hopelesslyInvo
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ORIGINAL: EncasedForever I'm a little puzzled about this. I wrote a pro-domme a couple times on here (won't say who it is), she showed interest. She told me to call her, I did, we set up an on-going sessions deal (as long as the first one goes well) with the first session a couple weeks in advance (being that I don't live alone so I have to plan accordingly). I wanted to call her again to further discuss session details and such, but she recommended calling a day before session. Being that I don't live alone and can't make calls anytime I please so I wrote her on collarme explaining this and asked if she had some form of instant messenger or aim because it would be easier that way. What happened is that she read that message and didnt respond. 2-3 days later, I wrote her again just to follow up because I hadn't heard from her, 2 days after that she reads it but doesn't respond (again). i think the others have missed the point i'm seeing, but i started skimming after a while so who knows. it's obvious she reads her damn mail, that's how you communicated in the beginning. the reasons she asks you to call is probably going to look like this. 1. assurance of hearing her voice. 2. professionalism. 3. time is money. 4. speech is the quickest way to exchange information and reach agreements. and even at that, anyone who's made business plans knows it's a good idea to reaffirm it the day before in case there are last minute details to discuss, and just to be sure you are in fact coming to the appointment. the obvious thing that kills me on the level of common sense is that you already know that writing on cm is an effective way of communicating with her because you've already used it and is how you first started, and you could have just told her anything you had to say in the 2 messages you sent. contact only even went outside of cm because of her. it's painfully stupid when people say things like "we need to talk; i have something to tell you and it can't wait", or they send a text message to your phone saying "call me", or write emails saying "instead of me typing in this box, why don't i hassle you to go jumping through hoops, then i'll hop through a few myself, then i'll type in some other box in the exact same fashion as i'm doing now FOR A ONE TIME OCCASION". instead of telling her what i'm sure is nothing less than amazingly important details on collarme... which consists of you sitting on your computer in front a screen typing it out, you want to move a "conversation" over to an instant messenger which consists of you sitting on your computer in front a screen typing it out. even if she wasn't taking this as "oh god, now he thinks i'm his new best friend and wants me on his buddy list; what next... is he going to want to forward me the "funny and cute emails" his family sends him?", she still has to sit there and say "is he seriously this dense?". you wrote on cm and talked, then called on the phone and talked, now you've written on cm asking her to download and sign up for an im client so you can talk; what IS next? are you going to call and leave an message on her answering machine to let her know she has an email, with which the email ends up being "you have a new message from EncasedForever on CollarMe", and which the message on cm consists of "didn't see you on yahoo last night, but i left you something on there", which in her offline messages ends up saying "hey i wrote you a letter the other day, it should arrive in a few days", and when the post office gets that letter to her it says "i sent a carrier pigeon to japan, where upon arrival a fine calligrapher will be writing 'very important details' for our meeting on a piece of parchment and tucking it into a bottle to throw out at sea. when you get the bottle, let me know if there are any problems." stop playing around with contact games and just TELL HER if there's something so consequential that it can't wait untill the phone call that SHE INSISTED ON YOU MAKING ANYWAY. if it seems stupid to imagine going to a medical web site, emailing a doctor listed there, then calling them to set up an appointment date, and have them tell you they will call back the day before the appointment to confirm you will be there and find out if there has been anything else they should be made aware of, and in turn you go home and email the doctor again asking him if they'd like to chat on msn one night about how you'd feel more comfortable if the doctor would pinch your nipples before asking you to take a deep breath or to open your mouth and say ahhhhh~... then what you're doing here should look just as stupid unless you're not actually looking at her as a professional. but even if you do look at her with the wrong view (in which case, any and all lack of complete attachment with this woman pretty much annihilates even the most avid supporter that this isn't cheating on your partner (which if it isn't a significant other, there's about jack and shit of an issue with someone just "knowing" you're on the phone or that it's a female; coupled by the fact you can apparently hide on the computer away from your "whoever" easy enough))... it still doesn't change the fact that you could have just told her at any damn time by writing a message on cm if it was so bloody important it couldn't wait till the phone call you already have to make. quote:
I don't want to keep writing to her and no response, it would make me look desperate and stupid I think. Your thoughts? Any idea why this sorta thing would happen? too late. and it happens because unlike for you; this isn't her first dance. and yes, i know that comes off as "harsh"
< Message edited by hopelesslyInvo -- 11/13/2009 5:35:56 PM >
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