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Sylverdawn -> RE: When do I stop inquiring about Dommes? (11/2/2009 7:08:09 AM)

shrugs.. I dont see it... Your friend shelley ( aka  collarme.cm ) sets you up on a blind date with Fred ...just a cup of coffee says shelley to see if you like each other.. and you and Fred are supposed stop seeing anyone else .. nah.. thats not realistic.. because basically thats what the first meeting is a blind date...you dont really know anything about the other person other than what shelley has told you.. but thats just my pov.




TheMistressKay -> RE: When do I stop inquiring about Dommes? (11/2/2009 7:52:20 AM)

You know what? I haven't seen this posted yet (but I only skimmed) but I say you should ask. If she's considering collaring you, she may take offense to you seeking out other Dommes while you're in the consideration period. She may not care until you've been collared. It's a personal preference thing, and you'd just be best off asking her what she would prefer. 




undergroundsea -> RE: When do I stop inquiring about Dommes? (11/2/2009 8:07:41 AM)

For internet introductions, I keep my expectations about chemistry in check and treat the first meeting as simply a social conversation to learn more about one another. In my opinion, the process of determining chemistry and compatibility extends up to and past the first meeting. I do not assume that I am the only person with whom the domme is speaking or seeing when we first meet, and allow the same for myself. Thus, I think it is reasonable to continue to converse with more than potential partner especially if you have not yet met in person.

If the compatibility with the first domme takes off, you would then have to tell the second domme that another dialog you have been pursuing is looking or has become promising. Some people, women and men, instead pull the disappearing act to implicitly deliver a similar message, which is not as courteous. If you wish to avoid such a scenario, a week is not too long to wait.

Cheers,

Sea




Andalusite -> RE: When do I stop inquiring about Dommes? (11/2/2009 8:07:54 AM)

When I was looking, I made it clear I wasn't comfortable with a one-sided commitment. I had one person who I knew through more vanilla circumstances, although he was kinky, seem interested, then turn out to want more of a playpartner/fwb situation, and I happened to run into several people who had "a collar of consideration" turn into keeping them off the market while their partner kept looking. It took about a month and a half of dating before we made a commitment to each other, and I did go on a few other dates, with clear communication with him and them.




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