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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/28/2009 8:51:44 AM   
mnottertail


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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

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ORIGINAL: supportourtroops
I've met no one else on CM that is of interest, but again I could be talking to a 70 year old bald man.



We'll I'm a 65 year old balding man.

Back to your serious question, you don't know anyone online.  I might not even be John Warren.  Until you meet someone in person, interact with him or her AND have a disagreement, you haven't even begun to know someone.






You are not John Warren, Doc? Jeez.....I gotta tell ya, you look just like the spitting image of him, who does your makeup? It is soooooo realistic.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/28/2009 5:05:44 PM   
elleX


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Status: offline 		In my humble opinion where there is no way you can see with a cam , hear on a phone and then move on into reality ,chances are that you waist you time and energy.
And that can hurt you , so be careful


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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/31/2009 2:41:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Usually its best to set up a meet time as soon as possible.  Otherwise you could easily never meet up.......and then its all just fake non-sense.  Unless you just want cyber/cam type games, you must consider meeting as quickly (and safely) as possible otherwise its a waste of everyone's time.  This is from decades of meeting people online, and obviously I'm not the only one who has come to this conclusion.  Don't waste time on fakers....

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/31/2009 4:44:04 PM   
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Greetings all....

I have gotten rid of a lot of scammers who contact me here by saying that I have a policy of requiring an offline meeting within 30 days of them declaring they want to be my slave. I add that I will go to them. Not a one has replied after that. Nothing scares them more than someone coming to check them out. Of course, if you use that line, you have to be willing and able to, as I am, follow through on it. By the way, I have flown across the country to meet someone for lunch and a talk before.

Be well...

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/31/2009 5:06:38 PM   
lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

To the OP:
Why aren't conversations with a webcam or via Skype not being utilized?


I dont do webcam or skype.

Im not seeking to instant message and I am not interested in dirty cam which is what most want when they give you there yahoo or want to webcam.

I dont give my phone number either until after a meet. So people have to actually go through the steps of e-mailing me about themselves and put in the time til I am comfortable. But I will meet within a couple of weeks and if I like them and we hit it off they will get my number, personal e-mail and the keys to the kingdom.:-)

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/31/2009 8:48:04 PM   
blackcat39


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Status: offline 		I've had someone want to meet up, and then stood me up.  Its easy to be faked up on here.  I was actually trying to meet them, and they were intentionally trying to waste my time.  ;0  Oh well.  Sometimes being real has its cost......

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/31/2009 9:36:35 PM   
Rhodes85


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Status: offline 		It could be true. I know quite a few people in Iraq and Afghanistan at the moment. Though I will point out that when any of them aren't going to be around for awhile they usually send an email, post a message or something along those lines to let everyone know. If hes not doing something like this it would get me suspicious. Regardless it should not be hard for him to prove he really is in Afghanistan if he is in fact there. Get him to take a few pictures of a landmark or next to a tank or something with him in the picture. If hes unable to do that its a major red flag.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 11/1/2009 11:49:02 PM   
pompeii


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Status: offline 		The old adage applies ... if she's too good to be true ... (s)he's fake.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 12/22/2009 5:48:54 AM   
sirdan35


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Status: offline 		this is a good question so I want to respond because I deal with many out of the country subs. one way I have found is to tell them you have a friend living close to them and you want them to meet up. by telling them you have friends in their location they will either run (because they are fake) or accept the meet (meaning they are real usually) I have done this many times and I will say I have many nice friends in other countries including ghana btw and I know they are real. don't give up just be cautious and never give out personal info unless your sure who it is. 

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 12/22/2009 7:42:29 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Had you bothered to actually read the thread and others originated by the OP, you'd have found that she was referring to someone who is currently deployed to Afghanistan.  Your little trick wouldn't have worked in that instance.

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ORIGINAL: sirdan35

this is a good question so I want to respond because I deal with many out of the country subs. one way I have found is to tell them you have a friend living close to them and you want them to meet up. by telling them you have friends in their location they will either run (because they are fake) or accept the meet (meaning they are real usually) I have done this many times and I will say I have many nice friends in other countries including ghana btw and I know they are real. don't give up just be cautious and never give out personal info unless your sure who it is. 

I do happen to be curious about what you do should the person you're talking with be legitimate, but you have begun your association with them as a liar.  Unless, of course, you really do have friends in places such as Ghana.


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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 12/22/2009 9:03:22 AM   
osf


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: supportourtroops

How do you know the meet will really take place?

You don't.

