Andalusite
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A lot of people seem to put something on their "limits" list if their first try goes wrong, or even if it just "sounds" scary. Heck, for that matter, a lot of people seem to feel that if they try having sex with someone of the same gender and don't like it, that they must not be bisexual after all, rather than just unattracted to that specific person/sexual activity/both.
I've been very fortunate to mostly have good experiences with new things, but a couple have gone wrong. About 5 years ago, I took a playpiercing class, and the instructor required that everyone get at least one needle (giving was optional). I teamed up with a Top/Dominant who was a regular playpartner of mine at the time, and a female switch who I had known for a while, but hadn't played with before. Inserting one needle in each of them went fine, and they did one to each other as well. When it was my turn, I nearly fainted - my vision went black, I couldn't say anything or move even though I could still hear them/feel them, and I got rather freaked out by it. The instructor removed the needles for me, and I had a good meal shortly afterward with lots of protein. I think several factors contributed. I was kneeling, so my circulation may have been a bit compromised, I ate a couple of hours before the class started, but it went for another 2 hours or so before it was my turn, and I hadn't had protein, just carbs for breakfast, and we did it cold without any warmup. I've never had trouble with giving blood, so I didn't *think* the needles per se were the problem, but I had some trepidation about trying it again.
My playpartner loves/flies from needles, and we've incorporated her self-inflicting them in a couple of scenes, and I've watched a couple of demos since then. We discussed my learning how to give them back when we first became playpartners, almost a month ago, and I wanted to try them again, but was a bit nervous.
Last night, a Dominant who she plays with sometimes, and who I've been friends with for years, invited us to his home, to learn about playpiercing. He's a very experienced needle top, and has taught classes before on the subject. He demonstrated on my playpartner first, with 5 needles, then her husband did one in her arm. He's mostly vanilla, but openminded and
willing to give it a try to please her occasionally. Then, my Master and I each inserted one in her breasts.
It was my turn next, and my Master caned me first as a warmup, to get the endorphins going. I lay down, so that there wouldn't be as likely to be any circulation issues or light-headedness, and it barely hurt at all! He did one on my back, burying the tip so I could lie on it, then one in each breast, then crossed one with another needle to make an "endorphin button" (going in on one side of the first needle, out over the top squeezing the skin between the two, then in/out again). I got a bit of an endorphin buzz, and felt lovely, but didn't go spacy or uncoordinated. I went ahead and did a couple more piercings, on my playpartner, to make sure I was comfortable with the correct procedure on my own without supervision in the future. Then, I removed all of her needles, and my Master took out each of mine.  It felt somewhere between a class and a scene, since there were 3 of us learning, but of course, it was very informal.
The needles felt wonderful, but even better was trusting my Master to try something that I'd had a nasty experience with, analysing what went wrong, trying to take measures to prevent them, but ultimately putting my faith in him to keep me safe and turn it into something good instead. Anyone else have something that they've really disliked or had problems with in the past, but have turned it into something they love?
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Another try after a bad experience - 
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