable to us both.

Not really sure why I'm posting but I'm sitting here and he's there and it struck me that I'm not being as safe as I could be and I don't care.

Time to do my 30 minute check.... bye

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/4/2006 3:42:31 PM

Painmaker1

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Add a little humor, push the test button of the smoke detector and see if he can indeed extricate himself?

Gives you something to keep from getting bored?

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/4/2006 5:00:16 PM

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When one of my partners has a drink of alcohol, I always joke and say "Oh man, now we can't play for two weeks."

Thanks for being the bold example of rash and completely irresponsible play. :) I support it 100%

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/4/2006 5:03:37 PM

Lordandmaster

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Maybe THAT'S what happened to Tutankhamun.

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/4/2006 5:19:07 PM

ShadeDiva

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I don't think any of us is 100% safe, 100% of the time every time we play.

I've not checked every 5-10 minutes on my mummified victims. I've allowed them to sit longer than folks say to.

And they also have mummified themselves for years for a LOT longer than I would do it to them.

It's a risk we take I think after we've done things a few times, just like when we cross in the middle of the street rather than at the crosswalk, or don't fully look both ways.

Is it horrible to take that risk? I think mileage will vary on that one.

I think we all make our own choices and they aren't always by the book.

It's all fine and good as long as nothing bad happens. But the reality is that something bad can happen even if you do it by the book - and if it does, you won't feel ANY better just cuz you can say "well I did it by the book". Nor will the consequences be ANY different.

That isn't to say to ditch all accountablity and responsiblities that we all have, but more to say - use thy brain. Make educated and informed decisions. Best we can do really.

JMO.

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/4/2006 11:31:17 PM

jimej6

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Yes comfort levels have a lot to do with it I definitely agree. Especially after you’ve done some thing allot. Especially since you know sitting there would distract form the mood and you already know what to expect, reassured you seem to be doing what’s rite. Now the fire alarm would be funny but cruel but I cant stop laughing at6 the thought anywayz. .lol.. Rowan

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/5/2006 8:47:55 AM

thetammyjo

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Well, no bit surprises but there are times when I check on him and he'll say "I'm ready to come out now" but I check his vitals and reply "Not yet". Then I do go and sit on the steps which are within a few feet and let him stew for longer.

Or I'll say "Time for you to get out. Let's see you do it" and just watch him without helping.

I enjoy watching him wiggle or hearing his drama queening acting and it makes me laugh.

Of course this is after years together doing this and how we do mummification now isn't how we started off. We did it pretty by the book when we started and if I had someone new we'd do it by the book again until I get to know the person and the body better.

Thanks everyone. It just hit me yesterday that for all my worry about safety I had made a choice (series of choices over the years) that was less than ideally safe.

Ah, I'm less than the ideal femdom too so it fits.

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/5/2006 1:15:01 PM

FangsNfeet

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quote:

He was mummifying himself for years before he met me -- we follow his basic procedures so I am fully confident he can get out if he needs or wants to.

Sounds like you're being more than %100 safe if he can get out.

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/5/2006 1:56:03 PM

SimplyV

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Ah, I'm less than the ideal femdom too so it fits.

Bah.. Ideal is a relative term.. I'm sure your sub finds you more than ideal. No one is perfect. But you can be perfect for someone.

V

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/6/2006 7:25:35 AM

thetammyjo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyV

quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Ah, I'm less than the ideal femdom too so it fits.

Bah.. Ideal is a relative term.. I'm sure your sub finds you more than ideal. No one is perfect. But you can be perfect for someone.

V

And no one is the ideal or the stereotype probably.

And would I want to be?

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/7/2006 12:55:41 AM

1wildwolf

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lol, its nice to know that someone else's Domme can get bored when their subby is tied up, i know my owner finds that too, though Wwe are still at that first stage and She wouldn't leave the room for more than a few seconds while i was tied.

that said, i agree that having developed that trust with Ur sub and knowledge of Ur sub's body then what Ur doing, whilst not by-the-book, is for all intents and purposes safe....it's not like Your throwing caution to the wind by the sounds of things.

And, though i'm sure Uve thought of it, if U ever did begin to worry i guess U could always put a baby monitor or some such device beside him so that U could listen to him and hear if he really needed to call for U

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/7/2006 2:41:20 AM

Guilty1974

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quote:

ORIGINAL: 1wildwolf

lol, its nice to know that someone else's Domme can get bored when their subby is tied up, i know my owner finds that too

The time factor is often very important in bondage - letting the ropes do the work. Even when fully suspended my girl gets into subspace a lot easier when I let her "just hang" for some 10 minutes, but it's SOOOO tempting to start torturing straight away... Yeah, I can get bored sometimes when just waiting, but at least when doing suspension or more heavy bondage, leaving the room is not an option.

Roel

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/7/2006 10:13:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Maybe THAT'S what happened to Tutankhamun.

ROFLMAO

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/7/2006 10:45:07 PM

Aimtoplease101

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Those baby monitors-- sort of like one-way walkie talkies-- are not a bad idea in this situation. You can hear the grunts of distress if anything goes awry.

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RE: Bondage -- choosing to be less safe - 3/12/2006 4:43:39 PM

LindaLashes

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Hmm I tried a scene where I was tied up using karada, a form of shibari bondage. legs cinched together at the ankles and knees, hands tied to the side of the body with ropes around wrists and elbows. I lay like that on my back, on the bed, completely unable to free myself. To top it off she enhanced my feeling of helplessness by tying the anklerope to the foot of the bed where I coulnt reach it.
The girl that tied me up left a cellphone in my left hand with her number on speed-dial in case of emergencies. Then she left the appartment for over an hour doing some errands. Just as she closed the appartment door I felt a rush of excitement run through my body. The whole experience was mindblowing, I felt so good the entire time.
Then when she came back she put a ballgag-harness on me and a blindfold, kept me like that for what felt like forever of submissive pleasure. After maybe two hours the changed the bondage, tied my wrists together behind my back.

In all I was in bondage for 5 hours and I loved every minute of it. In the last half hour I was so aroused I actually tried to masturbate by rubbing my thighs together and thrusting my body to the bed. I got halfway but the orgasm just wouln´t come.
The sexual frustration and complete submission in bondage was just awesome!!

She then untied the wrists and allowed me to masturbate, not taking off the ballgag, blindfold or any other parts of the bondage.

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