AquaticSub
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ORIGINAL: maugseros Could d/s dating be described as saying that the man, shortly into the relationship, is going to remove this "deciding" power from her that our society/culture has bestowed upon her? Just a thought... :) As a woman in d/s dating... I have to say I completely disagree with that. When it comes down it to, the men still outnumber the women in general. I'm married and listed as only looking for poly women yet I still get e-mails (usually 2 or 3 a day) trying to get in my pants and have me as their own. In terms of dating, I've still got the power to decide who and when I fuck and, for now anyway, I've still got plenty of options. When I lose the power to decide is when I select my owner. Now, I also wouldn't say that the dominant man is powerless either, or that any man is. He is also deciding something. He is deciding if she's worth a relationship, if he wants to stick around, if what she brings to the table is worth it. If they have sex, is that all it will be or will there be a more emotional commitment on his part? The sex part, typically made by the woman, isn't the whole part of dating.
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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair
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