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RE: Patience in a Dominant. - 10/21/2009 4:45:54 AM

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It's the emotional stuff that comes with his patience that I need. He doesn't lose his temper, he doesn't get frustrated, sarcastic, or bitch at me, he may not be willing to wait more than a minute, but I don't have to deal with him acting like a little kid. And that's the difference between him and others I have known, that his emotions are not wrapped up in 'right now'. If I can't do something today, he's fine with that as long as I'm trying to get there or trying to figure out what the problem is. But he is in this for the long run so if a certain activity happens now, or next month it doesn't matter to him.

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RE: Patience in a Dominant. - 10/21/2009 7:07:45 AM

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He's very impatient. He wants it all and he wants it all right now. He feels as if we're making up for lost time.
It gives everything a little edge. I like 0-180 in five seconds flat.

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RE: Patience in a Dominant. - 10/26/2009 5:34:28 AM

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RE: Patience in a Dominant. - 10/26/2009 6:35:31 AM

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RE: Patience in a Dominant. - 10/26/2009 7:57:08 AM

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Clearly he's hot for sweetsub.

Aaaw. Isn't that special?!

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RE: Patience in a Dominant. - 10/26/2009 8:42:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz
Do you mean ones own discipline as in self control?

Yes. Another poster said it better. I try to keep my eye on the goal. Sometimes that requires that be very, very patient. Other times it requires that I'm not patient at all. The trick is in not reacting to the situation at hand, but considering the options in light of the objectives and acting optimally.

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RE: Patience in a Dominant. - 10/26/2009 9:10:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz

Thanks for the replies and with all of them I agree.
I have to admit that I sometimes read things on here that show signs of very little patience in places where there clearly should be some.

Steve actually has very little patience when it comes to what he considers unreasonable acts by me. He allows nothing to slip and is ever consistent in his expectations. An example of that may be me typing something to these boards and not quite hearing what he is saying to me in the background! With something like that he has absolute zero tolerance.
The things that make him lose his patience never seem to change a jot and I believe that his persistent and unwavering intolerances are the very thing that captured my heart and made me want to get things right. I remember my mum used to say to us 'I see everything because I have eyes in the back of my head'! well he really does have eyes in the back of his head and I absolutely get away with nothing and I say that happily as I don't actually want to get away with anything.

On the other hand he has the patience of a saint when I am upset or need to talk or when he is teaching me how to navigate our boat or how to read weather charts. If I find something difficult he shows endless patience until I get it right.

The combination of the two makes me feel very safe. Its not something I ever looked for or even thought about before meeting Steve and I came into this side of things quite by accident but I can't imagine life without it now.

You are very fortunate to have a D type like that, i am truly happy for you.

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RE: Patience in a Dominant. - 10/26/2009 3:51:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz

How important is patience in a Dominant?
I would say that my partner is the most patient man I have ever met and yet at the same time he is the most impatient.
Is that too cryptic?

I am blessed that my owner is patient with me in certain things. Yet in other things he expects me to simply get it and do it. Period.

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RE: Patience in a Dominant. - 10/26/2009 5:36:27 PM

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as with all teachers, patience is a quality that is desired. however, we all have such in different measures dependant upon the circumstances. i feel patience is deserved for those that try to please but those that choose not to try, but look for the reward of punishment deserve indifference (grin).

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