And you go from there.



ditto

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 12/22/2009 9:14:10 AM   
osf


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Status: offline 		one problem with online and distance between the parties is that to arrange a meet may require a large investment in time and resources on the part of one or both

having invested time and resources one approaches the meet with hope and expectations that may not be met, so what happens are you going to invest in another meeting?

meeting someone close by requires less resources and time so if things dont meet your expectations the first time you may be willing to try again and have better results

i'm not saying long distance isn't worth a try but these thoughts need to be kept in mind on what to expect the first time

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 12/22/2009 9:16:44 AM   
Phoenixpower


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ORIGINAL: Malkinius

By the way, I have flown across the country to meet someone for lunch and a talk before.

Be well...

Malkinius


I do agree to the view to meet as soon as possible...as nothing is more annoying then wasting your time with a player...And whilst I did travel over the pond to Canada twice in 2008 to meet a so-called-dom...at present I prefer not to bother about it and to wait until I relocated...after my last trip to Canada one bloke from Germany (he was not german but living there) had a mouth as huge as a bulldozer...and was "amazed" that I got rather pissed off about his several delays to meet...6 months later he finally did bother but as he thought he can continue that joke, a la we could meet again next spring then, it was time to let go that loser

So yes...if he can't bother to meet soon, well, then not

I was recently involved with a guy from here but he also only made comments to meet and then kept failing to agree a day...and now he is surprised that I don't waste energy anymore to keep the conversation going

And therefore as I do enjoy my times with C-Dom right now...I am happy to stop being bothered too much right now

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 12/22/2009 10:04:52 AM   
LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: supportourtroops

Your incorrect there are SF Officiers. As for mine the pictures arent fake. I have several in active ACU's in the desert with other Soldiers in his unit. Name, rank, unit, clearly seen on uniform. A group of soldiers dont get together and wear fake uniforms in military airplanes, helicopters, etc. I also have 2 of his official military dress portrait, again rank clear. In acuatality I dont give a shit what his rank or unit is. I just want to know he the person sending the photos and is not married. The End.
The question is again, how do you know the person who is sending the information and photos is the same person???? How many military have you dated? Has been in your family? How many deployments have you been through? My ex DOM of 5 years was military and went through 2 deployments with him, the reason it wasnt a problem??? I knew him PRIOR to being deployed. This is the first time I've met someone online who wasnt in my city to meet face to face. I have zero experience with it or how to tell if they are real. I was under the impression you could come here and ask others for helpful advice. Crazy F*cking ME.


So you have picture proving this is a real person. Terrific. You don't need to have experience telling if someone is "real" or not and let's face it that isn't what you are asking or getting pissy about. You can't tell even face to face if someone is married just upon meeting them.

So what do you do? The answer should be very simple for "Crazy F*cking YOU." Don't submit on line! Keep talking, get to know him and be his friend. Keep all the kinky stuff off the table, no sex talk, just get to know one another. Explain that until you can meet face to face, that's as good as it will get. I'm sure there are times that he can web cam or Skype, but of course not in his "personal quarters" so the complaint here isn't that you can't have the conversation, it is that the two of you can't get naked and cyber sex because others would see. Is that all you want from a guy? Is THAT how you support our troops, by getting them off? Or are you looking to develop a serious relationship with someone?

I will give the guy the benefit of the doubt that he is the guy in the pictures and not some horny kid. But really, if you can't keep all the kink off the table until you can meet face to face, if he isn't willing to go "live" with webcam or Skype just to say hi so the two of you can look at each other, he isn't looking for anything more than you to be his kinky penpal and has little interest in you outside of how you can get him off.

If you are ok with that, then continue to help him jerk off in quarters. If you want more than that, then put your damn clothes on and have a conversation that doesn't involve sex.

It really is THAT simple. You wanted advice, Lady Pact and others who have EXTENSIVE knowledge and experience on relationships with military personnel have given it to you. I don't give a dung beetle's droppings whether he is military or not, or how long it may or may not be before a face to face can happen. You are a 41 year old woman, if you can't talk to the guy about anything but sex then you both are getting what you put into it and ten months from now if you do meet him face to face the only interest he will have is getting in your pants. It's that f*cking simple.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 12/22/2009 10:52:07 AM   
GYPSYMAMBO


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ORIGINAL: Malkinius

I have gotten rid of a lot of scammers who contact me here by saying that I have a policy of requiring an offline meeting within 30 days of them declaring they want to be my slave. IMalkinius


I do the same for long ditance ppl..and if they are in my city I say within a week...
I also say for ditance ppl that I will pay half or reemburse ticket fees WHEN they get here..
 
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< Message edited by GYPSYMAMBO -- 12/22/2009 10:53:01 AM >

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 12/23/2009 11:31:57 AM   
twoshoes41


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Status: offline 		well i know i am real or i would have use a better picture then one of myself

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